A loving relationship can be an oasis in uncertain times, but nurturing it requires attention, honesty, openness, vulnerability, and gratitude.
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Why we can't (or won't) move on from bad jobs, bad relationships, and bad habits, and how we can all move ahead.
Being emotionally injured by those who "couldn't help it" or "didn't mean it" or "were doing their best" or "tried to help you" spawns its own set of often devastating problems.
Despite its proven benefits, the practice can be torture for those who can't stand sitting in their own skin and then hate themselves for "failing" at it.
It sounds like holy, healing, one-size-fits-all advice. But sometimes "forgive and forget" has the exact opposite effect.
Witnessing mass casualties — lives, livelihoods, and futures lost — in unprecedented numbers is forcing us to learn whole new emotional arithmetics. Is it changing us long-term?
Perhaps for the first time ever, we want this question answered honestly.
Home all day, forced to learn brand-new behaviors: What can this pandemic-driven re-childedness reveal about us? What can it teach us besides how to wash our hands?
New types of crime are emerging, and old types of crime are seizing advantage of worldwide panic.
Not that we'd wish this on anyone, but for some of us, it's so familiar.
Wealth and fame aren't an instant cure for body dysmorphia. Sometimes they simply put it on public display.
Can we reclaim, reframe, and rename our accomplishments to make them feel more real?
Self-hatred starts in the brain, but seldom stops there.
Maybe we saw and felt painful things when we were young and our fledgling neurochemistry filed it under "holidays."
The client-therapist dynamic, through no fault of its own, is — for some clients — booby-trapped.
Hypervigilance isn't our fault, and it isn't a choice.
An eating disorder is not always telling us what we think it's telling us. Let's learn to decode its language.
As did ancient rites, do horror films spotlight the hazy borderlines between life and death, love and loss, courage and fear?
Some families stick it out through thick and thin. Others are peppered with separations. Why?
We imagine those long-awaited words setting history straight and evening the score. But will they?
If Mother's Day is a tough day for us, standard greeting-card messages tend to make it even worse. What would be printed on our cards if they told the truth?
Trauma trains brains to imagine worst-case scenarios.
Trauma taught us that human interaction is a weapon.
Does the rise of brutal food, from "Ultra-Death" sauces to poo-emoji meringues, signal specieswide self-hatred, social-media rivalry, or an ancient yearning to test ourselves?
Private pain made public, packaged for reactions and potential profit, is the latest wave in a culture fixated on fame.
We want to say these things to you, because we want you to believe us. But first we must believe ourselves.
Society accepts deity-worship, but those among us who worship our fellow human beings are scorned and feared as stalkers, cult members, or crazed fans.
It helps to know, and name, the aspects of this season that do us in.
Are we becoming interpersonally illiterate? And can we save the dying art of dialogue one curious question at a time?
We who are made of mere flesh and blood struggle with even the idea of punishment.
One study suggests that only half of those whom we consider our friends consider us theirs.
Our over-watchers turned "peekaboo" into PTSD.
S. Rufus is the author, under the byline Anneli Rufus, of books including Party of One and Stuck.