It is about this time, when a young person reaches the mid-twenties that the effects of growing up in an addictive home become apparent. These now adult children begin to experience a sense of loneliness, that doesn’t make sense to them. They become aware of feelings, that separate them from others and often may find themselves depressed.
It's a good feeling to know you can rely on your mom or dad - someone who's in control when things start to feel out of control. But some kids don't know that feeling. The reason: They have a parent who's not in control. And that parent is not in control because he or she is an alcoholic.
Abandonment experiences and boundary violations are in no way indictments of a child's innate goodness and value. Instead, they reveal the flawed thinking, false beliefs, and impaired behaviors of those who hurt them.