Is Social Anxiety Getting You Down?
7 ways to cope when you have social anxiety and depression
Posted May 13, 2013
1. Too little people contact. Everyone needs a certain amount of social interaction to feel happy and content (even introverts). If you don't get enough people contact, it's natural to feel sad, lonely, and even depressed. Even if you’re anxious around certain people, hopefully there are at least a few people with whom you feel comfortable. Make sure you rely on them for support.
3. Self-Blame: You may blame yourself for having this problem.
It's important to remember that no one chooses to have social anxiety disorder any more than one chooses to have diabetes, for example. Both are very real problems, deserving of careful attention and treatment. Beating up on yourself serves no useful purpose; it only keeps you stuck. Instead, try self-acceptance and self-compassion.
4. Inactivity: A vicious cycle can develop in which you feel depressed, and then become less active (you don’t feel like doing anything). The less active you are, the more depressed you feel. If you're having difficulty breaking out of this cycle, write out a daily schedule by the hour or even half-hour of what you will do when, and then stick to it. This will seem very difficult at first, but it's enormously useful. Schedule a few walks around the neighborhood or a nearby park. Exercise is a great depression buster.
6. Common underlying factors: It’s possible that both depression and anxiety disorders share some underlying contributing factors. You may be vulnerable to both types of problems for the same reason, whether it’s an inherited biological predisposition, or environmental factors that influence the development of both these disorders.
7. Hopelessness: “I'll never get any better.” This thought frequently pops up in people’s minds. Know that it’s simply not true. Read success stories (there are some on this blog here and here) to generate hope. And remember, some day you will be one of those success stories.
You might also like: The Social Anxiety Spiral,
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I am the co-author of Dying of Embarrassment, Painfully Shy, and Nurturing the Shy Child. Dying of Embarrassment: Help for Social Anxiety & Phobia was found to be one of the most useful and scientifically grounded self-help books in a research study published in Professional Psychology, Research and Practice. I’ve also been featured in the award-winning PBS documentary, Afraid of People.