How to Get Back Up in 5 Simple Steps
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Posted May 20, 2020
A lot of my clients and people in the public have been contacting me complaining that they are in a “slump” and they don’t know how to get out of it. I have heard stories about how this pandemic has hurt people’s business and has negatively affected their marriages and/or relationships with loved ones. Some people have told me that they have gained a lot of weight during the stay at home and they feel lazy and lethargic. People have also told me that they have lost a sense of purpose, direction, or a general loss of identity. I feel that now, more than ever, people are feeling knocked off course and are not sure how to re-group, put it all back together, and get back up.
So many changes came about due to the coronavirus pandemic. When the change first occurs, it is not uncommon for people to backslide or to have trouble adjusting and adapting to the new situation. That being said, there will always be a handful of people who are able to adapt extremely quickly. These are the people who, back in March, immediately altered their businesses to an online model, created a home gym overnight, and started selling masks. I have a good friend who right away created a detailed home school curriculum, scheduling where each child should be and when. My hat is off to these people, but they are rare to find, the majority of us feel knocked down and are not sure how to get out of their slump.
I am definitely one of the people who fell into a slump and needed a strategy immediately to get back on track. I developed a five-step process for myself that really works. I closely observed those who achieved their goals versus those who did not and realized five main differences between these two groups. These are the five ingredients that I believe will help motivate you to do better. Remember, to quote Charles Darwin, “It is not the strongest of the species that survives. It is the one that is the most adaptable to change, that lives within the means available and works co-operatively against common threats.”
Be more persistent. An individual who is persistent will continue going no matter what obstacle or blockage is in their way. In other words, this person will never quit, no matter what! One way to help yourself be more persistent is to view the obstacle that is in your way as a path to help you towards your goal, not so much something standing in your way. For example, you run out of tuition money, but have not graduated yet. A persistent individual will keep searching for loans or scholarships day and night until they figure it out. The lack of funding could be viewed as a blockage or “sign” that they should give up, or it could be viewed as an opportunity to practice their problem solving and negotiating skills. My recommendation is to figure out what is your obstacle and then learn how to look at that obstacle as your highway to your goals instead of your reason to quit.
Go the distance. Got this nugget of advice from my all-time favorite movie, Rocky. Clearly, it never was about winning or losing for the boxer. He always had to know that he achieved his personal best. The man gets knocked down more times than I’ve ever seen anyone before, and he keeps rising back up on his feet. He is not standing back up so he can “win” he is battling himself and knowing that he’s not staying down because there is still more inside of him. Really successful people do this. They fail and fail and fail and fail and then succeed. I recommend asking yourself this one simple question, is this life I’m leading right now my personal best? If the answer is no, then you are not going the distance,
Double dare yourself. This is a great strategy for all the competitive types out there. Track exactly how you did the day before. What time did you wake up? What did you eat for breakfast? For OCD people, how many compulsions did you do? Did you use alcohol and drugs? Did you exercise? Did you overeat processed foods? Whatever you answer to these questions, dare yourself to do much better the following day. So, I want you to look at yourself in the mirror and say out loud, “I dare you to do better.” I dare you to run five more minutes today or I dare you to not eat processed food today. Remember, we are always in competition with ourselves.
Get inspiration from other people. Remember those rare people I mentioned earlier? The ones who adapt super quickly. I suggest that you speak with them and find out more about their story and their perspectives. Listening to their no quit, warrior type of mindset will help inspire you to want to live a similar life. I have a friend that says it is like looking through a window of possibilities. Also, you could gain inspiration from watching movies. Here are a few that I go to when it is time to get back on track. Rudy, Rocky (all 6) and the two Creed spinoffs, Erin Brokovich, The Shawshank Redemption, and The Martian.
Set a goal. You will definitely need a vision or a dream to chase if you want to get back up. I could recommend that you start moving but you need to know what it is you are moving towards. If you do not have any big goals or events in the future. I highly advise you to plan something, anything you think will put pressure on you. Set an exact date of when this event will take place, tell people about this future endeavor, set a countdown app on your phone and put this date in and watch the countdown every day as you get closer. Very helpful to feel a certain level of anxiety in order to inspire one to rise up.
Always keep in mind that the most difficult part of change is getting started. Once you get yourself on the correct road, and start a new routine, you will become stronger and recognize that you've got this and you are very resilient.