Stronger at the Broken Places

How challenges can strengthen your relationship

Linda and Charlie Bloom

Deposits in Karma Savings and Loan

Some couples get caught in a higly conflictual style of communication where fighting is commonplace. Because trust is so low at that time...

Are You a Champion of Repair?

No matter how hard we try, there are sure to be breakdowns, broken agreements, and unhealed wounds that can create conflict in a relationship.

Intimacy, Ecstasy, and Other Ordinary Miracles

Many of us have lost the means by which we experience the ecstatic, yet still long to be taken outside of ordinary reality...

30 Characteristics of Happy Couples

When we interviewed the happiest couples we could find, we clearly saw that they were among the group keeping passionate romance alive.

Who’s Responsible For Your Happiness?

When it comes down to it, we marry for one reason: we think that we’ll be happier than we would be being single.

Why Is Checking in so Important?

What is it that extraordinarily happy couples are doing?

How to Leave a Relationship

When the time comes for letting go of a relationship, most people don’t do it very well.

Me or We?

Since the perpetuation of the species is the force that drives the longing for connection, it seems that we’d be wired to get along with ease. But sometimes that is not the case.

Candice and Jackson Break Up

In the couples’ counseling session, when I inquired of Candice how long she had been unhappy in the marriage, she announced that she had been dispirited for 5 of their 12 years.

Be the Voice of Love

To become a great lover requires being able to acquire the voice of love, but some people are quite inhibited about giving voice to the love they feel.

Passive Aggressive Behavior Takes Us Down

It drove Sandy nuts when Robert repeatedly came home from work late.

Are You a Blurter?

It can be hard to own up to how we get in our own way of having the kind of partnership that we dream of.

Are You Conflict-Avoidant?

It is often difficult to tell when we are doing that which does not serve our self-interest. Perhaps we have not had good role models for handling differences...

Conflict Avoidance Can Get You in Big Trouble

“I married my college sweetheart in 1970, and we were together for 28 years while raising a son..."

It’s Possible to Have Four Marriages, All to the Same Person

 “My first marriage with Clydine was a traditional one of raising our children..."

At Onement

To those of the Jewish faith, Yom Kippur is considered the most sacred of all the holidays; it literally translates into "Day of Atonement."

When a Marriage Has to Die

Taking care of yourself may be the best thing that you can do for your relationship.

The Precious Resources of Our Time and Attention

Most of us know that there are certain kinds of experiences that nurture our souls and other that don’t.

All the Best Lovers Are Gracious Lovers

One major challenge for couples is to see how they can offer their pain and anger to each other in a way that lets them connect, rather than disconnect.

It’s Never Too Late 
to Repair Damaged Trust

There is no statute of limitations on hurt feelings or wounded trust; the pain of unfinished business can linger for years.

Marriage
 Is Like Launching a Rocket

Just as a space shuttle burns about 90 percent of its fuel during the initial moments of flight, marriage requires its greatest expenditure of energy during its early stages.

Humble Beginnings Can Give Birth to Great Achievements

Relationships can be a major key to professional success.

Marriage Does Require Some Sacrifice

For those of us who are “commitment-phobic,” we may fear that the costs of marriage will outweigh its rewards.

The Meaning of Life

I don’t think that most people want to understand the meaning of life intellectually, but want to experience meaning by being fully alive.

Fall Down. Get Up. Fall Down. Get Up.

When we're learning any new skill, there is a process of moving forward and then slipping backward. Developing new relationship skills is the same way.

Honoring Our Partner

What does it mean to honor our partner? Here are 30 ways.

A Story of Recovery from Post-Traumatic Stress

Terrance reported to me that of all the challenges that he experienced in life—and there have been many—the greatest was the one in which his wife’s support was most meaningful.

Assigning New Meaning to Old Suffering

Feeling like a victim frequently follows traumatic experiences. Moving away from that disempowered position requires being proactive.

Above All Else, Love is the Most Important Thing

The story of lovers who come from different clans is as old as time. In the case of Barry and Joyce, it means having to choose between the truth of their hearts.

Still Plenty of Romance, Even After 65 Years Together

It’s not enough to say “I love you."

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