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Isadora Alman MFT, CST
Do you know at first meeting or are you often disappointed that what you thought was the beginning of a relationship just wasn't?
Some people buck the trend of monogamous, two-party couples. Today, alternate living arrangements flourish—but they didn't in the 1950's.
The difference between naked and nude is not in the eye of the beholder but in the feelings of the person without clothes on.
Sex. Money. If there is an obvious power imbalance in your relationship is it something that can be re-negotiated? Perhaps yes, perhaps not.
How many adjectives can you come up with for old people? Are they positive, neutral or demeaning?
Do you or the man you're interested in have a small penis? If so, is there anything to do about it?
Surprising results from recent porn watching survey.
Is love at first sight real? How those who "knew" instantly explain it.
Does a twosome really require sex to be a satisfactory couple? Not everyone says yes.
The natural course of passion is often a surprise. Is something wrong when it begins to fade? Can it be kept alive?
When there is an obvious age difference within a couple certain assumptions usually spring to mind.
Receiving flowers for any occasion is usually delightful. Think how even more delightful it is when there is no particular reason.
What does it mean when a partner refuses sex? Talk about it to be sure you're not blowing it out of proportion or misunderstanding entirely.
Hot sex or maintenance sex and any kind of sex in between — Are you and your partner having the same kind?
Magazine articles abound about wooing women, but there are very few about wooing your men. Yet men need the same declarations of being admired and desired.
Even a cat, especially a well loved one, deserves a public obituary,
Those in power have always seen those below them as theirs for the taking. Perhaps the times finally are changing.
Are all your major exes still in your life and would you like them to be?
Surgery is scary, no way around it. When it can no longer can be avoided one can employ self talk, write about it, or both.
There are still only so many hours in a day, but there are ways to spend more time with the one you love without shortchanging yourself or anyone else.
When a couple has differences in the way each has always done things, it can be a topic of interesting discussion or a source of frequent conflict.
Even long-term partners can exchange some new information about sex together. Are you up for the risk?
Intimacy and sex are not the same thing. It's helpful to know the difference and how to achieve either or both.
Has your partner told you how he likes to be touched? Do you know? Are you sure?
What do couples fight about and are these disagreements inevitable?
Nothing is sadder than to live a life you later wish you had done differently. You can take steps to prevent that now.
Intimacy and sex are great when they are part of the same event. They aren't always. Be aware that intimacy needs to be cultivated even when sex takes care of itself.
What do you do when you're angry? What does your partner do? And how does it affect your sex life?
When you talk to yourself do you say "You can do it, kiddo" or "You better not fail again, you loser." Do you habitually use the carrot or the stick, encouragement or insults?
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Isadora Alman, M.F.T., is a board-certified sex, marriage, and family therapist, lecturer, author, and syndicated advice columnist of "Ask Isadora."
I write about social skills and sexuality, all under the umbrella of communications. Clear communications—with oneself first, then with others—is the basis for getting what you want out of life.