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What To Do About a Small Penis

When size is a concern.

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The size of a man's penis is an objective concern for intercourse only in the case of small penis syndrome. In fact, the average erect penis is a lot smaller than hitherto thought, and men worry due to erroneous information on the subject.
For years medical books reported that the average erect penis was 5.88 inches long, leading a lot of men to worry about their size. This figure, however, was the result of self-measurement, which is notoriously unreliable.
Research based on actual measurement suggests that the average erect penis is 5.2 inches long. That's just a bit longer than 13 cm—a lot shorter than most people's hands, measured from the wrist to the end of the middle finger.

women do occasionally complain about a small penis. Laura recently expressed her worries as follows:

I am head over heels for my husband, we have an amazing relationship. But from the beginning when we first started dating, I noticed immediately that we didn’t really click when it came to matters of the sack. I think it might have something to do with the fact that the guy I was with before him was a lot… eh…. bigger.

Laura may well be misjudging the size of her husband's penis, given her recent sexual encounter. But not all men are built the same. So it is, of course, possible that her issue is a real one.

The issue of size, when it occurs, is a difficult one to deal with. Men can’t (easily) change how nature created them. Penis extension devices, such as Andropenis, and penis extension surgery carry with them significant inconvenience and risk. So, if size is an issue, the trick is to find ways to make up for the lack in volume without medical intervention. In most cases choice of sexual position can make up for a lack in size.

The main problem with a small penis is that you can’t get deep penetration as easily. In that case, the solution may be positions that allow for deeper entrance, for instance:

  1. The missionary position but with a large pillow under the woman's bottom.
  2. Doggy style with the woman's legs together.
  3. The woman lying face down with her legs together and the man entering her from behind with his knees outside the woman's legs.

Or you can experiment with anal sex. The anus is a lot tighter than the vagina. Small is likely an advantage when it comes to backdoor entrance.

Finally, it should be mentioned that not all women are turned on by a large penis. Some are terrified by the thought of a very long member. And in terms of satisfaction, the girth or thickness of a penis matters a lot more than length. For many women, feeling "full" is much more important than being fully penetrated, especially because the most anterior parts of the vagina have nerve endings that are lacking in the back.

Berit "Brit" Brogaard is the author of On Romantic Love