The Compassion Chronicles

From anger to compassion and forgiveness.

Beverly Engel L.M.F.T.

Forgiving Yourself for Choosing an Abusive Partner

Stop beating yourself up for getting involved with an abusive partner. You had reasons for your choice.

How to Forgive Yourself for Becoming a Victim of Emotional Abuse

How self-understanding can help you forgive yourself.

How to Stop Believing What an Abusive Partner Says

Stop giving your abuser power by believing their criticisms of you.

Healing Emotional Abuse With Self-Kindness

Are you being emotionally abused but don't feel strong enough to leave? Self Kindness can be an important first step.

Healing Emotional Abuse Through Self-Compassion

Are you emotionally abused? Learning how to practice self-compassion can help.

Fighting the Temptation to Go Back to an Emotional Abuser

Do you find yourself considering going back to an emotional abuser? If so, these suggestions may help you gain clarity—and courage.

When You Need to End an Emotionally Abusive Relationship

7 signs that it is critical to end your relationship for your health and safety.

Recovering from the Lasting Shame of Emotional Abuse

Healing shame is important after escaping an emotionally abusive relationship.

Child Abuse/Neglect Can Predict Emotional Abuse in Adults

Does child abuse and neglect set someone up for emotional abuse as an adult?

How to Reduce the Shame Caused by Emotional Abuse

You can reduce the shame associated with emotional abuse.

Why Shame Is the Most Damaging Aspect of Emotional Abuse

Healing your shame is the key to ending an emotionally abusive relationship.

Demystifying Emotional Abuse

Why is it so difficult to determine whether you are being emotionally abused?

The Corona Crisis: Special Help for Victims of Trauma

Former victims of trauma and those who suffer from anxiety disorders may need extra help when it comes to coping with the Corona crisis.

How to Cope With Anxiety Related to the Corona Pandemic

Are you plagued with anxiety due to the pandemic? Here are some effective coping strategies.

Breaking the Cycle of Abuse: Ongoing Healing and Prevention

Although it can be painful, addressing your feelings surrounding past neglect or abuse experiences will help you avoid repeating the behavior with your loved ones.

Develop Empathy for Others and Self-Compassion for Yourself

How developing more empathy for others and self-compassion for yourself can help you break the cycle of abuse.

Why Apology Is So Difficult for Some People

Why apologizing can be so difficult and how you can learn to give effective and meaningful apologies.

Why We Need to Apologize

Why apology is such a powerful healing tool.

How to Avoid Becoming an Abusive or Neglectful Parent

You don't have to repeat the mistakes of your parents.

The Risk Factors for Continuing the Cycle of Abuse

Are you at risk of repeating the cycle of abuse? This information can help you determine your personal risk.

How Do You Begin to Break the Cycle of Abuse?

Part 1 of 5: What you can do to break the cycle of abuse.

Breaking the Cycle of Abuse

You don't have to blindly repeat the cycle of violence. There are steps you can take to prevent becoming abusive or perpetuating the role of victim.

The Top Research-Based Strategies for Coping With PTSD

Staying at home can be especially difficult for those with PTSD. Here are some research-based strategies that can help.

Coping Styles in the Time of Crisis

People who have experienced prior trauma tend to have more extreme reactions to stress. Here's how to identify and support such individuals during the coronavirus crisis.