I am a male and I seem to be a magnet for narcissistic women who end up manipulating me and treating me like dirt.
Of course part of the time they are nice, very nice, in fact very seductive in more than just a sexual way, and when this happens it gives me hope that it can happen again...and that maybe if I do what she is demanding of me, if I do more, if I am even nicer than I already am ( and everyone is telling me I am too nice for my won good, too selfless ) maybe she will be nice more often?
and this is a sort of vicious circle; the nicer I am to them , the more they demand of me, the more I submit to their demands, until I become completely discouraged
how could my being a super nice man make them want to hurt me more???
I carry all their bags, I bring them coffee to bed, I rub their back et cetera et cetera and this makes them get angry at me more often and more angry, and it makes them demand more of me
I am 53 years old and I am stuck in this pattern, Most women I have dated were treating me badly - very badly - so badly that I am ashamed of what I tolerated from them
The last one was the worst, the 15 months I was with her were pure psychological abuse, she was extremely manipulative, she was unfair she was cruel to me
if I had to use only one word to describe that woman; she was CRUEL to me
CRUEL
It has been 5 weeks since I put an end to my relationship and I still miss what was good about her
I still feel attached to her - is this the Stockholm syndrome? maybe in part
she abused me, she was my oppressor
I am not exaggerating; she was my oppressor
I have finally escaped from my oppressor but I miss what was nice about her
it has been 5 weeks and I think about her every 15 minutes or more, and I cry at least once everyday
I cry because I miss what was good, I cry because I feel terribly lonely ( she would call me on average 9 times a day )
I cry because I feel wounded beyond what words can describe
Thoughts of suicide keep coming back
I am the nicest man a woman could find, yet women treat me like dirt ( my friends and family are all appaled at how those women talk to me. disrespect me )
I can not become less nice - I am who I am - and I can not seem to find a decent woman who will be nice to me
I am a failure and I don't see light at the end of the tunnel
I am a hyper sensitive man in a world of cold heartless humans
it seems useless to even try , to even go on
I attract bad women, I seem to be cursed
I don't see a solution and I can not afford therapy
I am 53 years old and nothing has changed