Dr. Lara Honos-Webb

Lara Honos-Webb Ph.D.

The Gift of ADHD

Knowing Awe Is Better Than Knowing It All

Don't sell yourself short with the passionless pursuit of superiority

Posted Nov 30, 2011

For me living in awe is living in your Sweet Spot - where your passion meets your purpose.

What is the difference between living in your Sweet Spot and living in the zone of "Scraping By Just Fine Ma'am"?  In your Sweet Spot you feel a sense of awe and mystery. You feel like you can never get enough, never know enough because it is not something to get on top of, its something that takes you somewhere that you trust because you feel so alive in your Sweet Spot. If you feel like you can never get enough of something, you know there is nothing else out there for you to do.

I remember when a friend of mine was getting married and someone compared her marriage to shopping for earrings and asked "I understand that you might find a pair of earrings you really like but aren't you scared that down the line you'll find another pair of earrings you like better?"

The bride-to-be told our friend that if she spent her whole life with her husband it would still feel like it could never be enough time with him. She felt like she just couldn't get enough of him. So she would not be looking for anything else.

 I guess one way to know you are NOT in your Sweet Spot is by noticing that you are constantly looking for something else. If you need to be a Know-It-All you may be driven by a need to be superior to others. Living a life with the purpose of outsmarting others is not really that smart. You are selling yourself short if you believe that your purpose is only to be better than others.

 If you can't stop asking yourself "Is this for real?" you might just be in your Sweet Spot. In my work with super-creative ADHD people, I feel so honored to get a front row seat on people who create reality rather than are defined by it. People who live in their imaginations and have interests so vast and varied that you could never get bored for a minute being with them. People who were scarred by what they were told in school, but haven't stopped being the class clown and showing up with break-through ideas. I think living in your Sweet Spot means having to pinch yourself that you get paid to do what you love. Or being in a relationship with someone that lights you up so much you can hardly believe it's for real.

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About the Author

Dr. Lara Honos-Webb

Lara Honos-Webb, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist and author of multiple books.

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