So Happy Together

Marriage

Mediating Other People’s Marriage Problems

Rob Pascale and Lou Primavera Ph.D. on June 9, 2020

When a couple has problems, they will look to their friends for comfort, support, and an ally. It is best to refer them to a professional.

When a couple has problems, they will look to their friends for comfort, support, and an ally. It is best to refer them to a professional.

Marriage

Marriage in Lockdown

Rob Pascale and Lou Primavera Ph.D. on May 11, 2020

Sheltering in place has a number of issues that can put a strain on relationships.

Sheltering in place has a number of issues that can put a strain on relationships.

On average, people re-marry within four years after their divorce. Is the second one better?

What happens when you and your spouse want different things?

How has the norm of both wives and husbands going to work affected marriage?

Gender

How Do Gender Roles Impact Marriage?

Rob Pascale and Lou Primavera Ph.D. on January 7, 2020

Who's better at marriage: couples who hold traditional gender roles or contemporary gender roles?

Who's better at marriage: couples who hold traditional gender roles or contemporary gender roles?

Marriage

Drifting Apart

Rob Pascale and Lou Primavera Ph.D. on December 9, 2019

Once the kids are gone and you retire, you may find out that you and your spouse are in different places in life.

Once the kids are gone and you retire, you may find out that you and your spouse are in different places in life.

Career

Emotion Work

Rob Pascale and Lou Primavera Ph.D. on October 29, 2019

Being supportive in all its forms strengthens a relationship. The amount you give is roughly equal to what you get back.

Being supportive in all its forms strengthens a relationship. The amount you give is roughly equal to what you get back.

Marriage

Would You Like Your Partner to Change?

Rob Pascale and Lou Primavera Ph.D. on September 25, 2019

It only takes one psychologist to change a light bulb, but only if the light bulb wants to change.

It only takes one psychologist to change a light bulb, but only if the light bulb wants to change.

Marriage

Do You Consider Options Outside of Your Marriage?

Rob Pascale and Lou Primavera Ph.D. on June 6, 2019

Truly committed people may use mental tricks like thinking about romantic alternatives in less than flattering ways.

Truly committed people may use mental tricks like thinking about romantic alternatives in less than flattering ways.

Sex

Male and Female Brains

Rob Pascale and Lou Primavera Ph.D. on April 25, 2019

Men and women have different brains and this tends to result in different characteristics.

Men and women have different brains and this tends to result in different characteristics.

Sex

Mars Married to Venus

Rob Pascale and Lou Primavera Ph.D. on March 29, 2019

Men and women may have different views on sex, money, and emotional support.

Men and women may have different views on sex, money, and emotional support.

Spirituality

Are You Rational About Your Marriage?

Rob Pascale and Lou Primavera Ph.D. on February 28, 2019

If you want to fix your marital problems, start by fixing your thinking.

If you want to fix your marital problems, start by fixing your thinking.

Marriage

Parents Need to Agree on How to Raise Their Children

Rob Pascale and Lou Primavera Ph.D. on January 29, 2019

When parenting styles clash, there will be negative consequences for the children.

When parenting styles clash, there will be negative consequences for the children.

Marriage

Are You in a Power Struggle?

Rob Pascale and Lou Primavera Ph.D. on December 19, 2018

Dominating your spouse, or being dominated, leads to a dysfunctional marriage.

Dominating your spouse, or being dominated, leads to a dysfunctional marriage.

Marriage

Is Your Partner Emotionally Mature?

Rob Pascale and Lou Primavera Ph.D. on November 21, 2018

Here's why it's important for a long-term relationship.

Here's why it's important for a long-term relationship.

Forgiveness

Better Ways to Communicate with Your Partner

Rob Pascale and Lou Primavera Ph.D. on October 24, 2018

Being honest is effective, if you don’t attack your partner with your words.

Being honest is effective, if you don’t attack your partner with your words.

Avoiding fights while finding solutions to marital problems requires the right language and mindset.

Marriage

More of Our Personal Baggage

Rob Pascale and Lou Primavera Ph.D. on August 27, 2018

Do you know your behavioral style? Our behavioral styles can greatly affect our marriage.

Do you know your behavioral style? Our behavioral styles can greatly affect our marriage.

Marriage

Marital Stability and Our Personal Baggage

Rob Pascale and Lou Primavera Ph.D. on July 16, 2018

Each partner brings along personal baggage to their relationship. Our personalities, the characteristics that make us unique individuals, are one form of baggage.

Each partner brings along personal baggage to their relationship. Our personalities, the characteristics that make us unique individuals, are one form of baggage.