How Confident Are You Really?

Self-confidence begins with knowing yourself.

Posted Oct 13, 2018

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I've written about self-confidence in my last few posts as my new book, The Self-Confidence Workbook: A Guide to Overcoming Self-Doubt and Improving Self-Esteem is due out in just a little over a week! In this post, I explained how self-confidence is linked to almost every area involved in a happy life. My last post, 13 Things Confident People Don't Do, has been viewed over 100,000 times in just over a week. Clearly, confidence is a hot topic.

The quiz below will give you some insight into your current level of confidence. Read each statement below and circle A if it is true for you most of the time, B if it is true for you some of the time, and C if it is not usually true. (You can jot down your answers on a scrap of paper.) At the end, I'll tell you what your answers indicate.                                                                 

I have a realistic sense of my strengths and weaknesses.     A      B       C

I am willing to take risks for something I believe in.                A       B       C

I plan and prepare for new experiences.                                  A       B       C

I have ways to cope with fear and doubt.                                 A       B       C

I take time to remember my past successes.                            A       B       C

I recognize failure as a part of life.                                             A       B       C

I can cope with unexpected changes.                                       A       B       C

I am comfortable asking for help and support.                         A       B       C

I know what I value in life.                                                           A       B       C

My actions generally line up with my values.                             A       B       C

I don’t give up easily.                                                                    A       B       C

I realize not everyone will like or approve of me.                       A       B       C

I have a sense of my inherent worth.                                           A       B       C

I understand setbacks are normal and to be expected.             A       B       C

I don’t beat up on myself when I’m going through a rough time. A       B       C

My thoughts don’t paralyze me when trying something new.      A       B       C

Here’s how to interpret your score:

Mostly A’s: Your confidence is on solid ground. You’re doing a great job of not allowing obstacles to get in your way of meeting valued goals

Mostly B’s: You’re right in the middle, sometimes recognizing your accomplishments and other times, focusing on where you’re falling short. Your answers indicate you may fall prey to common pitfalls that undermine self-confidence.  

Mostly C’s: Your self-confidence is a little shaky, but that’s OK.  Remember, there is no one with “total” self-confidence all of the time. You may need to ease up on yourself, notice your accomplishments, and find ways to handle setbacks.  

Adapted from The Self-Confidence Workbook: A Guide to Overcoming Self-Doubt and Improving Self-Esteem, published by Althea Press. Copyright © 2018 by Barbara Markway and Celia Ampel. The book offers practical, accessible strategies to get to know your best self and see real-world results. The workbook outlines a 5-step program that begins with setting goals and uses evidence-based strategies to foster acceptance, mindfulness, and self-compassion. It also includes interactive exercises, checklists, and quizzes, as well as a guide to understanding self-confidence and what it means for you.