There are many temptations to organize our life around the experience of earlier trauma. But that may short-change the future—which starts by our envisioning something better.
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Couples argue about sex, money and kids. Less visible, but as stressful, couples also argue about time. A close look at the complexity of time offers new understanding and options.
When sexual connection and intimacy stop between spouses, they often stay together, trapped in feelings of rejection, anger, and longing. The real trap is the silence between them.
A close look reveals that, much like a therapist, pets often serve as the emotional “third” to couples. As such, they open emotional space for new perspectives and ways of relating.
We all have things that have particular meaning to us. The question is whether attachment to our stuff leaves room for our partner.
Regardless of what we tell ourselves about the good old days, or that things will be different, reconnecting with an ex warrants crucial considerations.
If you are wondering why you rarely hear a “thank you” from your partner, the problem may not be a lack of love. It may be the imbalance of human adaptation versus appreciation.
Man has always used his skin as a canvas to bear witness to pain and survival. As more Americans get tattoos, a close look reveals the healing qualities of tattoos after trauma.
Crisis and stress leave partners out of time, out of touch, and feeling out of love. They may need an affair—with each other. The dynamics of an affair can reignite a marriage.
Pets have always been a loving source of resilience, buffering pain, loss, and loneliness. What happens when a pet dies? How do we cope?
While social connection is vital for health and happiness, fear of rejection can impede efforts to connect.
After a frigid winter and a deadly pandemic, many feel traumatized and robbed of their capacity to cope. The garden opens paths of healing and possibility.
Increasing couple communication is important, but an easily overlooked skill is knowing when it is best to say nothing.
The problem with sexual withholding in a marriage has far less to do with actually having or not having sex and much more to do with misunderstanding each other.
Online dating becomes less of a challenge and more of a personal adventure when you add your authenticity, self-reflection, curiosity and laughter.
Everyone living in this age of Covid has suffered loss and fear in life as they knew it. As challenges continue, developing a mindset to cope with uncertainty becomes essential.
While some people offer apologies with the potential for repair, others use “ I’m sorry,” as a quick fix. Many feel remorse but don’t know how to make a real apology.
To protect their relationship, a couple needs to recognize the destructive dynamics that can slowly kill the heart and soul of their bond.
The efforts to “desperately keep someone” may have much more to do with a need for another person than sharing a loving relationship with that person.
Central to healing in the aftermath of a traumatic event is the transformation of trauma’s unspeakable imprint to a story that can be told without reliving it.
Resilience is tied to brain function and we have the power to change it to become more stress-resilient.
The number of self-help books on relationships reflects the search for getting it right. Consider these 4 essential ingredients of a loving relationship.
Research reveals that hope makes a difference, physically and psychologically. In times of uncertainty, it's worth considering how to cultivate hope.
Suzanne B. Phillips, Psy.D., ABPP, a psychologist and host of “Psych Up Live” on International Talk Radio, formerly taught at Long Island University Post and is the author of three books including Healing Together for Couples.