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Sex

Sexual Intimacy Isn't What You Think

Steven Ing MFT on May 4, 2023

When it comes to sex, the distinction between sex and sexual intimacy is mere titillation versus titillation plus the engagement of feelings and thoughts.

When it comes to sex, the distinction between sex and sexual intimacy is mere titillation versus titillation plus the engagement of feelings and thoughts.

Relationships

5 Things You Need to Find Out About a New Partner

Steven Ing MFT on March 20, 2023

Conducting an intentional interview allows you the opportunity to ask specific questions that will help you determine if a relationship is worth pursuing.

Conducting an intentional interview allows you the opportunity to ask specific questions that will help you determine if a relationship is worth pursuing.

Divorce

Divorce Is Not the Problem with Your Child's Grades

Steven Ing MFT on February 28, 2023

Personal Perspective: How to go from a country where young people avoid marriage for fear of divorce to one that properly educates our youth on how to build healthy relationships.

Personal Perspective: How to go from a country where young people avoid marriage for fear of divorce to one that properly educates our youth on how to build healthy relationships.

Sex

How to Include Sexuality Into Your Wellness Practice

Steven Ing MFT on January 20, 2023

Waiting to address sexual wellness until you need the services of a sex therapist is like waiting to address physical and nutritional needs until you get type 2 diabetes.

Waiting to address sexual wellness until you need the services of a sex therapist is like waiting to address physical and nutritional needs until you get type 2 diabetes.

Narcissism

Why Narcissism Is So Under-Appreciated

Steven Ing MFT on January 9, 2023

Narcissism, in fact, is the brain's recognition that the two of us have a high degree of compatibility.

Narcissism, in fact, is the brain's recognition that the two of us have a high degree of compatibility.

Divorce

What to Know to Prevent Divorce

Steven Ing MFT on December 5, 2022

When it comes to preventing a divorce, you're going to be well-served by performing some thoughtful due diligence in the form of an intentional interview.

When it comes to preventing a divorce, you're going to be well-served by performing some thoughtful due diligence in the form of an intentional interview.

Sex

The Sexual Incompatibility Problem

Steven Ing MFT on October 25, 2022

Until we stop thinking about the frequency of sex as a want rather than a need, we will continue to misunderstand the nature of the problem.

Until we stop thinking about the frequency of sex as a want rather than a need, we will continue to misunderstand the nature of the problem.

Divorce

Rx Divorce: We Don't Have to Hate Divorce

Steven Ing MFT on September 20, 2022

Personal Perspective: We don't have to hate divorce. Instead, we can be grateful that there is a way out of marital disasters.

Personal Perspective: We don't have to hate divorce. Instead, we can be grateful that there is a way out of marital disasters.

Divorce

Rx Divorce: Marriage Is Not Sacred

Steven Ing MFT on September 7, 2022

For those among us who have really tried to save our marriage and refuse to live in misery, divorce is a remedy.

For those among us who have really tried to save our marriage and refuse to live in misery, divorce is a remedy.

Relationships

Sexual Fantasies Are a Healthy Way to Exercise Imagination

Steven Ing MFT on August 31, 2022

Fantasizing is our brain's way of projecting a future scenario or trying ideas on for size.

Fantasizing is our brain's way of projecting a future scenario or trying ideas on for size.

Relationships

How to Stay True to Yourself in a Relationship

Steven Ing MFT on August 23, 2022

A relationship is only real and sustainable when the two adults in it are authentically themselves.

A relationship is only real and sustainable when the two adults in it are authentically themselves.

Divorce

Rx Divorce: How Thought Experiments Can Open Your Eyes

Steven Ing MFT on August 16, 2022

Would you advise your child to stay in an unsatisfying marriage? When it comes to relationships, such thought experiments can be helpful.

Would you advise your child to stay in an unsatisfying marriage? When it comes to relationships, such thought experiments can be helpful.

Divorce

Rx Divorce: Admitting We Made a Mistake

Steven Ing MFT on August 9, 2022

One of the biggest mistakes we can make is in the arena of mate selection, the most disastrous of which is marrying the wrong person.

One of the biggest mistakes we can make is in the arena of mate selection, the most disastrous of which is marrying the wrong person.

Marriage

Your Marriage Can Thrive After an Affair

Steven Ing MFT on August 2, 2022

An affair can be the crisis that crushes the illusions keeping us from being our real selves with one another and from being loved for who we really are.

An affair can be the crisis that crushes the illusions keeping us from being our real selves with one another and from being loved for who we really are.

Divorce

5 Good Reasons to Get a Divorce

Steven Ing MFT on July 26, 2022

As straightforward as the legal process of divorce is, very few marriage counselors seem to be willing to share with their clients when enough is enough.

As straightforward as the legal process of divorce is, very few marriage counselors seem to be willing to share with their clients when enough is enough.

Relationships

Finding New Love After a Breakup

Steven Ing MFT on July 19, 2022

A failed relationship is not the end of the world. It's a chance to discover and build something great.

A failed relationship is not the end of the world. It's a chance to discover and build something great.

Relationships

Why Safe Relationships Are the Sexiest Relationships

Steven Ing MFT on July 12, 2022

Having a sex life that can explore boundaries in a healthy, connected, and satisfying way is not about techniques, candles, or lubricants; it's about safety.

Having a sex life that can explore boundaries in a healthy, connected, and satisfying way is not about techniques, candles, or lubricants; it's about safety.

Sex

Recognize Your Child's Sexual Development as You Do Their Intellect

Steven Ing MFT on July 5, 2022

Having "the talk" sooner rather than later can help your child manage their sexuality intelligently.

Having "the talk" sooner rather than later can help your child manage their sexuality intelligently.

Marriage

Affair-Proofing Your Marriage

Steven Ing MFT on June 28, 2022

Affair-proofing your marriage isn't a guarantee against catastrophe, but it's a great insurance policy.

Affair-proofing your marriage isn't a guarantee against catastrophe, but it's a great insurance policy.

Relationships

You Deserve an Abuse-Free Life

Steven Ing MFT on June 22, 2022

Abuse, at any level, destroys a couple's ability to engage in successful and productive problem-solving.

Abuse, at any level, destroys a couple's ability to engage in successful and productive problem-solving.