Our eyes, gestures, and tone bring us together in a more profound way than words alone. It’s why we look hopefully toward the return of in-person, face-to-face connection.
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Laughter, pleasure, malice, and the pursuit of adult fun
Gina Barreca Ph.D.
Looking up is an essential daily activity. We need to raise our eyes and be willing to see brightness or stars above even (or especially) when the world looks a little dark.
“The bonds are similar to marriage but formed differently: they are formed by shared hardships, dark humor, physical pains, fears and accomplishments."
To tell a heartbroken friend, “Why don’t you just stop torturing yourself? Why not get over it already?" is like scribbling condolences on a Post-It note outside a funeral home.
Time to toss away the depleted, crippled, hollowed-out and bankrupted words and clichés we've been substituting for original and clear thinking.
You can be high achieving, extroverted, sociable, and self-confident and be lonely. You can also be an eminent introvert, usually happy in cultivated solitude, and still be lonely.
There are people who, when given a compliment, immediately reply with: "Thanks, but...” “Thanks, but” is the motto of the sinister self who insists you’re not all you seem to be.
Even those who are not perfectionists show perfectionist traits when confined in tight quarters. Let's just admit that quarantine is not helping us all "shine."
As a lonely child raised by a lonely mother, I longed for friends. I now cherish them. Don't let lethargy or anxiety interrupt your connections.
Pamela Katz, screenwriter and author, discusses how superficial fears are connected to deeper global ones. She also mentions that Zoom has a "touch up my appearance” option.
She defined her "real source" of constant anxiety about working during COVID-19 as the “Rear Window Phenomena": watching others while also watching herself. Why is everybody else OK?
In a world where we can’t find safety and can’t discover who the “enemy” really is, even nightmares can offer relief.
Nurses are experts on human nature who recognize and attend to hidden wounds, disguised pains, and overlooked necessities. During the COVID-19 pandemic, we are especially grateful.
Life itself is a group project; we’ve all got a deadline. We have to forgive those who let us down the way we hope to be forgiven by those we’ve disappointed.
When I was 20, Jane Fonda at 40 looked better than I did. When I was 40, Jane Fonda at 60 looked better. Why would it have changed now?
Ever found yourself feeling as if too much is not enough?
Why on earth does anybody write? To make a story out of everything.
Learn the names of everybody you deal with on a regular basis and your life will be immeasurably better.
The greatest leaders aren’t at the head of the group; they are a part of a circle, indistinguishable from those who hold strong at their side.
Real romance doesn't rely on escaping from life; it depends on facing it together. Very little swashbuckling is involved and heaving bosoms are not mandatory.
I live for scraps. I want the burnt parts, the crispy pieces, the gravy and the bones. Small pieces and trifles, scraped off the sides, have the best flavor.
Unsurprisingly, perhaps, Jim Tilley’s novel was celebrated immediately upon publication for its clear, uncompromising, and complex depiction of a transgender adolescent, Jules.
Why is it more satisfying to trap speculation inside the cage of bet than simply to disagree, allow the question go free-range, and see what happens?
“They still sell Jean Nate, Gina. You can buy it at Walgreens. You can get it at Target. They didn’t stop making it just because you stopped buying it."
My problems, both emotional and cognitive, had to do with getting stuff in the right order: I couldn’t do it.
Losing something adds a moment of chaos to life by introducing an unforeseen element into our day. It’s a humbling experience—and one that makes us face our own lack of control.
I typed in a constellation of physical ailments bothering me that night. Then I hit "search." It was a mistake. Even the cats became anxious.
I've had a lot of experience with losing. I was always on the losing team—if I made it onto a team—at school. You probably have your own version of the same story. Most of us do.
“Candidate Pete Buttigieg will find himself scrutinized continually for every hug and touch he initiates—and even those he doesn’t initiate,” argues Guest Blogger Nicholas Newman.
A tender and intelligent approach to dementia changes our vocabulary and helps us understand it without fear.
Male lawmakers outraged by the thought that women can freely make our own decisions about sex and reproduction are infuriated by women wanting choice.
Gina Barreca, Ph.D., is a professor of English at UConn, and the author of It's Not That I'm Bitter: How I Learned to Stop Worrying About Visible Panty Lines and Conquered the World.