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Terri Orbuch, Ph.D.
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3 Romantic Tips For The Holidays

Romance: Is It Possible For Couples Over the Holidays?

The holiday season is typically a time of great stress for many people. You know what I mean - the whirlwind of shopping, gift-giving, holiday parties, cooking, and family gatherings. But what about romance and time alone with your partner? Is it even possible over the holidays?

Before you get back to your gift wrapping responsibilities, don't forget that it is possible and necessary! Time alone - just the two of you - is still important during this season. It doesn't have to be for a long period of time - even a few hours - just enough to reconnect and make sure each of you knows how much you appreciate one another. Here are 3 simple romantic things to do with your sweetheart over the holidays:

1. My date, your date. Reciprocity is a great way to strengthen your emotional connection. Each partner writes down a date idea, and you exchange notes. She wants to go on a hike (even though he's a couch potato). He wants to visit the football hall of fame (even though the last player she could name was Joe Namath). Take time for your date or make plans to fulfill your honey's wish in 2011. Schedule it on the calendar. You'll learn something wonderful about your mate, and you'll feel closer.

2. Share a brand-new activity. Research shows that engaging in an activity that is new to both partners triggers emotions that are similar to the ones you had when you first met. So, go to a new restaurant. Visit a nearby museum you've never been to. Take a cooking class or go out dancing. This new activity will feel like a first date--and you and your partner will get to feel excited all over again.

3. Scream or sweat. Rent a scary movie, ride a roller coaster, go to the gym together, or find another activity that causes your adrenaline to surge. Studies have found that the chemicals associated with fear or exercise are similar to those that inspire sexual arousal. If you want to jump-start a romantic evening, get scared or sweat together!

About the Author
Terri Orbuch, Ph.D.

Terri Orbuch, Ph.D., is an Oakland University professor and research professor at The University of Michigan.

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