There are many temptations to organize our life around the experience of earlier trauma. But that may short-change the future—which starts by our envisioning something better.
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David J Bredehoft Ph.D.
One wolf is darkness and despair. The other is light and hope. Which wolf wins? The one you feed.
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#7: Lacking gratitude.
Overindulgence has harmful effects. Research suggests that parents are the ones who overindulge and that the behavior is rooted in the parent's past experiences.
Parents too soft on structure sometimes flip to the other side of the continuum, thinking the answer lies in being hard, rigid, or inflexible. Rigid is not the answer either.
What happens to children when they get an unearned trophy?
Can parents be friends with their children? Does it represent childhood overindulgence?
Can and should parents learn from machines? Let’s consider two commonplace machines: a vending machine and a slot machine. What can they teach us about parenting?
Does your child nag you when you go shopping? Do your children beg you to do things they shouldn't be doing? Do you give in to them? You need help to eliminate the nag factor.
Actions that children engage in to make their parents buy something is a universal dilemma all parents have to deal with. Teen social media influencers make it worse.
Today's parents say they can't say no to their children. Their children are bombarded with thousands of "buy" messages prompting demand after demand. Take back your Power of NO!
Children who grow up with an addicted parent often experience abuse, neglect, and even overindulgence, and they often become parentified.
Are you concerned that a parent you know and love is overindulging their children? How do you bring up this thorny issue without alienating them? These strategies can help.
Does it really matter if parents overindulge their children? Yes, according to research suggesting that childhood overindulgence is linked to depression, anxiety, and problematic alcohol use in young adults.
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When children are not required to do chores, they grow up to become adults who don't have life skills.
Children learn valuable life skills by doing chores, but parents who overnurture don't give their children those opportunities.
Over-nurtured children become helpless. They grow up lacking the skills they need to function as adults. Helpless. Stuck. And in some situations; feeling hopeless.
When parents overindulge, they unknowingly train children to become helpless, and overindulged children have greater difficulty reaching future goals.
Grandparents are in a difficult position when parents overindulge grandchildren.
Grandparents should set expectations, share their stories and hobbies, model cherished values, and start a college fund instead of overindulging their grandchildren.
Grandparents who refuse to respect parenting choices may pay a big price: limits on the amount of time they spend with their grandchildren.
Individuals who were overindulged as children view their relationship from an external locus of control and think that chance is the cause of their relationship problems.
Being overindulged as a child leads to the inability to resolve conflict in adult romantic relationships.
Stress over money and finances may be at an all-time high for couples.
Does childhood overindulgence influence our love life? Does it consciously or unconsciously influence the partners we pick and how we interact with them?
Is this Me vs. We attitude fueled by childhood overindulgence? I think so.
Parents who overindulge their children lack a global sense of competence, efficacy, and satisfaction with parenting. They become frustrated, anxious, and poorly motivated parents.
Were you overindulged as a child? How did it make you feel? Learn how childhood overindulgence has long-lasting effects into adulthood.
David Bredehoft, Ph.D., is a professor emeritus and former chair of psychology at Concordia University.