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Back to School for Children With Anxiety Disorders

Coronavirus pandemic restrictions can help or hinder.

  • One in 140 children has selective mutism (SM), a form of anxiety making them unable to speak in public.
  • Some of these children have improved during online learning, using technology to talk to their teachers.
  • Teachers can continue to encourage kids with SM to speak during in-person school by meeting with them one-on-one.

Parents fear children stuck at home for a year during the coronavirus pandemic will lose critical social skills. Children with selective mutism, a severe form of anxiety , may lose even more.

As schools reopen, everyone wears masks, students sit far apart , and teachers may stay behind plastic barriers . In many schools, students eat at their desks , if they eat at school at all. Forget about normal recess . Parents are concerned about how their children will manage.

Best estimates predict 1 in 140 children have selective mutism, an under-recognized disability often misdiagnosed as shyness or stubbornness. Some kids say few words in public, while others are so anxious, they cannot nod or point.

Selective Mutism at Home and in the Classroom

In class, children with selective mutism can’t tell a teacher they don’t understand. They will not speak when they are hurt or being bullied. Many cannot ask to go to the bathroom and have accidents.

Virtual learning has helped some children with selective mutism. Students can use chatboxes to communicate. Some upload recordings of themselves, avoiding the anxiety of live participation.

“She has made a lot of improvements talking to more friends on FaceTime. She said she likes distance learning,” says Heather Blaha of her 7-year-old daughter.

For children who have adjusted positively to the new learning environment, parents are choosing an alternative school, home school, or distance learning over traditional in-person public school. For instance, when school restarted, Heather chose to keep her daughter at home.

Suzanne Solorzano’s son, a high school freshman, could not speak to a screen full of people. He logged off Zoom once students had to introduce themselves. Eventually, his teachers allowed him to use the chatbox to communicate, and now he’s doing well in most of his classes. Spanish is still tricky—he’s supposed to repeat what the teacher says.

Janet’s 10-year-old son rarely speaks in public. When he was in first grade, she asked the school if he had a speech delay. The evaluation stalled because he would not talk during the assessment. Because he spoke both English and Chinese at home, they assumed he had no delay. Year after year, he didn’t improve.

“People would stand in front of him and talk to him, but he would just stare at them or stare at the ground,” she says.

Now in fourth grade, her son is still waiting for his promised reassessment (which has been further delayed due to the pandemic) but received a selective mutism diagnosis from a child psychologist.

While her son soared academically online, Janet worries about his isolation. She plans to send him back to school as soon as it opens.

Elizabeth says after years of selective mutism, her daughter was talking outside the home.

“We used to practice a lot of exposures out in the community. That helped build momentum. All of that stopped,” says Elizabeth. Her daughter uses masks as an excuse not to talk and refuses to turn on her computer camera for class.

She’s worried about school in the fall.

“We’ll enter a new middle school, multiple teachers, and 1,600 kids,” says Elizabeth. “They’re no longer just finding each other on the playground. My daughter asked, ‘How do I make new friends?’”

Moving Through School

Kerry Kolda, a fourth-grade teacher in San Jose, Calif., teaches a student with selective mutism online. She wishes they could be in the same classroom, even with masks and a plexiglass barrier. Right now, he won’t even interact with a close friend during breakout sessions.

“I feel like if he was with me, a lot of this wouldn’t be manifesting so horribly,” Kolda says.

 Kerry Kolda, used with permission
"It's probably not CDC approved," says teacher Kerry Kolda of her mobile plastic barrier.
Source: Kerry Kolda, used with permission

Kolda says schools like hers often lack enough resources to help children with selective mutism succeed. Her advice is to seek a formal evaluation from a doctor, find a psychologist familiar with selective mutism, and talk to other parents.

“Often with these kinds of disorders, there’s still a stigma. Sometimes parents don’t seek help,” she says.

Early intervention is important to avoid academic problems and other psychiatric disorders .

“It scares me. Because middle school is not kind to anyone, let alone someone with anxiety or depression or selective mutism. If they don’t have the right tools in their toolkit leaving elementary, it can have devastating consequences,” says Kolda.

Accessible Virtual Visits

Catherine Eckel, a clinical psychologist in Los Gatos, Calif., says some patients have improved during online learning. These children have been able to use technology to talk to their teachers. They have been able to advance to small online groups and then larger groups. Although chatboxes can help, Eckel says children should maintain short but frequent vocal interactions with their teachers and other students.

“My goal is always to work toward verbalization and not use tools that allow them to continue to avoid speaking,” says Eckel.

Video visits made treatment more accessible. To transition from online to in-person learning, Eckel recommends the child and teacher safely meet a few times one-on-one. In the classroom is best, but restrictions may require an outdoor meeting. Giving teachers information on how to encourage speech, placing the student in class with a child they have spoken with in the past, and coaching children to speak louder when wearing a mask so they don’t have to repeat themselves will help the transition back to in-person learning.

“We don’t want everyone to assume that because the child’s speaking online, they’ll speak in person,” says Eckel. “When that happens, they’ll start avoiding speaking to their teacher when they go back.”

Emily Doll, a speech and language therapist active in the Selective Mutism Association , says many parents shun school services because of outdated views about special education.

“They hear ‘special education’ and they think ‘they’re going to pull my kid out of their classroom, they’re going to put them somewhere down in the basement,’” says Doll.

She has seen that with a coordinated effort from parents, teachers, psychologists, and specialists like herself, kids with SM can learn how to speak in school, even in a pandemic. The children benefit most when the team uses a two-pronged approach.

“Acknowledge that this is something really challenging, but also acknowledge that they have the skills to do it successfully,” she says. “That might look like saying, ‘I know you're really anxious about going back to school tomorrow, it's been a really long time since you've been in that building. But I know you're super brave, and you've gotten through lots of other first days of school before, and you'll be able to do it again.’”

A version of this post also appears on The Conversation.

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