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Three Secrets About How to Make Sex Better

Telling secrets that might help people have more fun in bed.

These days I am careful about conversations on sexuality, I have come to realize that there is still a tremendous amount of taboo around female sexual desire. It amazes me and stuns me that women stay in a place of uncomfortable sexual endurance rather than a place of delicious sexual pleasure.

The only way that we can break these taboos is to talk about the things that can make some people uncomfortable.

And what are the three most common secrets and desires of women that they might not tell you?

  1. You just can't have too much lubricant. For many women adding a lubricant to lovemaking can make sex go from uncomfortable to ecstatic. To make things even better, combine the lubricant with female topical arousal gel. And this is not just about women who experience the "vaginal dryness" that can happen quite normally in women as they age, this can be about adding pleasure. Lubricant can enhance female pleasure.
  2. Women can suffer from sexual boredom just like men. According to many experts on relationships and female sexuality—if a woman is feeling emotionally connected and loved—she is turned on forever. It is men who need sexual variety.
  3. Many women's sexual experiences could be remarkably improved by learning how to receive pleasure as opposed to developing skills on how to give pleasure. If you look around, there are a million courses on how a woman can learn to please a man. It is embedded in our culture. We have created a culture of women "doers" as opposed to giving permission for women to simply receive. It is an unimaginable pleasure and concept for many women to simply lay back and receive pleasure.