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Attention
The Secret Psychology Behind the NBA Finals

Jonathan Fader Ph.D. on June 10, 2018

We all want to know how basketball legends like Lebron James and Steph Curry prepare for all important games. Their physical preparation is evident. How to they prepare mentally?

We all want to know how basketball legends like Lebron James and Steph Curry prepare for all important games. Their physical preparation is evident. How to they prepare mentally?

Relationships
Three Signs You Are Winning at Life

Jonathan Fader Ph.D. on November 26, 2017

Looking to get a great job, earn more money, or buy a new house or car? You're likely on the wrong track.

Looking to get a great job, earn more money, or buy a new house or car? You're likely on the wrong track.

Stress
How to Win the Weekend in 3 Steps

Jonathan Fader Ph.D. on April 28, 2017

Had a long week of work or relationship stress? Take a few minutes to practice these three strategies to make your Saturday and Sunday more enjoyable and satisfying.

Had a long week of work or relationship stress? Take a few minutes to practice these three strategies to make your Saturday and Sunday more enjoyable and satisfying.

Depression
Winter Blues or Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)?

Jonathan Fader Ph.D. on February 13, 2017

Do you have winter blues or Seasonal Affective Disorder? Whichever it is, you will find some practical steps here to dig yourself out of the snow.

Do you have winter blues or Seasonal Affective Disorder? Whichever it is, you will find some practical steps here to dig yourself out of the snow.

Play
Four Ways to Help Your Kid to Be the Best Player on the Team

Jonathan Fader Ph.D. on October 24, 2016

You are your kid's most important coach. Learn how performance psychologists and mental conditioning coaches help youth athletes and parents to work together to develop talent.

You are your kid's most important coach. Learn how performance psychologists and mental conditioning coaches help youth athletes and parents to work together to develop talent.

Play
How to Stop Choking Under Pressure

Jonathan Fader Ph.D. on July 19, 2015

Every athlete in the world, at one time or another, has choked under pressure. Sometimes, athletes are able to bounce back.

Every athlete in the world, at one time or another, has choked under pressure. Sometimes, athletes are able to bounce back.

Motivation
What Seinfeld Understood About Motivation and Psychology

Jonathan Fader Ph.D. on April 29, 2015

There aren’t many life lessons that haven’t been covered in Seinfeld. But Jerry Seinfeld, the real person, had another life lesson to offer off the air to one aspiring comic.

There aren’t many life lessons that haven’t been covered in Seinfeld. But Jerry Seinfeld, the real person, had another life lesson to offer off the air to one aspiring comic.

Relationships
3 Signs That Your Relationship Is Built to Last

Jonathan Fader Ph.D. on April 8, 2015

What is the secret to a long lasting, happy relationship? Psychologists and relationship experts are always scrambling to find the answer to all relationship woes.

What is the secret to a long lasting, happy relationship? Psychologists and relationship experts are always scrambling to find the answer to all relationship woes.

Stress
The Psychology of Spring Cleaning

Jonathan Fader Ph.D. on April 3, 2015

For many of us the onset of spring is a reminder to start our annual spring overhauls – decluttering, organizing, and cleaning.

For many of us the onset of spring is a reminder to start our annual spring overhauls – decluttering, organizing, and cleaning.

Relationships
How Valentine's Day Is Ruining Relationships

Jonathan Fader Ph.D. on March 27, 2015

Studies have shown that couples are more likely to break up in the weeks before and after Valentine’s Day. Why does this happen, and what can we do about it?

Studies have shown that couples are more likely to break up in the weeks before and after Valentine’s Day. Why does this happen, and what can we do about it?

Career
How Music Can Help You Get Ahead, The Right Way

Jonathan Fader Ph.D. on March 13, 2015

Music can often boost, or hurt, performance. So what do professionals and athletes need to know about the benefits and traps of using music to motivate?

Music can often boost, or hurt, performance. So what do professionals and athletes need to know about the benefits and traps of using music to motivate?

Fear
How Playing Baseball in Prison Can Help You Face Your Fears

Jonathan Fader Ph.D. on March 5, 2015

Not many people like to socialize with some of the nation’s most notorious criminals. Even fewer challenge them to a competition.

Not many people like to socialize with some of the nation’s most notorious criminals. Even fewer challenge them to a competition.

Meditation
Why My New Year’s Resolution is to Meditate Every Day

Jonathan Fader Ph.D. on December 31, 2014

As the science piles on about the benefits of mindfulness meditation, I've decided to practice what I preach.

As the science piles on about the benefits of mindfulness meditation, I've decided to practice what I preach.

Happiness
Stop Giving Gifts: Unlocking Joy this Holiday Season

Jonathan Fader Ph.D. on December 23, 2014

What does psychology tell us about giving gifts? As it turns out, we might be doing it all wrong. Giving "stuff" isn't what makes us happy, so what kind of giving does?

What does psychology tell us about giving gifts? As it turns out, we might be doing it all wrong. Giving "stuff" isn't what makes us happy, so what kind of giving does?

Happiness
3 Ways to Talk Yourself Out of a Bad Mood

Jonathan Fader Ph.D. on December 4, 2014

Getting out of a bad mood is a skill like anything else in life—developing techniques and practicing them are key. So what are some ways to lift yourself up?

Getting out of a bad mood is a skill like anything else in life—developing techniques and practicing them are key. So what are some ways to lift yourself up?