Stronger at the Broken Places

How challenges can strengthen your relationship

Linda and Charlie Bloom

A Deal Breaker

Let’s get clear about what a deal breaker is and what it isn’t.

Our Couple Bubble Saved Our Marriage

Coming back to my commitment gave me strength when I felt weak and wounded.

A Heated Yet Successful Interaction

Sometimes, in our attempts to keep our relationship in a zone of calm and cooperation, too much accommodating goes on and resentment builds.

If You Mess Up, Fess Up

The reward for the work of becoming a person of integrity is that we begin to live a life of harmony.

Getting Help When You Need It Isn’t a Sign of Weakness

Most couples wait too long to get help. Unnecessary suffering occurs in secrecy and isolation when you are too embarrassed to ask for assistance.

Avoiding Explosions

When we see our differences as opportunities to develop our capacities, we begin to meet them with openness and appreciation.

Gay Wounded Healers

Dan Savage and Terry Miller are two gay men who are social activists. Both were bullied when they were in high school.

Wisdom of Sacred Partnership

Sacred partnership is a process that takes time, effort, skill, knowledge, intention, and courage. The model of spiritual partnership is new to the human experience.

Are You an Emotionally Intelligent Couple?

To establish a great relationship requires emotional intelligence.

Contempt: The Biggest Relationship Threat

Relationship expert John Gottman uses the term "Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse" to describe the biggest threats to relationships: criticism, defensiveness, stonewalling, and contempt.

Mastering the Art of Romantic Connection

Some people are naturally inclined to devote time and energy to mastering the art of romantic connection. If you do, here are 40 ways you can benefit.

Crises Are Highly Underrated

Many of us fear crises and go to extraordinary lengths to keep them from ever occurring. But if we open to them, we can come through wiser than ever before.

Are You Fighting More These Days?

The stress is on—so here are a few things that may assure you that your stress level is normal and understandable with the drastic and sudden changes that we are in the midst of.

Managing Relationship Challenges in the Age of COVID-19

In the midst of the pandemic, we have an opportunity to take a crash course in conflict management.

The Blessings of a Crisis

We often forget that each crisis contains the seeds of opportunities for growth, learning, healing, and previously unrecognized possibilities.

90 Ways People Trash Their Relationships

It’s hard to admit the awful things we do and say and don’t do and don’t say that cause harm to those we love.

If You Never Try, You’ll Never Know

Sometimes I have clients come to me who aren’t sure if they want to bother to put in the time, money, and effort that is required once you commit to couples’ counseling.

Living Rituals

When we think of rituals, we often think of those offered by religious traditions, designed by others whose frame of reference may not be exactly in keeping with our own.