Shameless Woman

Pursuing an integrated life of sensuality, health, healing and rejuvenation

Pamela Madsen

New Year Baby Lust: What You Need to Know

Let’s say that the calendar doesn’t stop after December 23, 2012. You are still right here, and really want a baby! What then? What’s your action plan? And perhaps the bigger question is what do you know about your fertility?

Put Your Attention on Sexual Arousal, Not Orgasm

Sexual arousal is not a limited experience, it is a full life experience.

The Newest Trend: Women Taking Retreats

Retreats are about going deeper, and creates an opportunity for us to explore new ways of being and to consider changes we might want to bring into our lives. When women go on retreat they are often seeking a new perspective and investing in their own lives.

Can You See Me Sexy? Can I Feel Me Sexy?

Many people are tied to old belief systems about their self image. A woman who is worried about her appearance can't relax enough to let her true sensuality rise up and be playful.

Can You Be Comfortable Being Uncomfortable?

Learning how to be comfortable while being uncomfortable, is something that most of us have to learn how to do. So many of us can't tolerate being uncomfortable for even short amounts of time. We fill up our discomfort with all kinds of distractions such as emotional high drama, eating, drinking, drugs and various forms of addiction, or abusive behavior.

The Vagina

Once again, scientists, feminists, and anyone with a microphone has projected their fears and anxieties about women onto our vaginas.

G-Spot Amnesia or 350 Years to Rediscovery?

What is it about female bodies that are so powerful and amazing that we keep trying to bury it, only to have it emerge as another great big new discovery—until it scares us again into another wave of female genital amnesia?

Many Shades of Grey: Reclaiming ‘Humanistic’ Sex Therapy

After scanning the literature on the human relationship with sex, I have come up with this very deep and profound conclusion: “Sex is hard”. And it may very well be the gateway for us humans to being whole.

Silly Human Love Relationship Tricks To Keep The Sexy Flowing

"Keep it simple and keep it hot" is the best kind of relationship tip list. These are the tips that keep my own attention and happy meter going in relationship. Maybe it will spark some ideas for you or remind you that it might be time to practice a little relationship love.

Body Image and Sexuality: Understanding Our Core Erotic Wounds

We don't hear about “Core Erotic Wounds”; the part of our sexual nature that is often damaged in childhood. Uncovering and understanding this often unintentionally caused wound can help us change our relationship with our bodies and our sexuality.

The Power of Seduction

Sex is when desire is met. Seduction is not about the culmination or gratification of desire, it is about the thrill of the desire itself.

"Sex Should Come Naturally" is Nonsense

It never fails. I post a blog and someone responds in comments with something like this: "sex comes naturally. If you need instructions on how to ENJOY it, something's very wrong." Whenever a read a comment like that, it takes everything I have inside of me not to respond in one long and very loud rant.

Discovering Your True Sexual Nature Takes Guts, Time, and Practice

One of the more challenging things for many people when it comes to sex is to find what really turns them on after having removed all of their shame and judgment. The next big step is to then state their desires out loud to themselves and to their intimate partners.

Love and the Little or No Sex Marriage

Sexual desire, unmet erotic needs, mismatched libidos, and the ravages of time in a long-term relationship or marriage are among the most common rants of the sex unhappy.

Spiritual Solutions: Answers to Life's Greatest Challenges

Recently, I noticed that my kids are entering adulthood just as I'm leaving it. My friend Lisa asked me where I am going, and to tell her the truth — I'm not exactly sure. But what I do believe, is something Deepak Chopra also believes: Change and transformation is your birth right.

Who's Infertile? Us? Stop Ignoring Infertility

People can survive infertility, but it's time for them to thrive through infertility. This can only happen when all of us stop ignoring infertility. So let's raise our collective voices and speak the truth about infertility. Infertility is not a sign. A curse or a punishment. It's a disease that can be prevented, treated and cured.

Even Feminists Enjoy Sexual Surrender

Rarely has a news magazine story generated as much intra-feminist flack as Katie Roiphe's Newsweek cover "The Fantasy Life of Working Women" that went live on the web yesterday. Within hours of its upload, women had their dukes up, aching to get in on the ‘who you callin’ anti-feminist’ smackdown. There is a lot of trash talkin’ going on.

Claiming Responsibility for Our Own Female Desires: Spankings Included

One of the central aspects of sexual submission is that you can experience it without claiming responsibility, without committing to actually wanting it, which has a natural appeal to both our puritan past and our post-ironic present.

The Male Side of Baby-Making Sex

Those on the female side of the equation of "Baby-Making Sex" have little sympathy for the guys. After all, it is often the ladies who are the ones taking the medications, getting their blood drawn, having the pelvic exams, and experiencing mood swings. What do the guys have to do?

The Lies We Tell Ourselves About Sex

It’s fine for creatures of fiction to go off the deep end à la "Story of O” or “Beauty” in Anne Rice’s contribution to erotica and have nothing else to do but devote themselves utterly to sex. But real people, the ones who dare to step outside the sexual box, are in fact indistinguishable from everybody else.

Unleashing the Power of Your Pelvis

What if it was possible to use your sexual energy not just for great sex, but to fuel other parts of your life like your career, fertility, or even crafty activities such as painting or cooking? It's all about harnessing the power of your pelvis, and then unleashing that energy right where you want it.

Sex Education: It's Not Just For Teenagers Anymore

My mother once said to me that she didn't have to go to college to learn how to make a baby. What she was trying to say to me, is that she didn't have to go to school to learn how to have sex. That might be true on a basic level, but no one is born knowing everything about sex and what we get in high school is not that helpful as adults.

Your Brain on Sex or Meditation

When you meditate, the left side of your brain becomes activated and when you engage in sexual activity, the right side of your brain runs the show. Both of these brain responses helps you to stop constant thinking or talking in your brain. Stilling the mind is where meditation meets sexual bliss.

Lady Porn

So many women have asked me how to get their sexy on—in their own bodies. They want to know how they can turn themselves on. Do they need a partner? Can they relight their own pilot light with young children to raise, or a sexually stale relationship? It's the million dollar question; how can we raise our sexual desire up a notch or two?

Perceptions on Conception: She Thinks It's All Her Responsibility

A recently released survey shows that women who are trying to get pregnant worry way more than their male partners, despite the fact that half of all fertility problems are due to the male or a combination of both female and male factors.

Sperm Alert: What to Know When She Wants to Have a Baby!

Many men don't think a lot about their sperm until the baby-making tsunami takes over their lives. And even then, your sperm may not be on the top of your list of baby-making concerns. The first thing that may come to mind when the first rumbles of baby lust hits your radar might be worries about money, sleep, and your sex life.

Redefining Marriage in America: The Unopen Yet Flexible Marriage

Ironically, it is the disclosure of Newt Gingrich's ex-wife, and the defensive embarrassment of the conservative Republican presidential hopeful that has taken the conversation of monogamy, monogamish, open marriage and polyamory into polite society.

Tips for Surviving Monogamy

Sexual boredom and the lack of erotic fire is the main reason why some people reach outside of their long term relationship even though they are still happy on all other levels with their partner.

Sexual CPR

Sexual CPR is about breathing new life into your erotic relationship. Finding a way to flame desire. Valentine's Day is a great excuse to take out the resuscitation paddles and apply with vigor.

The Shaming of Paula Deen

The ruthless shaming of Paula Deen, a celebrity chef on the Food Network and so much more has been going on for weeks now, ever since she disclosed to the world that she had Type 2 Diabetes. What does this say about us? Is there something about someone being successful, happy and living into her passion that makes us just want to shout "Gotcha!"?