So, make up your mind- DO you want to know how men feel or don't you?
If you ASK a man how you look, you'd better actually want to know. "You look fine, and besides, it's a low-key occasion and nobody will care how you look anyway" strikes most straight men as a perfectly fine answer. If you DON'T actually want to know what your husband or boyfriend thinks, don't ask him. Ask your female friends or gay male friends, since it's obvious their opinions are the only ones that count in your mind!
When your husband or boyfriend sulks or fumes because his favorite football team lost a big game, do you lend a sympathetic ear? Maybe, but I'm betting you tell him, "Get over it! It's just a game! It isn't that important! Relax!" Which, come to think of it, is often sound advice.
Finally, for a comedienne, you DON'T have much of a sense of humor. Most women don't. I swear, I've told the "Death... by Bunga Bunga" joke and the "Boys' Pants Half Off" joke a million times, and women never laugh!