Sex & Sociability

Wisdom

"Have I Ever Told You What You Mean to Me?"

Isadora Alman MFT, CST on August 23, 2024

When you look back on your life, you will recall people who influenced you positively by something they said or did. How gratifying for them to hear from you that they did.

When you look back on your life, you will recall people who influenced you positively by something they said or did. How gratifying for them to hear from you that they did.

Sex

Sex When It's Sizzling

Isadora Alman MFT, CST on August 5, 2024

When it's "too darn hot", there are many other ways to have fun with your partner.

When it's "too darn hot", there are many other ways to have fun with your partner.

Infidelity

You Cheated. Should You Tell?

Isadora Alman MFT, CST on June 24, 2024

A one-night stand can have many consequences. If one or both parties has a regular partner, that relationship will likely be altered in many ways not anticipated.

A one-night stand can have many consequences. If one or both parties has a regular partner, that relationship will likely be altered in many ways not anticipated.

Infidelity

When Is It Cheating for You?

Isadora Alman MFT, CST on May 3, 2024

Some types of cheating are obvious, but your mate's definition may not be—until you cross their invisible line. Have these discussions first.

Some types of cheating are obvious, but your mate's definition may not be—until you cross their invisible line. Have these discussions first.

Family Dynamics

Holiday Family Dynamics (Yikes!)

Isadora Alman MFT, CST on April 17, 2024

If you are lucky enough to have living family members, here are some suggestions on how to enjoy rather than avoid them.

If you are lucky enough to have living family members, here are some suggestions on how to enjoy rather than avoid them.

Sex

Communication Equals Better Sex

Isadora Alman MFT, CST on March 24, 2024

Sex is more than two bodies coming together. The people involved need to communicate their preferences, in words or in bodily actions.

Sex is more than two bodies coming together. The people involved need to communicate their preferences, in words or in bodily actions.

Relationships

Couples Who Fight

Isadora Alman MFT, CST on February 4, 2024

There is a difference between fighting and disagreeing. In any couple, there will be differences of opinion, but if there are frequent yelling matches, or worse, time to reconsider.

There is a difference between fighting and disagreeing. In any couple, there will be differences of opinion, but if there are frequent yelling matches, or worse, time to reconsider.

Flirting

The Intrigue of Flirting

Isadora Alman MFT, CST on January 18, 2024

Are you a flirt? Would you like to be a flirt? Here are some basic observations on the art of flirting.

Are you a flirt? Would you like to be a flirt? Here are some basic observations on the art of flirting.

Relationships

Is My Relationship Fixable or Is It Time to End It?

Isadora Alman MFT, CST on December 4, 2023

Is the problem in your relationship your partner's character flaws or is it behavioral? How can you decide whether it's fixable?

Is the problem in your relationship your partner's character flaws or is it behavioral? How can you decide whether it's fixable?

Sex

When One Partner Sexually Shuts Down

Isadora Alman MFT, CST on November 8, 2023

Sometimes, for reasons psychological or physical, a monogamous couple comes to the difficult decision about outside sex if one of them can not be a sexual partner. What then?

Sometimes, for reasons psychological or physical, a monogamous couple comes to the difficult decision about outside sex if one of them can not be a sexual partner. What then?

Body Language

Understanding Your Partner's Body Language

Isadora Alman MFT, CST on October 19, 2023

What does that facial expression mean, or that body posture? The only way you will learn is over time or perhaps by biting the bullet and asking.

What does that facial expression mean, or that body posture? The only way you will learn is over time or perhaps by biting the bullet and asking.

Whether or not a woman takes her husband's name at marriage depends on a number of factors. Will you or did you change yours?

Moral Injury

When the World Hands You Stinkweed

Isadora Alman MFT, CST on August 15, 2023

Sometimes we get roses and sometimes stinkweed. Sometimes we merit what we receive, sometimes not. What do you tell yourself whatever you are handed?

Sometimes we get roses and sometimes stinkweed. Sometimes we merit what we receive, sometimes not. What do you tell yourself whatever you are handed?

Relationships

Do You Know What Makes a Good Relationship?

Isadora Alman MFT, CST on July 11, 2023

People may vary in their definition of a good relationship, but here are the basics in all of them.

People may vary in their definition of a good relationship, but here are the basics in all of them.

Anger

6 Graceful Ways to End a Relationship

Isadora Alman MFT, CST on June 21, 2023

If a relationship ever meant anything to you, end it with care, gracefully rather than impetuously or in anger. Certainly don't ghost him or her.

If a relationship ever meant anything to you, end it with care, gracefully rather than impetuously or in anger. Certainly don't ghost him or her.

Assertiveness

How To Get What You Want (Most of the Time)

Isadora Alman MFT, CST on May 28, 2023

Facing a difficult conversation? Here's how to increase your chances of getting what you want.

Facing a difficult conversation? Here's how to increase your chances of getting what you want.

Relationships

Reigniting Passion

Isadora Alman MFT, CST on April 18, 2023

Passion in long term relationships often subsides or disappears. Here are some suggestions for re-igniting the flame.

Passion in long term relationships often subsides or disappears. Here are some suggestions for re-igniting the flame.

Sex

The Disabled Can Still Feel and Behave Sexually

Isadora Alman MFT, CST on March 17, 2023

Those with disabilities can be and are sexual, and can benefit from being given permission to be so, by sex education and sometimes by sex therapy.

Those with disabilities can be and are sexual, and can benefit from being given permission to be so, by sex education and sometimes by sex therapy.

Friends

Friends Without Benefits

Isadora Alman MFT, CST on February 17, 2023

While the expression "friends with benefits" is the popular one, there's lots of value in friends without benefits.

While the expression "friends with benefits" is the popular one, there's lots of value in friends without benefits.

Friends

Meeting New People, Making New Friends

Isadora Alman MFT, CST on January 13, 2023

Meeting new people or potential mates becomes more difficult the older we get. Here are some classic methods that science endorses for doing exactly that.

Meeting new people or potential mates becomes more difficult the older we get. Here are some classic methods that science endorses for doing exactly that.