There are many temptations to organize our life around the experience of earlier trauma. But that may short-change the future—which starts by our envisioning something better.
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Beverly Engel L.M.F.T.
Stop beating yourself up for getting involved with an abusive partner. You had reasons for your choice.
How self-understanding can help you forgive yourself.
Stop giving your abuser power by believing their criticisms of you.
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Are you emotionally abused? Learning how to practice self-compassion can help.
Do you find yourself considering going back to an emotional abuser? If so, these suggestions may help you gain clarity—and courage.
7 signs that it is critical to end your relationship for your health and safety.
Healing shame is important after escaping an emotionally abusive relationship.
Does child abuse and neglect set someone up for emotional abuse as an adult?
You can reduce the shame associated with emotional abuse.
Healing your shame is the key to ending an emotionally abusive relationship.
Why is it so difficult to determine whether you are being emotionally abused?
Former victims of trauma and those who suffer from anxiety disorders may need extra help when it comes to coping with the Corona crisis.
Are you plagued with anxiety due to the pandemic? Here are some effective coping strategies.
Although it can be painful, addressing your feelings surrounding past neglect or abuse experiences will help you avoid repeating the behavior with your loved ones.
How developing more empathy for others and self-compassion for yourself can help you break the cycle of abuse.
Why apologizing can be so difficult and how you can learn to give effective and meaningful apologies.
Why apology is such a powerful healing tool.
You don't have to repeat the mistakes of your parents.
Are you at risk of repeating the cycle of abuse? This information can help you determine your personal risk.
Part 1 of 5: What you can do to break the cycle of abuse.
You don't have to blindly repeat the cycle of violence. There are steps you can take to prevent becoming abusive or perpetuating the role of victim.
Staying at home can be especially difficult for those with PTSD. Here are some research-based strategies that can help.
People who have experienced prior trauma tend to have more extreme reactions to stress. Here's how to identify and support such individuals during the coronavirus crisis.
How these two tools can help combat fear and stress.
Marital rape can actually be more damaging to the victim than stranger rape.
What role does betrayal trauma play in re-victimization?
The benefits of disclosing outweigh the risks.
While it can be extremely difficult to disclose child sexual abuse, there are many benefits.
Why do so many adults who were sexually abused keep it a secret?
Beverly Engel has been a therapist specializing in abuse issues for the past 35 years. She is the author of 25 books, including The Emotionally Abusive Relationship, Escaping Emotional Abuse and It Wasn’t Your Fault.