There are ways to temper your toughest critic and take constructive control of your feelings.
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A chronicle of my attempts to test-drive every tip, principle and scientific study that promotes happiness
Managing this kind of paper clutter is difficult, but so rewarding.
From my experience—both as the clutter-clearer myself, and as the friend who's helping—I think it can often be helpful to have a companion.
For many, one of the biggest happiness challenges of the holidays is dealing with difficult relatives.
People often ask me, "How do I make more time for myself? How do I put myself first?"
Rebels want to do what they want to do, in their own way, in their own time.
As an Upholder myself, I’ve certainly gained tremendously from studying the Rebel perspective. We’re more free than we think.
Perhaps it seems unlikely, but it’s true — the Four Tendencies framework sheds light on all these questions.
Do you want to make a significant change in your life? Or help someone else to make an important change?
What I want most for my daughter and all these kids is for them to go forth unafraid, strong with love and strong with learning.
It’s not a Peter Pan, refusing-to-accept-responsibility feeling; it’s that feeling that nothing is yet real or permanent, but that someday, it will become real and permanent.
To my mind, the writer’s problem is not “I’m lazy,” it’s “I need accountability.”
What advice would you give to a graduate?
Whenever an Obliger struggles to get something done, the solution is always the same: external accountability. It’s just a question of figuring out what form it’s going to take.
Instead of thinking about motivation, I argue that we should think about aims, and then concrete, practical, realistic steps to take us closer to our aims.
Creating outer order gives a huge boost in energy, cheer, and creativity.
If someone asked you, “What’s the most important thing you’ve learned about happiness?” what would you answer?
What hooks do you use to help yourself see the world more vividly?
What is self-acceptance, really? Or self-knowledge? A mystery.
How would you fill in the blank?
It’s important to realize why we feel lonely, because only then can we see how we might address it.
By figuring out easy, quick ways to make it faster to head out the door, we can give ourselves a bigger margin of time.
Ancient philosophers and contemporary scientists agree: a key to happiness is strong relationships, and if we’re in a romantic relationship, it has a big influence on our happiness
Remembering that funny house brought back happy memories, of all those car trips to the mall with my sister and mother.
Certain days, such as January 1 or the celebration of a birthday, often remind us to reflect on our lives and our hopes for the future.
When we know ourselves, we can set up a resolution in the way that’s right for us. It’s not that hard to keep our resolutions, and to change our habits — when we know what to do.
Take these tips into consideration when you're seeking the perfect gift this holiday season.
Here are some strategies for keeping Thanksgiving dinner — or any holiday gathering, at any time of the year — pleasant.
For some reason, this hallway smelled exactly like the hospital where I worked as a candy-striper in high school.
This is the right way to use the end of Daylight Savings Time, and to build momentum for the months ahead.
Celebrating minor holidays is one way to make time stand out. Because this day was unusual, it’s more memorable.
Gretchen Rubin is the author of The Happiness Project and Better than Before, a New York Times bestseller that explains how to form good habits and break bad ones.