Sexual Futurist

Parenting

How Moms Can Guide Their Sons Away from the Manosphere

Steven Ing MFT on May 13, 2026

Mothers who actively engage with their sons can help them break free from the manosphere and build better, happier lives.

Mothers who actively engage with their sons can help them break free from the manosphere and build better, happier lives.

Adolescence

Can You Help My Son?

Steven Ing MFT on February 16, 2026

All young men, at one time, were beautiful baby boys. For many, their development simply went off the rails.

All young men, at one time, were beautiful baby boys. For many, their development simply went off the rails.

Shame

Breaking Free From Shame

Steven Ing MFT on December 5, 2025

Letting go of our shame is about relaxing our ego to the point where the ego is no longer that stony traffic cop with no sense of humor or humanity.

Letting go of our shame is about relaxing our ego to the point where the ego is no longer that stony traffic cop with no sense of humor or humanity.

Parenting

5-Minute Weekly Habit That Changes Everything About Sex Ed

Steven Ing MFT on September 17, 2025

Having conversations with your children about human sexuality will create a different 18-year-old than the 18-year-old who doesn't ever discuss sexuality.

Having conversations with your children about human sexuality will create a different 18-year-old than the 18-year-old who doesn't ever discuss sexuality.

Relationships

Why You Should Date 30 People Before Getting Serious

Steven Ing MFT on July 29, 2025

Building a successful, long-term, committed relationship is not about finding a boyfriend or girlfriend; it’s about finding the right boyfriend or girlfriend.

Building a successful, long-term, committed relationship is not about finding a boyfriend or girlfriend; it’s about finding the right boyfriend or girlfriend.

Loneliness

Our Lonely Boys: Understanding and Preventing Incel Culture

Steven Ing MFT on May 2, 2025

If we want to understand and prevent incel culture, we must teach our boys how to make real friends and how to be a friend.

If we want to understand and prevent incel culture, we must teach our boys how to make real friends and how to be a friend.

Spirituality

Spiritual Abuse Harms Your Sexual and Mental Health

Steven Ing MFT on February 3, 2025

What all spiritual abuse has in common is a profound belief in—and a defense of—the notion that the institution is more important than the people the institution is meant to serve.

What all spiritual abuse has in common is a profound belief in—and a defense of—the notion that the institution is more important than the people the institution is meant to serve.

Relationships

Why Romance Isn't the Same as Intimacy

Steven Ing MFT on January 2, 2025

Sex doesn't always include sexual intimacy, either.

Sex doesn't always include sexual intimacy, either.

Forgiveness

The Myth of Forgiveness

Steven Ing MFT on November 28, 2024

Understanding another person’s motivation, accepting it's about them and their psychopathology, and practicing the art of detachment can lead to freedom.

Understanding another person’s motivation, accepting it's about them and their psychopathology, and practicing the art of detachment can lead to freedom.

Relationships

Are You Obsessed With Finding a Partner?

Steven Ing MFT on September 10, 2024

When we say goodbye to obsession, stop relying on another person to “save us,” and create a life worth living, we free ourselves from the neediness that destroys good relationships.

When we say goodbye to obsession, stop relying on another person to “save us,” and create a life worth living, we free ourselves from the neediness that destroys good relationships.

Relationships

The Sacred Bubble and Relationship Conflict

Steven Ing MFT on July 8, 2024

The Sacred Bubble affirms to the couple that they are a team who can solve all of life’s problems that lie outside of that sacred entity known as "us."

The Sacred Bubble affirms to the couple that they are a team who can solve all of life’s problems that lie outside of that sacred entity known as "us."

Law and Crime

How to Keep an Incel From Becoming a Sex Offender

Steven Ing MFT on April 18, 2024

Incels, like everyone, want love and connection, but if they do not have the tools to get their sexual needs met legally, they remain at risk of becoming sex offenders.

Incels, like everyone, want love and connection, but if they do not have the tools to get their sexual needs met legally, they remain at risk of becoming sex offenders.

Relationships

The Problem With Believing in "Love Languages"

Steven Ing MFT on January 31, 2024

Those able to express love in any way can make others feel loved.

Those able to express love in any way can make others feel loved.

Relationships

Embrace the Sacred and Profane in Your Relationships

Steven Ing MFT on January 16, 2024

By loving and appreciating all aspects of ourselves and our partners, we can—ultimately, and with much practice—finally see one another.

By loving and appreciating all aspects of ourselves and our partners, we can—ultimately, and with much practice—finally see one another.

Relationships

How to Create a Great Romance After Heartbreak

Steven Ing MFT on November 23, 2023

If we want to create an epic romance, we all need to get better at examining our failed relationships and approaching our new romances with intention.

If we want to create an epic romance, we all need to get better at examining our failed relationships and approaching our new romances with intention.

Sex

Three Steps to Unlocking Your Sexual Potential

Steven Ing MFT on August 16, 2023

By unlocking your sexual potential, you are taking ownership over your sexuality, your personal freedom, and your life itself.

By unlocking your sexual potential, you are taking ownership over your sexuality, your personal freedom, and your life itself.

Loneliness

Have Some Flexibility With Your Deal-Breakers

Steven Ing MFT on July 12, 2023

Personal Perspective: When it comes to romance—that is, successful romance—not all perceived deal-breakers are actually deal-breakers.

Personal Perspective: When it comes to romance—that is, successful romance—not all perceived deal-breakers are actually deal-breakers.

Sex

Sexual Intimacy Isn't What You Think

Steven Ing MFT on May 4, 2023

When it comes to sex, the distinction between sex and sexual intimacy is mere titillation versus titillation plus the engagement of feelings and thoughts.

When it comes to sex, the distinction between sex and sexual intimacy is mere titillation versus titillation plus the engagement of feelings and thoughts.

Sex

5 Things You Need to Find Out About a New Partner

Steven Ing MFT on March 20, 2023

Conducting an intentional interview allows you the opportunity to ask specific questions that will help you determine if a relationship is worth pursuing.

Conducting an intentional interview allows you the opportunity to ask specific questions that will help you determine if a relationship is worth pursuing.

Divorce

Divorce Is Not the Problem with Your Child's Grades

Steven Ing MFT on February 28, 2023

Personal Perspective: How to go from a country where young people avoid marriage for fear of divorce to one that properly educates our youth on how to build healthy relationships.

Personal Perspective: How to go from a country where young people avoid marriage for fear of divorce to one that properly educates our youth on how to build healthy relationships.