I heard this story 18 years ago, and was deeply moved by the drama these young boys endured for the better part of day. One of them would later relate that it felt as they were reliving the book "The Lord of the Flies."
Motivation is the process of solving problems. The contrast between ‘what we want’ and ‘what we have’ is what motivates us. The contrast is the problem. The more the contrast, the stronger the motivation.
Getting all your ducks in a row before you can start is a problem with perfectionism. And, perfectionism is procrastination. You are procrastinating because you have a fear of failure. You are looking at the big picture, when all you need to look at is the first step.
Worry stems from our fear of the unknown. It is the anticipation of potential negative outcomes. Worry in small doses is normal. It is tied to our sense of caution. Too much worry, however, creates stress; and stress shuts down our ability...
Thinking like an innovator means exposing yourself to unusual things, new experiences, and different points of view. It’s a lifestyle that sets the stage for creative thinking. New concepts generally come from...
The torture device looked medieval. It was wedge-shaped, and about the size of a large bread box. It appeared to be made of dark gray iron, and sat upon a wheeled cart. I could see the platform on which an innocent child’s hands would be placed, as well as the knobs that were used for cranking down the heavy metal lid which would squeeze flesh and bone until broken.
One of the challenges of being a leader to volunteers is that you do not have the traditional inducements of the carrot and the stick. You must motivate with authenticity. The good news is, that once you learn how, you will be able to use this method even when you do have the traditional ones.
Tom’s board spun out from under his feet as he attempted to surf the large wave. As he plunged backward into the roiling surf, he was frustrated once again by the lack of stability from his traditional Hawaiian style surfboard.
I kept thinking that at some point I would accumulate enough knowledge that I could do the work fearlessly. Instead, I spent tons of time in preparation, and little time in actually doing. As a result I failed.
Bullies and their victims are opposite sides of the same coin. The problem for both of them is essentially the same. They both crave positive recognition, but they both lack self-confidence and the social skills to acquire what they need. The solution is twofold...
When children do not conform or are genuinely unique (in whatever way), the other children will pitch in by bullying them back into conformity. Those on the sidelines learn quickly what is expected and what will not be tolerated.