So Happy Together

Tips for Building a More Satisfying Marriage

Rob Pascale and Lou Primavera Ph.D.

Mediating Other People’s Marriage Problems

When a couple has problems, they will look to their friends for comfort, support, and an ally. It is best to refer them to a professional.

Marriage in Lockdown

Sheltering in place has a number of issues that can put a strain on relationships.

Re-Marriages

On average, people re-marry within four years after their divorce. Is the second one better?

Me Versus Us

What happens when you and your spouse want different things?

Working Wives

How has the norm of both wives and husbands going to work affected marriage?

How Do Gender Roles Impact Marriage?

Who's better at marriage: couples who hold traditional gender roles or contemporary gender roles?

Drifting Apart

Once the kids are gone and you retire, you may find out that you and your spouse are in different places in life.

Emotion Work

Being supportive in all its forms strengthens a relationship. The amount you give is roughly equal to what you get back.

Would You Like Your Partner to Change?

It only takes one psychologist to change a light bulb, but only if the light bulb wants to change.

Do You Consider Options Outside of Your Marriage?

Truly committed people may use mental tricks like thinking about romantic alternatives in less than flattering ways.

Male and Female Brains

Men and women have different brains and this tends to result in different characteristics.

Mars Married to Venus

Men and women may have different views on sex, money, and emotional support.

Are You Rational About Your Marriage?

If you want to fix your marital problems, start by fixing your thinking.

Parents Need to Agree on How to Raise Their Children

When parenting styles clash, there will be negative consequences for the children.

Are You in a Power Struggle?

Dominating your spouse, or being dominated, leads to a dysfunctional marriage.

Is Your Partner Emotionally Mature?

Here's why it's important for a long-term relationship.

Better Ways to Communicate with Your Partner

Being honest is effective, if you don’t attack your partner with your words.

The Importance of an Effective Communication Style

Avoiding fights while finding solutions to marital problems requires the right language and mindset.

More of Our Personal Baggage

Do you know your behavioral style? Our behavioral styles can greatly affect our marriage.

Marital Stability and Our Personal Baggage

Each partner brings along personal baggage to their relationship. Our personalities, the characteristics that make us unique individuals, are one form of baggage.

Married with Kids

Having children changes marriages in many ways. Be prepared to change your behavior and your expectations.

Sometimes Lack of Money Is the Root of Relationship Evil

It is important for couples to agree on how they will handle money and debt.

Some Fundamental Principles of Human Thinking

The way we think greatly influences the way we interact with our spouses and can have a profound effect on our marriage.

The Social Balancing Act

It is important for couples to negotiate a solution when they disagree on how much time they should socialize and how much time they should spend together.