The Dance of Connection Rescuing women and men from the quicksand of difficult relationships. Stress Are You a Distancer or a Pursuer? Harriet Lerner Ph.D. on June 19, 2022 If you pursue a distancer, they will distance more. If you distance from a pursuer they will pursue more. If you pursue a distancer, they will distance more. If you distance from a pursuer they will pursue more. Anger What to Do When Getting Angry Gets You Nowhere Harriet Lerner Ph.D. on March 27, 2022 Anger signals a problem, but it won't tell you how to solve it. Here's what you need to know. Anger signals a problem, but it won't tell you how to solve it. Here's what you need to know. Anxiety What Does the Future Hold for Your Child? Harriet Lerner Ph.D. on November 21, 2021 Your total ignorance about your child’s future is reason enough to maintain optimism and hope. Your total ignorance about your child’s future is reason enough to maintain optimism and hope. Marriage This Common Habit Is Hazardous to Your Marriage Harriet Lerner Ph.D. on October 31, 2021 No couple is immune to this downward-spiraling marital dance. No couple is immune to this downward-spiraling marital dance. Relationships How Not to Marry Your Future Ex-Spouse Harriet Lerner Ph.D. on October 4, 2021 Stay awake and pay attention to these three sources of information. Stay awake and pay attention to these three sources of information. Marriage 3 Actions to Turn Your Marriage Around Harriet Lerner Ph.D. on September 26, 2021 Do these three things with your partner and stay with it for three weeks. Do these three things with your partner and stay with it for three weeks. Anxiety Mothers, You Did Not Cause Your Child's Problems Harriet Lerner Ph.D. on July 25, 2021 Don't buy into the myth that you can control your child's behavior or how they "turn out." Don't buy into the myth that you can control your child's behavior or how they "turn out." Forgiveness Why Apologizing for Past Neglect Is So Powerful Harriet Lerner Ph.D. on July 11, 2021 The most interesting part of an apology may be what happens later. The most interesting part of an apology may be what happens later. Marriage The 3 Essential Ingredients of Happy-Enough Coupledom Harriet Lerner Ph.D. on June 6, 2021 It often amazes me that all marriages don’t fly apart by the baby’s first birthday. It often amazes me that all marriages don’t fly apart by the baby’s first birthday. Anger 10 Steps to Setting Boundaries and Sticking to Them Harriet Lerner Ph.D. on March 7, 2021 People won’t love you for setting boundaries so don’t expect applause. People won’t love you for setting boundaries so don’t expect applause. Anxiety How to Be Free of Your Dysfunctional Family Harriet Lerner Ph.D. on February 28, 2021 Families are not fair, but distance and blame don't work. Here's what you need to know. Families are not fair, but distance and blame don't work. Here's what you need to know. Anxiety Are You a Girl, a Lady, or a Woman? Why Language Matters Harriet Lerner Ph.D. on February 14, 2021 Do you prefer being called a "girl," a "lady," or a "woman"? Yes, it matters. Do you prefer being called a "girl," a "lady," or a "woman"? Yes, it matters. Marriage 3 Actions to Take to Save Your Marriage Harriet Lerner Ph.D. on February 7, 2021 A successful couple relationship requires you to do these three things—even if you don't want to. A successful couple relationship requires you to do these three things—even if you don't want to. Resilience Seven Steps Toward an Authentic Voice Harriet Lerner Ph.D. on January 2, 2021 Here are the seven "simple" steps toward having an authentic voice. Here are the seven "simple" steps toward having an authentic voice. Anger One Essential Ingredient of Happy Couples Harriet Lerner Ph.D. on December 27, 2020 Are you fighting about who's right? Here's how to shift directions. Are you fighting about who's right? Here's how to shift directions. Empathy 2 Keys to an Authentic Voice and a Joyful Self Harriet Lerner Ph.D. on December 6, 2020 Consider these two requirements for authenticity and joy. Consider these two requirements for authenticity and joy. Embarrassment The Real Scoop on Your Dependency and Suffering Harriet Lerner Ph.D. on November 28, 2020 Dependency has gotten a bad rap. So has suffering. Here's the real scoop. Dependency has gotten a bad rap. So has suffering. Here's the real scoop. Confidence Ten Steps to Having Both a Relationship and a Self Harriet Lerner Ph.D. on July 26, 2020 Here are my cliff notes on a building a strong “I” and a strong “We" in love, work, and friendship. Here are my cliff notes on a building a strong “I” and a strong “We" in love, work, and friendship. Empathy Try the No. 1 Listening Challenge for Couples Harriet Lerner Ph.D. on May 31, 2020 Surprise your partner by trying "the ultimate listening experiment." Your relationship will thank you. Surprise your partner by trying "the ultimate listening experiment." Your relationship will thank you. Anger Three Simple Rules for Criticizing a Difficult Person Harriet Lerner Ph.D. on March 1, 2020 Are you about to criticize a difficult or defensive person? Learn these three simple rules. Are you about to criticize a difficult or defensive person? Learn these three simple rules. 1 2 Next
Stress Are You a Distancer or a Pursuer? Harriet Lerner Ph.D. on June 19, 2022 If you pursue a distancer, they will distance more. If you distance from a pursuer they will pursue more. If you pursue a distancer, they will distance more. If you distance from a pursuer they will pursue more.
Anger What to Do When Getting Angry Gets You Nowhere Harriet Lerner Ph.D. on March 27, 2022 Anger signals a problem, but it won't tell you how to solve it. Here's what you need to know. Anger signals a problem, but it won't tell you how to solve it. Here's what you need to know.
Anxiety What Does the Future Hold for Your Child? Harriet Lerner Ph.D. on November 21, 2021 Your total ignorance about your child’s future is reason enough to maintain optimism and hope. Your total ignorance about your child’s future is reason enough to maintain optimism and hope.
Marriage This Common Habit Is Hazardous to Your Marriage Harriet Lerner Ph.D. on October 31, 2021 No couple is immune to this downward-spiraling marital dance. No couple is immune to this downward-spiraling marital dance.
Relationships How Not to Marry Your Future Ex-Spouse Harriet Lerner Ph.D. on October 4, 2021 Stay awake and pay attention to these three sources of information. Stay awake and pay attention to these three sources of information.
Marriage 3 Actions to Turn Your Marriage Around Harriet Lerner Ph.D. on September 26, 2021 Do these three things with your partner and stay with it for three weeks. Do these three things with your partner and stay with it for three weeks.
Anxiety Mothers, You Did Not Cause Your Child's Problems Harriet Lerner Ph.D. on July 25, 2021 Don't buy into the myth that you can control your child's behavior or how they "turn out." Don't buy into the myth that you can control your child's behavior or how they "turn out."
Forgiveness Why Apologizing for Past Neglect Is So Powerful Harriet Lerner Ph.D. on July 11, 2021 The most interesting part of an apology may be what happens later. The most interesting part of an apology may be what happens later.
Marriage The 3 Essential Ingredients of Happy-Enough Coupledom Harriet Lerner Ph.D. on June 6, 2021 It often amazes me that all marriages don’t fly apart by the baby’s first birthday. It often amazes me that all marriages don’t fly apart by the baby’s first birthday.
Anger 10 Steps to Setting Boundaries and Sticking to Them Harriet Lerner Ph.D. on March 7, 2021 People won’t love you for setting boundaries so don’t expect applause. People won’t love you for setting boundaries so don’t expect applause.
Anxiety How to Be Free of Your Dysfunctional Family Harriet Lerner Ph.D. on February 28, 2021 Families are not fair, but distance and blame don't work. Here's what you need to know. Families are not fair, but distance and blame don't work. Here's what you need to know.
Anxiety Are You a Girl, a Lady, or a Woman? Why Language Matters Harriet Lerner Ph.D. on February 14, 2021 Do you prefer being called a "girl," a "lady," or a "woman"? Yes, it matters. Do you prefer being called a "girl," a "lady," or a "woman"? Yes, it matters.
Marriage 3 Actions to Take to Save Your Marriage Harriet Lerner Ph.D. on February 7, 2021 A successful couple relationship requires you to do these three things—even if you don't want to. A successful couple relationship requires you to do these three things—even if you don't want to.
Resilience Seven Steps Toward an Authentic Voice Harriet Lerner Ph.D. on January 2, 2021 Here are the seven "simple" steps toward having an authentic voice. Here are the seven "simple" steps toward having an authentic voice.
Anger One Essential Ingredient of Happy Couples Harriet Lerner Ph.D. on December 27, 2020 Are you fighting about who's right? Here's how to shift directions. Are you fighting about who's right? Here's how to shift directions.
Empathy 2 Keys to an Authentic Voice and a Joyful Self Harriet Lerner Ph.D. on December 6, 2020 Consider these two requirements for authenticity and joy. Consider these two requirements for authenticity and joy.
Embarrassment The Real Scoop on Your Dependency and Suffering Harriet Lerner Ph.D. on November 28, 2020 Dependency has gotten a bad rap. So has suffering. Here's the real scoop. Dependency has gotten a bad rap. So has suffering. Here's the real scoop.
Confidence Ten Steps to Having Both a Relationship and a Self Harriet Lerner Ph.D. on July 26, 2020 Here are my cliff notes on a building a strong “I” and a strong “We" in love, work, and friendship. Here are my cliff notes on a building a strong “I” and a strong “We" in love, work, and friendship.
Empathy Try the No. 1 Listening Challenge for Couples Harriet Lerner Ph.D. on May 31, 2020 Surprise your partner by trying "the ultimate listening experiment." Your relationship will thank you. Surprise your partner by trying "the ultimate listening experiment." Your relationship will thank you.
Anger Three Simple Rules for Criticizing a Difficult Person Harriet Lerner Ph.D. on March 1, 2020 Are you about to criticize a difficult or defensive person? Learn these three simple rules. Are you about to criticize a difficult or defensive person? Learn these three simple rules.