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Relationships
A Liberating New Approach to Dating for Lonely Women

Rachel Allyn Ph.D. on April 12, 2026

There's a growing trend of selective women who find themselves happily single, no longer buying into the old messages that their worth and validity come from being partnered.

There's a growing trend of selective women who find themselves happily single, no longer buying into the old messages that their worth and validity come from being partnered.

Boundaries
When Boundaries Are Weaponized

Rachel Allyn Ph.D. on December 8, 2025

Boundaries are becoming more prevalent on social media as pseudo-empowerment, too often used to cancel people, exert control, and avoid accountability.

Boundaries are becoming more prevalent on social media as pseudo-empowerment, too often used to cancel people, exert control, and avoid accountability.

Decision-Making
Breaking Free From Indecision

Rachel Allyn Ph.D. on November 10, 2025

Facing a difficult decision doesn't have to put you in a tailspin. Learn how it can be an opportunity to empower yourself and create the life you want.

Facing a difficult decision doesn't have to put you in a tailspin. Learn how it can be an opportunity to empower yourself and create the life you want.

Relationships
Stop Trying to Fix Your Partner. Here Are 5 Tips to Help

Rachel Allyn Ph.D. on June 25, 2024

Love doulas are people who spend years in romantic relationships trying to heal their partner, stuck in a fantasy of fixing them. It doesn't work. It's time to heal yourself.

Love doulas are people who spend years in romantic relationships trying to heal their partner, stuck in a fantasy of fixing them. It doesn't work. It's time to heal yourself.

Menopause
Perimenopause Strategies to Help Women Thrive

Rachel Allyn Ph.D. on March 25, 2024

The years leading to menopause can be a confusing and challenging time for many women. There is now increasing help for the ways women can cope during this rite of passage.

The years leading to menopause can be a confusing and challenging time for many women. There is now increasing help for the ways women can cope during this rite of passage.

A break from alcohol could lead to mental and physical benefits.
Alcoholism
Five Reasons to Take a Break from Booze

Rachel Allyn Ph.D. on January 3, 2024

You may hear people talking about Dry January. Folks who don't consider themselves alcoholics are deciding to shift their relationship with alcohol.

You may hear people talking about Dry January. Folks who don't consider themselves alcoholics are deciding to shift their relationship with alcohol.

Psychedelics
Magic Mushrooms: Where Nature Meets Nurture Within Us

Rachel Allyn Ph.D. on December 5, 2023

During our era of discord, the psychedelic plant magic mushrooms holds promise to guide us towards individual and collective healing through greater interconnection.

During our era of discord, the psychedelic plant magic mushrooms holds promise to guide us towards individual and collective healing through greater interconnection.

Relationships
Twin Flame, Karmic, and Soulmate Relationships

Rachel Allyn Ph.D. on October 31, 2023

Some relationships are life-changing but can be heart-wrenching on your path to transformation. Here are three relationship descriptions to help you find clarity on your journey.

Some relationships are life-changing but can be heart-wrenching on your path to transformation. Here are three relationship descriptions to help you find clarity on your journey.

Trauma
3 Ways to Free Yourself From Chronic People-Pleasing

Rachel Allyn Ph.D. on May 8, 2023

Learn where people-pleasing tendencies come from, why they can be harmful to your health, and how you can set yourself free with three crucial steps.

Learn where people-pleasing tendencies come from, why they can be harmful to your health, and how you can set yourself free with three crucial steps.

Trauma
What You Should Know About the Psychedelic Ayahuasca

Rachel Allyn Ph.D. on August 11, 2022

Are you curious about the psychedelic that celebrities, like football star Aaron Rodgers, have credited with improving their career and mental health?

Are you curious about the psychedelic that celebrities, like football star Aaron Rodgers, have credited with improving their career and mental health?

Emotions
The Important Difference Between Emotions and Feelings

Rachel Allyn Ph.D. on February 23, 2022

Whether you numb your feelings or struggle to keep them from overwhelming you, developing emotional awareness can keep you balanced and true to yourself.

Whether you numb your feelings or struggle to keep them from overwhelming you, developing emotional awareness can keep you balanced and true to yourself.

Anger
Ways to Manage Pandemic Agitation

Rachel Allyn Ph.D. on January 10, 2022

Are you struggling with uncertainty fatigue and the ongoing lack of control? Here’s how you can reclaim emotional balance and a sense of agency.

Are you struggling with uncertainty fatigue and the ongoing lack of control? Here’s how you can reclaim emotional balance and a sense of agency.

Gender
Does Bumble Reject or Perpetuate Gender Roles?

Rachel Allyn Ph.D. on December 22, 2021

If you're a high-achieving woman who regularly empowers yourself at work, you're not alone in wanting to be pursued when it comes to dating.

If you're a high-achieving woman who regularly empowers yourself at work, you're not alone in wanting to be pursued when it comes to dating.

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