- A recent study examined what it means to be and act like a true ally through the LGBT lens.
- The research defined three crucial components of allyship: acceptance, action, and humility.
- The quality of allyship is directly related to the perceived quality of the specific relationship.
According to lead author Jacqueline M. Chen, a University of Utah professor, our society's current ways put LGBT people at higher risk for serious mental health issues than their straight, cis-gender counterparts. Sincere and resourceful allies can help mitigate the negative effects of discrimination, humiliation, and bullying experienced by the marginalized community.
“Interestingly, despite the fact that allyship behaviors are ostensibly intended to benefit the members of the LGBT community, it is typically a non-LGBT person who self-designates as an ally, without any particular endorsement or nomination from LGBT community members,” writes Chen. “Because allyship is intended to benefit LGBT people, it seems important to determine on what basis LGBT individuals perceive others to be allies.”
Over the course of four studies, researchers recruited LGBT people and collected open-ended responses about their perception of allyship to build and validate an allyship scale. They even collected experiences of LGBT individuals living with members outside their community to explore their impact on interpersonal relationships and the individual’s overall well-being.
The research defined three crucial components of allyship:
- Acceptance. Being genuine and non-prejudiced.
- Action. Taking visible action to stand up against acts of discrimination and inequality.
- Humility. Being honest and open to acknowledging one’s shortcomings while identifying areas of improvement.
Furthermore, they also explained how allyship is different from just showing support to someone. Unlike offering general support and simply showing up in a moment of need, an ally would go a step further to really show their solidarity. As Chen defines it:
Being a good ally is about affirming the person’s sexual or gender identity, demonstrating that you accept and validate this aspect of the person, taking actions to reduce any personal biases that you might have, and even speaking up to stop systemic biases such as discriminatory policies as well.
This can happen in two ways:
- Directly. For example, demonstrating against anti-LGBT laws or working toward changing workplace policies that promote bias.
- Indirectly. Enabling LGBT individuals to stand up for themselves by openly identifying as allies and showcasing acceptance.
Not only is this seen to improve mental health, self-esteem, confidence, overall well-being, and life satisfaction of LGBT people, but it also significantly impacts their relationships with others. The quality of allyship is directly related to the perceived quality of the specific relationship.
Here, the researchers uncovered a bitter truth: While friends become chosen family with whom LGBT individuals willingly share their truth and their lives, families related by blood still show the need to be more educated about the possible detrimental impact they can have because of their non-allyship.
Parents of LGBT children would especially benefit from seeking advice from counselors who could help them learn the ways of allyship. It could help protect children that don’t fall into conventional norms from feeling even more alienated than they already do.
Chen reminds us that, like any other relationship, allyship has many faces and is a journey of continuous growth and learning rather than a destination: “One’s allyship is not permanently earned. It is something we should work to maintain and improve over time."