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Law and Crime
How to Keep an Incel From Becoming a Sex Offender

Steven Ing MFT on April 18, 2024

Incels, like everyone, want love and connection, but if they do not have the tools to get their sexual needs met legally, they remain at risk of becoming sex offenders.

Incels, like everyone, want love and connection, but if they do not have the tools to get their sexual needs met legally, they remain at risk of becoming sex offenders.

Relationships
What's Wrong With the Idea of "Love Languages"

Steven Ing MFT on January 31, 2024

People who are capable of giving and receiving love are fluent in all five languages as well as the gazillion other ways people express love.

People who are capable of giving and receiving love are fluent in all five languages as well as the gazillion other ways people express love.

Relationships
How to Create a Great Romance After Heartbreak

Steven Ing MFT on November 23, 2023

If we want to create an epic romance, we all need to get better at examining our failed relationships and approaching our new romances with intention.

If we want to create an epic romance, we all need to get better at examining our failed relationships and approaching our new romances with intention.

Sex
Three Steps to Unlocking Your Sexual Potential

Steven Ing MFT on August 16, 2023

By unlocking your sexual potential, you are taking ownership over your sexuality, your personal freedom, and your life itself.

By unlocking your sexual potential, you are taking ownership over your sexuality, your personal freedom, and your life itself.

Loneliness
Have Some Flexibility With Your Deal-Breakers

Steven Ing MFT on July 12, 2023

Personal Perspective: When it comes to romance—that is, successful romance—not all perceived deal-breakers are actually deal-breakers.

Personal Perspective: When it comes to romance—that is, successful romance—not all perceived deal-breakers are actually deal-breakers.

Sex
Sexual Intimacy Isn't What You Think

Steven Ing MFT on May 4, 2023

When it comes to sex, the distinction between sex and sexual intimacy is mere titillation versus titillation plus the engagement of feelings and thoughts.

When it comes to sex, the distinction between sex and sexual intimacy is mere titillation versus titillation plus the engagement of feelings and thoughts.

Sex
5 Things You Need to Find Out About a New Partner

Steven Ing MFT on March 20, 2023

Conducting an intentional interview allows you the opportunity to ask specific questions that will help you determine if a relationship is worth pursuing.

Conducting an intentional interview allows you the opportunity to ask specific questions that will help you determine if a relationship is worth pursuing.

Divorce
Divorce Is Not the Problem with Your Child's Grades

Steven Ing MFT on February 28, 2023

Personal Perspective: How to go from a country where young people avoid marriage for fear of divorce to one that properly educates our youth on how to build healthy relationships.

Personal Perspective: How to go from a country where young people avoid marriage for fear of divorce to one that properly educates our youth on how to build healthy relationships.

Sex
How to Include Sexuality Into Your Wellness Practice

Steven Ing MFT on January 20, 2023

Waiting to address sexual wellness until you need the services of a sex therapist is like waiting to address physical and nutritional needs until you get type 2 diabetes.

Waiting to address sexual wellness until you need the services of a sex therapist is like waiting to address physical and nutritional needs until you get type 2 diabetes.

Divorce
What to Know to Prevent Divorce

Steven Ing MFT on December 5, 2022

When it comes to preventing a divorce, you're going to be well-served by performing some thoughtful due diligence in the form of an intentional interview.

When it comes to preventing a divorce, you're going to be well-served by performing some thoughtful due diligence in the form of an intentional interview.

Sex
The Sexual Incompatibility Problem

Steven Ing MFT on October 25, 2022

Until we stop thinking about the frequency of sex as a want rather than a need, we will continue to misunderstand the nature of the problem.

Until we stop thinking about the frequency of sex as a want rather than a need, we will continue to misunderstand the nature of the problem.

Divorce
Rx Divorce: We Don't Have to Hate Divorce

Steven Ing MFT on September 20, 2022

Personal Perspective: We don't have to hate divorce. Instead, we can be grateful that there is a way out of marital disasters.

Personal Perspective: We don't have to hate divorce. Instead, we can be grateful that there is a way out of marital disasters.

Divorce
Rx Divorce: Marriage Is Not Sacred

Steven Ing MFT on September 7, 2022

For those among us who have really tried to save our marriage and refuse to live in misery, divorce is a remedy.

For those among us who have really tried to save our marriage and refuse to live in misery, divorce is a remedy.

Divorce
Rx Divorce: Admitting We Made a Mistake

Steven Ing MFT on August 9, 2022

One of the biggest mistakes we can make is in the arena of mate selection, the most disastrous of which is marrying the wrong person.

One of the biggest mistakes we can make is in the arena of mate selection, the most disastrous of which is marrying the wrong person.

Marriage
Your Marriage Can Thrive After an Affair

Steven Ing MFT on August 2, 2022

An affair can be the crisis that crushes the illusions keeping us from being our real selves with one another and from being loved for who we really are.

An affair can be the crisis that crushes the illusions keeping us from being our real selves with one another and from being loved for who we really are.