Sex Matters

Sex

How Some Couples Kill Sexual Desire

Ari Tuckman PsyD, CST on March 16, 2021

To keep sex alive, avoid this major pitfall.

To keep sex alive, avoid this major pitfall.

Infidelity

Will a Partner Who Cheated Cheat Again?

Ari Tuckman PsyD, CST on February 28, 2021

It's not what happens during the infidelity that matters most.

It's not what happens during the infidelity that matters most.

Sex

Sexual Consent is Hard and Complicated: Regret

Ari Tuckman PsyD, CST on December 21, 2020

Sometimes bad feelings after a sexual encounter are less about problems with consent than they are problems with regret.

Sometimes bad feelings after a sexual encounter are less about problems with consent than they are problems with regret.

Sex

Sexual Consent Is Hard and Complicated, but Important

Ari Tuckman PsyD, CST on December 20, 2020

It takes more work to make sure that everyone will be happy afterwards, but being good at sexual consent will make you better in other important ways.

It takes more work to make sure that everyone will be happy afterwards, but being good at sexual consent will make you better in other important ways.

Sex

Masturbate Now, or Have Sex Later?

Ari Tuckman PsyD, CST on December 11, 2020

Having sex with your partner later will be more fun, but is it smarter to masturbate now if you don't think it will happen? Here's how to get out of this frustrating dilemma.

Having sex with your partner later will be more fun, but is it smarter to masturbate now if you don't think it will happen? Here's how to get out of this frustrating dilemma.

Pornography

No, Porn Doesn’t Cause Erectile Disorder

Ari Tuckman PsyD, CST on September 27, 2020

Erectile problems are caused by anxiety, not porn.

Erectile problems are caused by anxiety, not porn.

Sex

Should Couples Treat Sex as a Reward?

Ari Tuckman PsyD, CST on September 23, 2020

Sex can be a great way to get your partner's help, but you need to do it right.

Sex can be a great way to get your partner's help, but you need to do it right.

Persuasion

The Social Influence of Wearing a Mask (or Not)

Ari Tuckman PsyD, CST on July 8, 2020

The idea of herd immunity doesn’t only apply to antibodies. It also applies to behavioral influence.

The idea of herd immunity doesn’t only apply to antibodies. It also applies to behavioral influence.

Sex

Sexual Eagerness (Not Just Willingness)

Ari Tuckman PsyD, CST on June 29, 2020

If you want more or better sex, ask yourself what it is that you would really want.

If you want more or better sex, ask yourself what it is that you would really want.

Relationships

Couples Therapy for One

Ari Tuckman PsyD, CST on May 31, 2020

You may feel stuck and frustrated in your relationship, but you have more power to change it than you may realize.

You may feel stuck and frustrated in your relationship, but you have more power to change it than you may realize.

Pornography

When Your Partner Can’t Get It Up

Ari Tuckman PsyD, CST on May 15, 2020

When your partner loses his erection (and his mind), you can get things back on track.

When your partner loses his erection (and his mind), you can get things back on track.

Stress

Sex Drive and Stress: Up or Down?

Ari Tuckman PsyD, CST on March 20, 2020

In these stressful times, some people will want more sex and some less, so romantic partners will need to find a balance.

In these stressful times, some people will want more sex and some less, so romantic partners will need to find a balance.

Sex

Sex in the Time of Pandemic

Ari Tuckman PsyD, CST on March 14, 2020

Mandated time at home creates an opportunity to focus on your partner and sex life.

Mandated time at home creates an opportunity to focus on your partner and sex life.

Infidelity

When Infidelity Isn’t Black and White

Ari Tuckman PsyD, CST on March 1, 2020

The big stuff, like sex with others, is easy, but have you and your partner talked about the fuzzier lines of infidelity?

The big stuff, like sex with others, is easy, but have you and your partner talked about the fuzzier lines of infidelity?

ADHD

ADHD Pushes Romantic Partners to Become Better People

Ari Tuckman PsyD, CST on January 18, 2020

ADHD can make relationships harder, but when romantic partners work as generous teammates, they both become better people.

ADHD can make relationships harder, but when romantic partners work as generous teammates, they both become better people.

Sex

Porn Isn’t Addictive and Sex Doesn’t Need to Be Spontaneous

Ari Tuckman PsyD, CST on November 22, 2019

Porn addiction models and the need for sex to be spontaneous both assume that sexual desire is a mysterious force that just sort of happens.

Porn addiction models and the need for sex to be spontaneous both assume that sexual desire is a mysterious force that just sort of happens.

Sex

Barriers to a Better Sex Life When One Partner Has ADHD

Ari Tuckman PsyD, CST on October 22, 2019

By identifying what is getting in the way of a better sex life, you know what to address to improve things.

By identifying what is getting in the way of a better sex life, you know what to address to improve things.

ADHD

It Matters Which Romantic Partner Has ADHD

Ari Tuckman PsyD, CST on September 1, 2019

How ADHD affects your heterosexual relationship and sex life depends on which partner has ADHD.

How ADHD affects your heterosexual relationship and sex life depends on which partner has ADHD.

ADHD

ADHD Boosts Sexual Eagerness

Ari Tuckman PsyD, CST on August 9, 2019

New research shows that those with ADHD tend to be more sexually eager.

New research shows that those with ADHD tend to be more sexually eager.

ADHD

More ADHD Treatment Effort = More Sex

Ari Tuckman PsyD, CST on August 4, 2019

Those who felt that their romantic partner put in more effort on managing ADHD had more sex.

Those who felt that their romantic partner put in more effort on managing ADHD had more sex.