There is nothing wrong with desires and pleasure seeking; it is perfectly normal to want wonderful things and experiences. But longing to repeat an experience that has already happened is a type of pleasure-seeking that can leave us feeling miserable. Our minds become so focused on repeating a past experience that we that we can’t appreciate the new moment we are in.
Sometimes it is hard to see the positive side of life when you feel disappointed or an unexpected event leaves you feeling alone and groundless. You want to feel optimistic but you just don’t see how life will change or what could possibly make things better. This is a perfect moment to let Maybe into your life.
We can feel overwhelmed and stressed during uncertain and challenging times. Our fear of how things will work out and what it will mean for our lives can make it hard to gain perspective. Is there a mindset that can ease our minds and offer us hope and possibility in any situation? MAYBE there is.
As our children are heading back to school, they may already appear a little more stressed. Within weeks of school starting, our children can become irritable, sleep less and you may notice things getting out of whack with family life at home. Here are six tips you can use to help reduce your child's stress so they can feel more balanced and get their work done.
We can feel angry and frustrated when our children do not clean their rooms, put the dishes in the sink or do their other chores. What would happen if we see their mess as a blessing? It could be the key to less emotional suffering and experiencing more joy each day we spend with our children.
The desire for appreciation and respect from others often stems from a fear that things are not all right. We are afraid that we're not who we should be or we're not accomplishing enough with our lives. Yet the trap is that we can’t always get from others what we are looking for and must look within in order to find any semblance of stability and freedom.
Many of us lose perspective in the situations we are dealing with in our lives, no matter what they are. A particular situation becomes all-consuming and we start to believe that we need it to work out a particular way for our lives to be okay. How can we create some separation from our problems to gain a new perspective and relieve some of our stress and worry?
When we can release our expectations and help another person with the pure intention of just giving, it can be one of the most thrilling aspects of our lives, even when we get nothing in return. As Winston Churchill said, “We make a living by what we get. We make a life by what we give.”
It can be tough to let go of expectations and attachments when the unexpected happens. Yet, if we can find a mantra or a tool to help us let go of our thoughts about what might have been, we often make room to embrace whatever we are experiencing. We can come to the moment with an open heart and avail ourselves to all that is possible.
Sometimes it's hard to imagine how someone else could have another perspective when we feel so right about how we perceive a situation. But if we are willing to pause and think about why the other person feels the way that they do, we might open our hearts a bit and realize MAYBE there is more to the situation than meets the eye.
So what is the key to internal freedom and joy? In a word, it is acceptance. Acceptance does not change your passion or need for change, but allows you to “show up” in the moment with peace about what is, and strength and focus to make things different.
"If You Judge People, You Have No Time To Love Them." Mother Teresa Our judgments interfere with many of our relationships. Often we get so consumed with everything our spouse, child, friend or co-worker is not doing right, that we often forget to see what is special and wonderful about them.
As our minds get consumed with stressful thoughts at home or work, this is the moment when we are most in danger of overreacting to situations like our children not listening, a disagreement with a co-worker or a difficult client. Here is a tool to help you show up with more ease, patience and kindness in all of your daily interactions.