3 Networking Tips for Introverts: Your Mission to Connect

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Networking for introverts can be daunting—it can feel like our own exploration into outer space. It takes planning, courage, and a leap into the unknown. But fear not! If we Earthlings can tackle outer space, introverts can chart their own paths into the social cosmos to make meaningful connections.

As an introvert, I recently challenged myself to leave my cozy space capsule and venture into the gravitational pull of NYU bigwigs—if only briefly—and I reminded myself that we all breathe the same air. Here's how I navigated this networking event, with three tips for my fellow introverts:

1. Prepare for Liftoff

Before the dinner, I Googled each guest and sent personalized LinkedIn invitations. Introverts often prefer time to think before communicating, so I used this to create familiarity in advance. It's like plotting your course before liftoff—less guesswork, fewer alien encounters.

I've found that preparation helps me feel more confident and eases the path to interacting with new people. Offering to help the organizer with tasks like guest check-ins can also give you an easy way to land with purpose.

Pro Tip: Use online tools like LinkedIn, alumni directories, or event pages to gather conversation starters. Knowing someone's current project or shared interest can ease your entry into the social orbit.

2. Navigating Inner Space

Earlier that day, my dog Sunshine chewed a laptop charger, forcing me to warn the host I might be late or absent if a vet emergency came up. Thankfully, Sunshine's rogue mission to destroy my equipment resolved itself, and the host graciously wished her well.

This unexpected situation provided a perfect opportunity to break the ice. I followed up with a playful blog post written in the voice of Sunshine—a raving extrovert, my polar opposite. The exchange set a friendly tone, demonstrating how personal anecdotes can help mute the static inside an introvert's metaphorical space helmet when preparing for social interactions.

Pro Tip: Feeling nervous? Use an anecdote or even a quirky detail about yourself to break the ice. It's OK to embrace your introvert style as a strength—not a weakness.

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3. Bring Your Authentic Intra-naut Self

I arrived as my genuine Earthling introvert self and brought copies of my books, Self-Promotion for Introverts and Business Writing: Say More With Less, as gifts for the organizers.

President Mills surprised us by visiting eight dinners around the city that night. When she mentioned Steve Martin, the famously introverted comedic genius she hopes to honor one day, I knew it was my moment. I didn't just seize the moment—I launched right into it.

I shared my story of asking Warren Buffett—another notable introvert—for advice at a Berkshire Hathaway annual meeting (yes, in front of 30,000 people!) and getting a quote for my book. Whipping out my book felt risky, but it fit the conversation. Sometimes, seizing the moment outweighs fears of self-promotion.

Pro Tip: Authenticity isn't about oversharing—it's about showing up as yourself in ways that fit the moment. Sometimes, a small risk, like sharing a bit about yourself, can lead to surprising connections.

These strategies aren't limited to dinners at the top of the social stratosphere—they work for conferences, webinars, or any networking setting. Even one genuine connection can open doors. Whether in person or virtual, preparation and authenticity can transform strangers into colleagues who propel one another forward.

"That's one small step for Nancy, but one giant leap for introvert-kind!" you might be thinking. And you'd be right. Networking doesn't require a rocket launch—just a willingness to take the next small step. With a little research, a touch of courage, and a commitment to being yourself, you'll find your own constellation where you can twinkle.

Now, go forth and explore new social frontiers!

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