For some people — including me — studying Aikido (The Japanese Martial Art, called The Way of Harmony that works as a way to polish the spirit, to turn lead into gold) is a slow, awkward, and arduous process.
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Have you ever said yes to someone, and then instantly regretted it?
You felt like when you gave away that "yes" it stripped away a part of your soul that you could never recover again?
I may sound a tad soap opera-ish, but some "yes's" do have serious, enduring consequences.
To be called a thought leader was once rare. Thought leaders had a coveted status. But the term thought leader has become a common moniker — too common. It seems that everyone is touting himself as the next thought leader. But most aren’t.
Many people want it all now. Not me. I want a slow drip so I can acclimate. I need time to adjust to any changes. I'd probably drop dead if I won the lottery. If I were suddenly super sleek and thin I wouldn't know who I was. I wouldn't recognize myself. Who is that person in the mirror with all those bones sticking out?
When Sachiko Knappman conducted her first Japanese tea ceremony she prepared tea for herself when she was ready to serve it. After much training, she realized that the person she was preparing it for had to be ready to receive the tea. This took observation, timing, sensitivity and grace -- which she learned later.
I'm a verbal person and Aikido is virtually a silent art minus the chant or kiais (relaxed and powerful exhalation that coordinates breath with ki or energy during strikes or throws). I'm used to talking when I'm nervous so I can dissipate the excess energy and get to a place of calm. There isn't an opportunity for this in Aikido. Your body does the talking. Period.
Just when I've eschewed my Jimmy Choo's I read about Stiletto Spy School for Women. http://www.stilettospyschool.com/ Power has always been sexy -- for men. But when a woman is called powerful it's often code for Bitch. When you combine sexy with power you get the potent combustion of a femme fatale, a woman who is feared and desired. Men may even relish being controlled by her while conspiring to take her down. Think Angelina Jolie in the movie Mr. & Mrs. Smith and the current film Salt. Of course, unlike most of us, Angelina Jolie, is sexy in sneakers.
Women, would you like to send the men you meet trying to find Mr. Right to charm school? What if those men learned how to really look into your eyes, listen, and care -- all with confidence, not some fake bravado? This is not some impossible miracle. You may be meeting a man near you who is skilled in the art of seduction, love, conversation and who can possibly even make the bed.
Forget about being beautiful. Be funny. When you can take the focus off yourself you can express your talents and connect with people as the maverick Isabella Rossellini shows us in her films called green por.no about the sex lives of insects.
Sometimes your lover acts like your worst enemy. During a fight this person you love, whom you thought you knew, turns into an alien from another planet. You see their typically mild-mannered self transform into someone you’d want to commit to an insane asylum.
I hate serving size lies. Food manufacturers may think that their suggestions are sensible. Perhaps they are... for people who nibble, taste or sample. But these guidelines don't make sense for people who actually eat.
My house is spanking clean today. My Brazilian cleaners are as fastidious about creating a meticulous house as they are about creating a perfectly sculpted body. First "Julia" got her nose done. For months every time she cleaned she complained to me that her nose was too fat and round. She wanted a leaner line. So she set up an appointment with a plastic surgeon specializing in noses.
Women often believe that they must act like men to succeed. They scramble up the corporate ladder by copying traditional male behavior. Although it sometimes buys them temporary "success", most of the time, on a deeper level, it doesn't work. They frequently find themselves dissatisfied, restless, and ultimately unfulfilled.