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How challenges can strengthen your relationship
Linda and Charlie Bloom
We experience transitions throughout our lives. Some of them we choose, and some of them come uninvited...
Rebuilding trust after an affair is possible—but that doesn't mean it will happen quickly.
Large numbers of people—some single desiring to be married, and some already married but struggling—would be happy to have a “good enough” marriage.
Carolyn and Keith came into therapy after 11 years of marriage complaining of having “grown apart” due to having a different "spiritual paths."
The importance of having a trusted person to talk to about traumas cannot be overstated. A confidant is much more than psychologically beneficial.
Commitment and intention are both mighty forces, and especially potent when combined.
Faye and Chip had been locked in a struggle for power that was taking an enormous toll on their marriage.
Perhaps no aspect of marriage is more provocative, challenging, and misunderstood than monogamy. It's more than an agreement on exclusivity.
In the field of couples counseling, a great deal is explored about the together aspect of relationships with attention placed on the critical importance of commitment.
“Even people who look foreward to being sexual with their partner must go through a transition from responsibility to pleasure.” — Esther Perel
Commitment opens up inconceivable possibilities.
If we support our partner to evolve into who they can become, and they do that for us, we have the makings for a great relationship.
Love is a powerful force, but love alone, without a through examination of each other's core values, will not be enough to sustain a long-term partnership.
One of the most common complaints from couples that have been together for a significant amount of time is that their sex life has become stale.
A growth model of marriage is one in which we make a commitment to ourselves and each other...
The expectation that the marriage be filled with love, happiness, well-being and personal growth is a tall order, but not out of reach.
Happy couples hold each other with what Carl Rogers calls “unconditional positive regard.” Successful couples know how to be fully present with each other with an open heart.
Melony and Jude married when they were both barely out of their teens. Like many couples, neither of them had experienced or observed much genuine intimacy in their lives.
By learning to hold the tension of the opposites, we stretch and grow. There is more space for seemingly opposite ideas and feelings to coexist.
Charlie and Linda chose to apply the lessons from their painful experiences to gain the inner strengths and wisdom that a full recovery demanded.
Corporate marriage syndrome occurs when the company requires allegiance to the corporation over and above the employee’s time and energy devoted to family.
We often don’t realize how precariously we are perched in our life. In an instant, our whole existence can change...
We often don’t realize how precariously we are perched in our life.
If you’re like me you’ve often been mystified by others (including your primary partner) who appear to be unable to accept the reasonable and obvious point of view...
We all have specific ways that we want to experience being loved, and tend to give what we want to receive. We can’t help being subjective.
Most couples wait too long to get help. Unnecessary suffering occurs in secrecy and isolation when you are too embarrassed to ask for assistance.
Dora was married for a year when her husband Sean left her with a ten-month old baby girl. She felt lost, lonely and terrified that she couldn't make it on her own...
After our study, we realized that happy doesn't necessarily mean tranquil. Many of the "happy" couples were quite opinionated and could be volatile at times...
My husband Charlie and I interviewed 50 happy couples and chatted informally with many more. Our goal was to come up with practical advice.
Conscious loving requires us to come out from behind the security of our manufactured image, and bring a high level of authenticity into our life.
Linda Bloom, L.C.S.W., and Charlie Bloom, M.S.W., are the authors of Secrets of Great Marriages: Real Truths from Real Couples About Lasting Love.