Our natural empathy, warmth and compassion draws others to us. At the same time, we are drawn to them because we cannot ignore their feelings, or their cries for help. But that’s where things can become challenging for HSPs. Find out how you can find love as an HSP.
. Like walking a tightrope without slipping, the extrovert HSP has to maintain a constant balance between their needs for social stimulation and sensory stillness. It can be a confusing, and exhausting ride, but there are ways that you can cope.
One of my struggles with being a highly sensitive person is saying to people, ‘I’m highly sensitive,’ knowing that the response will be laughter, ridicule, scowls, fear or expression of disapproval. Have you ever tried to explain your trait to someone?
While we can’t avoid the stresses of modern life completely, we can take steps to try to prevent the saturation of our systems and soothe our stressed out senses when we do become overwhelmed. When we see our sensitivity as a child and ourselves as the parent, we can help ourselves live a life that meets all of our needs.
Considering our tendency to become overwhelmed and upset by too much stimulation, you would think we’d hide from such experiences. So why do HSPs always feel the need to help? Perhaps it’s because we know what it’s like to need help.
When it comes to inner strength, or resilience - the ability to cope with difficult situations, deal with stress, and overcome the odds - highly sensitive people seem to have some kind of secret ability to weather life’s storms.
While relationships take effort and working on them can make them better, the fight for happiness is often futile. Why? It’s not because two people are not destined to be together or because real love doesn’t take any work. It’s because all too often, we’re fighting against each other instead of working together.
Highly sensitive people don’t have to go it alone, nor do we have to be social butterflies, filling our lives with Facebook friends and a bursting social calendar. We can find our need for silence and solitude, for creativity and reflection, as well as our need for human connection, in our own unique way.
In a previous post, I wrote how our sensitivity can lead us to feeling overwhelmed, but the energy that HPSs are constantly absorbing can also be channeled into our own pursuits, fueling us with the drive we need to reach our goals. Here's how.
Elaine Aron and her colleagues have just published a new study which is the first to prove that the brains of highly sensitive people are markedly different from others. Results of the research showed that sensitivity was associated with activation of brain regions involved in awareness, integration of sensory information, empathy, and action planning.
It’s easy for highly sensitive people to become trapped in a victim role, even when it comes to work and the way we spend our spare time. We struggle to find jobs that will fulfil us in a world more focused on monetary gain. But while our natural instinct is to retreat in order to regain our strength, a proactive approach can be the secret to our success.
Many of us have found ourselves in a situation where we're listening, concerned, and wanting to help. Whether it’s a friend, a parent, a husband or an adult child, however, we can easily become drawn into the emotions of someone else so deeply that we begin to put their needs above our own.
Mindfulness is becoming an increasingly common term used to describe a state of being. It’s not a religion or a philosophy, but a technique that encourages acceptance, appreciation and living in the moment. To me, it’s something that highly sensitive people can not only benefit from, but something we do naturally.
For most sensitive people, there is an instinctive longing for the natural world, and the fulfilment of that longing frequently results in what can only be described as sublime. HSPs not only enjoy time spent in nature, but we need it.
Empathy is one of the greatest gifts of highly sensitive people. It means that we not only understand what others are going through, but we can put ourselves in their shoes and feel their emotions. But there must be a balance between helping others and helping ourselves.
Many of us face the challenge of repeating the same mistakes or behaviours over and over, and not understanding why or what to do about it. On our quest for self-improvement, we can easily find ourselves not climbing a mountain, but running on a treadmill, and despite all our best intentions and efforts, getting nowhere.
A setback or disappointment can be particularly devastating for highly sensitive people. We feel emotions so intensely, that when faced with defeat or misfortune, it can shake us to our core. But the best strategy for HSPs trying to cope with life’s difficulties is use your own unique sensitive traits.
Loving yourself is essential to your own personal growth, to the fulfillment of your dreams and to developing healthy, happy relationships with others. Instead of trying to talk yourself into self-love, learn to love yourself with these 3 practical steps.
Relationships can be difficult for HSPs because our sensitive natures tend to attract people who need help, like a lighthouse offering shelter in a storm. But have you ever wondered why we are attracted to them? What is it about troubled souls that we find so alluring and why do we stay with them?
Our emotional reactions to conflicts are based on our own fears and unresolved issues. It seems as though the other person is causing us to feel upset, but they are usually triggering a memory or a feeling from our own past and that’s why it hurts. Instead of reacting to pain from the past as if we were still children, we can choose to respond to the present as adults.
When you’ve experienced repeated humiliation, rejection, judgement or criticism because of your sensitive nature, many of us will tend to respond not only with hurt feelings but with damaging behaviours that ultimately push away the love and acceptance we’ve always longed for.
I came across a remarkable statement recently that made me realise that when it comes to relationships, some things are your responsibility and some things are out of your hands. The key is knowing the difference.
Leaving a relationship is always difficult and painful, and leaving one with a narcissist can be even harder. Even when you do find yourself starting over, many of us end up in a similar relationship with someone else. Changing your relationship patterns comes down to recognising that there are two people in any relationship and the only one you can change is you.
One of the gifts of high sensitivity is our ability to be acutely aware of other people’s feelings and to respond to those feelings with empathy and compassion. But it can be a challenge too, as we not only notice others’ feelings, but take them on as our own.