Sexual Intelligence

Therapy

You, Therapy, and AI

Marty Klein Ph.D. on September 11, 2026

Personal Perspective: AI's goal is to keep us engaged with it, so it rarely challenges us. Instead, it encourages us to feel understood—and to forget we're talking with a machine.

Personal Perspective: AI's goal is to keep us engaged with it, so it rarely challenges us. Instead, it encourages us to feel understood—and to forget we're talking with a machine.

Sex

"Why Won't You Initiate Sex More?"

Marty Klein Ph.D. on August 8, 2026

Some people complain that their partner rarely initiates sex. They wonder why their partner doesn't initiate more. The better question might be, why are they so upset about this?

Some people complain that their partner rarely initiates sex. They wonder why their partner doesn't initiate more. The better question might be, why are they so upset about this?

Infidelity

Myths About Infidelity

Marty Klein Ph.D. on June 14, 2026

Infidelity is one of the top reasons people see a therapist. Unfortunately, much of what many people believe about infidelity is wrong. Here are some common myths.

Infidelity is one of the top reasons people see a therapist. Unfortunately, much of what many people believe about infidelity is wrong. Here are some common myths.

Sex

Is There Such a Thing as "Erectile Dysfunction"?

Marty Klein Ph.D. on June 9, 2026

Popular media often say that half of men under age 40 struggle with erectile dysfunction (ED). But unrealistic expectations about how erections work are far more common than ED.

Popular media often say that half of men under age 40 struggle with erectile dysfunction (ED). But unrealistic expectations about how erections work are far more common than ED.

Pornography

What Women Hate About Porn

Marty Klein Ph.D. on April 26, 2026

Porn arguments may really be about selfishness, hostility, or irresponsibility.

Porn arguments may really be about selfishness, hostility, or irresponsibility.

Sex

Want to Increase Your (or Their) Libido?

Marty Klein Ph.D. on March 28, 2026

Issues of sexual desire—too little, too much, wrong person, unusual circumstances—are common in couples of all genders. One effective approach is to examine non-sexual issues.

Issues of sexual desire—too little, too much, wrong person, unusual circumstances—are common in couples of all genders. One effective approach is to examine non-sexual issues.

Sexual Orientation

Am I Bisexual? Am I Asexual? These Are the Wrong Questions

Marty Klein Ph.D. on March 17, 2026

As people re-evaluate their sexual orientation, do labels such as "asexual" and "demisexual" give them permission to be who they are, or do they undermine growth?

As people re-evaluate their sexual orientation, do labels such as "asexual" and "demisexual" give them permission to be who they are, or do they undermine growth?

Sex

Performance Anxiety: Understandable, Unnecessary, Changeable

Marty Klein Ph.D. on March 6, 2026

Performance anxiety is a common experience before, during, and after sex. It's a response to narrow, rigid expectations, which people can learn to discard.

Performance anxiety is a common experience before, during, and after sex. It's a response to narrow, rigid expectations, which people can learn to discard.

Pornography

Conflict About Porn Is Not About Porn

Marty Klein Ph.D. on December 25, 2025

Many heterosexual couples argue about porn use. Rather than blaming "porn addiction" or porn's diabolical attraction, couples need to face what is a relationship problem.

Many heterosexual couples argue about porn use. Rather than blaming "porn addiction" or porn's diabolical attraction, couples need to face what is a relationship problem.

Estrogen

Estrogen Finally OK'd (Again) By FDA

Marty Klein Ph.D. on December 15, 2025

Science confirms a safe, effective treatment for the symptoms of menopause. Every woman over 45 should ask her doctor about it, as it's most effective if started before menopause.

Science confirms a safe, effective treatment for the symptoms of menopause. Every woman over 45 should ask her doctor about it, as it's most effective if started before menopause.

Relationships

The Problem With 'Love Languages'

Marty Klein Ph.D. on November 28, 2025

Every person in a relationship has their preferred ways of expressing love and of feeling loved. Some people use the "love language" concept to justify their rigidity about this.

Every person in a relationship has their preferred ways of expressing love and of feeling loved. Some people use the "love language" concept to justify their rigidity about this.

Sex

When Women Are Pressured for Sex

Marty Klein Ph.D. on September 29, 2025

Many couples are in conflict about contrasting levels of sexual desire. Pressuring and acquiescing are a common dynamic in such couples, making things worse.

Many couples are in conflict about contrasting levels of sexual desire. Pressuring and acquiescing are a common dynamic in such couples, making things worse.

Infidelity

Mistakes People Make After Infidelity Is Revealed

Marty Klein Ph.D. on September 23, 2025

People have strong emotions after discovering they've been betrayed, and they often respond impulsively, which can be self-destructive. Here are some common ill-advised reactions.

People have strong emotions after discovering they've been betrayed, and they often respond impulsively, which can be self-destructive. Here are some common ill-advised reactions.

Orgasm

Let's Discuss Faking Orgasms

Marty Klein Ph.D. on September 12, 2025

According to multiple surveys, millions of people of all genders fake orgasms. The well-known reasons include shame, a desire to avoid conflict, and fear of abandonment.

According to multiple surveys, millions of people of all genders fake orgasms. The well-known reasons include shame, a desire to avoid conflict, and fear of abandonment.

Sex

6 Ways Social Media Undermines Sex

Marty Klein Ph.D. on June 27, 2025

Professionals used to say, "If people had more information, they could create more enjoyable sex." People turn to social media for "information"—often with disappointing results.

Professionals used to say, "If people had more information, they could create more enjoyable sex." People turn to social media for "information"—often with disappointing results.

Sex

Bach, the Piano, and Erections

Marty Klein Ph.D. on June 13, 2025

Many people expect their bodies to "perform" during sex under sub-optimal conditions. Our bodies aren't built that way—which does not mean we have a "dysfunction."

Many people expect their bodies to "perform" during sex under sub-optimal conditions. Our bodies aren't built that way—which does not mean we have a "dysfunction."

Sex

Harmful Sex Words

Marty Klein Ph.D. on June 2, 2025

Most therapists understand the power of the narrative process to shape patients' reality. Some words used to discuss sex should be redefined or eliminated altogether.

Most therapists understand the power of the narrative process to shape patients' reality. Some words used to discuss sex should be redefined or eliminated altogether.

Sex

Sexual Desire: Therapy's Dirty Little Secret

Marty Klein Ph.D. on March 28, 2025

Therapists know a few things about desire—mostly, what diminishes it. We also know the experience of desire changes as we age. But there's a lot about desire we don't understand.

Therapists know a few things about desire—mostly, what diminishes it. We also know the experience of desire changes as we age. But there's a lot about desire we don't understand.

Sex

Sexual Products and Therapies That People Don't Use Enough

Marty Klein Ph.D. on March 18, 2025

Many consumer products and services make sex safer and more enjoyable. But many people don't use them—they're embarrassed, confused, or won't admit their interest in such things.

Many consumer products and services make sex safer and more enjoyable. But many people don't use them—they're embarrassed, confused, or won't admit their interest in such things.

Sex

Is Your Therapist Giving You Bad Sex Advice?

Marty Klein Ph.D. on March 4, 2025

Your therapist probably received almost no training in sexuality. Western culture is full of fear and misinformation regarding sex—which your therapist may have absorbed.

Your therapist probably received almost no training in sexuality. Western culture is full of fear and misinformation regarding sex—which your therapist may have absorbed.