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Relationships

The Dark Side of Fairytales

John Kim LMFT on February 3, 2025

The fairytale version of love is shallow — it’s all about the “perfect” ending. But real love is about the journey, not the destination.

The fairytale version of love is shallow — it’s all about the “perfect” ending. But real love is about the journey, not the destination.

Relationships

Breakups Aren’t the End

John Kim LMFT on January 27, 2025

Breakups are not simply endings. They are transitions. They are the crossroads where your past meets the opportunity to redefine your future.

Breakups are not simply endings. They are transitions. They are the crossroads where your past meets the opportunity to redefine your future.

Relationships

How to Move On From the Breakup That Blindsided You

John Kim LMFT on January 20, 2025

The lesson of the blindsided breakup is this: Healing isn’t about getting answers from the person who left. It’s about finding answers within yourself.

The lesson of the blindsided breakup is this: Healing isn’t about getting answers from the person who left. It’s about finding answers within yourself.

Relationships

How Resentment Creeps In and Wrecks Your Relationship

John Kim LMFT on January 13, 2025

Resentment is a signal that something isn’t working, but it’s not a death sentence.

Resentment is a signal that something isn’t working, but it’s not a death sentence.

Relationships

The "Relationship Goals" Trap

John Kim LMFT on January 6, 2025

It’s easy to forget, but Instagram is not a reflection of real life. No matter how perfect a couple looks online, they have their own struggles, just like you.

It’s easy to forget, but Instagram is not a reflection of real life. No matter how perfect a couple looks online, they have their own struggles, just like you.

Relationships

Why 'Good Vibes Only’ Is Toxic

John Kim LMFT on January 1, 2025

If you really want “good vibes” in your relationship, you have to be willing to embrace the bad ones.

If you really want “good vibes” in your relationship, you have to be willing to embrace the bad ones.

Motivation

Redefining What It Takes to Show Up

John Kim LMFT on December 27, 2024

I want to live a life that’s real, a life I’ve earned—not because everything feels easy or because I’m inspired every moment, but because I’ve decided to show up for myself.

I want to live a life that’s real, a life I’ve earned—not because everything feels easy or because I’m inspired every moment, but because I’ve decided to show up for myself.

Relationships

Your Heart Didn’t Break; It Awakened

John Kim LMFT on December 23, 2024

Hearts don’t break—they stretch. They stretch to make room for new love, corrective love, with new insights and new ways of being.

Hearts don’t break—they stretch. They stretch to make room for new love, corrective love, with new insights and new ways of being.

Identity

How to Reclaim Your Identity After a Breakup

John Kim LMFT on December 16, 2024

The process of rediscovery is an empowering one, and as you reconnect with yourself, you’ll begin to see that the breakup, though painful, has led you back to you.

The process of rediscovery is an empowering one, and as you reconnect with yourself, you’ll begin to see that the breakup, though painful, has led you back to you.

Self-Help

Stop Swiping and Start Living

John Kim LMFT on December 9, 2024

Being single isn’t a failure; it’s an opportunity. It's a time to reconnect with who you are, outside of relationships, and create a life that’s fulfilling on its own.

Being single isn’t a failure; it’s an opportunity. It's a time to reconnect with who you are, outside of relationships, and create a life that’s fulfilling on its own.

Relationships

How to Stop Losing Yourself in Relationships

John Kim LMFT on December 2, 2024

It's possible to maintain your sense of identity while still building something meaningful with your partner.

It's possible to maintain your sense of identity while still building something meaningful with your partner.

Relationships

How to Heal From Toxic Relationship Patterns

John Kim LMFT on November 25, 2024

Toxic relationship patterns don’t just disappear on their own—they need to be addressed, understood, and healed.

Toxic relationship patterns don’t just disappear on their own—they need to be addressed, understood, and healed.

Singlehood

How Embracing Being Single Can Transform Your Life

John Kim LMFT on November 21, 2024

Solitude is a gift, offering you the chance to reconnect with who you are at your core, without the distractions of a relationship.

Solitude is a gift, offering you the chance to reconnect with who you are at your core, without the distractions of a relationship.

Singlehood

How to Let Go of the Fear of Being Single

John Kim LMFT on November 18, 2024

3. Redefine what success and fulfillment look like.

3. Redefine what success and fulfillment look like.

Self-Help

Your Heart Didn't Break

John Kim LMFT on November 14, 2024

Heartbreak teaches us important lessons about ourselves and others.

Heartbreak teaches us important lessons about ourselves and others.

Attachment

The Truth About Attachment Styles

John Kim LMFT on November 11, 2024

The more secure you become in your own attachment, the healthier and more fulfilling your relationships will be.

The more secure you become in your own attachment, the healthier and more fulfilling your relationships will be.

Relationships

How to Fight Without Fighting

John Kim LMFT on November 7, 2024

If you're trying to "win," you've already lost.

If you're trying to "win," you've already lost.

Mating

Why You Can’t Swipe Your Way to Love

John Kim LMFT on November 4, 2024

The problem isn’t the technology—it’s how we’re using it.

The problem isn’t the technology—it’s how we’re using it.

Emotions

The Emotional Rollercoaster of Breakups

John Kim LMFT on October 28, 2024

The emotional rollercoaster you’re on isn’t a sign that you’re weak or failing to “move on”—it’s a sign that your brain is trying to make sense of the loss.

The emotional rollercoaster you’re on isn’t a sign that you’re weak or failing to “move on”—it’s a sign that your brain is trying to make sense of the loss.

Relationships

How to Create Your Own Closure

John Kim LMFT on October 24, 2024

2. Rewrite the story you're telling yourself.

2. Rewrite the story you're telling yourself.