Here are 10 skills that will clarify your visions and bring you closer to your life goals.
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Laughter, pleasure, malice, and the pursuit of adult fun
Gina Barreca Ph.D.
It's tough to relinquish grudges. Are there words and actions you find unforgivable, even if they happened in the past? Here's how others have handled being unable to forgive.
Along with days of glory, garden-variety moments of satisfaction are also fleeting. Our ordinary days need cultivation and attention: They are what we harvest in our lifetimes.
A dazzlingly honest memoir about teaching Shakespeare in Italy as his wife confronts cancer—and his students confront their own identity issues—"The Good New" is a must-read.
Should I carry mace? Should I get a switchblade? Should I, I whispered, just go get myself a gun?
You don't have to fall in love with the teacher. You could fall in love with the subject and become the teacher.
Would anyone watch if the ad said, “Upper-Middle-Class White Guys Damage Cars to Prove a Point”?
My mother left school after the eighth grade, as her six sisters and one brother had done, in order to go to work. Yet our house was filled with books.
The best poetry has always made us gasp and laugh and has always relied on psychological and spiritual revelation.
Her grandiosity is not enough to cover her shame and the fantasy that she will be regarded as a princess does not truly mitigate the fact that she works like a chambermaid.
My fears and anxieties have taught me that even if they can't be entirely overcome, they can be faced and sometimes outwitted. For that knowledge, I am grateful.
Forget those articles in Cosmopolitan asking, "What Do Men Want in Bed?" The answer is simple: They want sex and a sandwich. Maybe pizza.
It doesn't go away, but if you work at it, usually with a good therapist, feelings of being a fake come less often, pass more swiftly, and do less damage.
I refuse to spend money on "anti-aging" products. I want to age. The opposite of aging isn't staying young; it's death.
Kale is overrated. Don't kid yourself. It's a fad. Next we'll be eating plankton, and they'll be telling us to sieve it through our teeth like whales. Have coffee and a bagel.
They'd fallen for a young woman who appeared to be the most independent, self-sufficient, assertive and self-confident girl they'd ever met. I was all that--but only in public.
Seriously, kid? Do you watch porn in class and then watch the professor’s lectures at home by yourself?
This is what women look like when we're really laughing, I thought. This was me, and us, all those years ago. This is me, and us, still. What a luxury.
The way that other Doomsday Preppers might line their cellars with canned goods, gallons of water, boxes of batteries, and cans of Spam, I'm stockpiling every book ever written.
The perfect is the enemy of the good. You can rewrite, you can revise, you can refine, but the first thing you have to do is write.
We have laws to update our "Do Not Call" lists because we don't want to have our privacy violated. So how is it an imposition to make sure people ask erotic partners for consent?
Change the language you use everyday and you can change your life for the better. Words matter.
It was only after my uncle died that I found a photograph of him and Fred dressed as Rhett and Scarlett; Fred was a coy Vivian Leigh and my uncle a smiling Clark Gable.
"Parenthood is a contagious disease," Jeff Terry observes. "It's like smoking. Even though we can witness, firsthand, the devastation caused by parenting, it spreads.”
Even if most fathers mean well, their advice needs a context.
Romance can be a form of narcotic for a certain kind of woman, and Emma Bovary is the embodiment of the woman whose life can be shattered by too heavy a dependence on fantasy.
With a few questions, you can learn something significant about a person's life.
Misinformation about sex is just about as pernicious as no information about sex. Both are worse than having lots of information about sex.
Nobody said being a mother was easy; perhaps it's time to say that being a daughter to a certain kind of mother is very, very hard.
What do you wish you'd had the opportunity, the talent, the strength, and the discipline to place into your life's intellectual carry-on?
Remembering to laugh is essential. It can’t make the darkness go away, but it does admit the light.
Gina Barreca, Ph.D., is a professor of English at UConn, and the author of It's Not That I'm Bitter: How I Learned to Stop Worrying About Visible Panty Lines and Conquered the World.