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Save Your Sex Life; Discover the Keys of Sexual Happiness

Discover the keys to sexual happiness

Save Your Sex Life; Discover the Secrets of Sexual Happiness

Have you ever wondered what the secrets are to sexual happiness? Why are some folks more satisfied with their sex lives while others are not? As a Certified Sex Therapist I am here to make suggestions to help you turn up the heat in your bedroom this summer.

Sexual Happiness Key #1. Masturbate
Studies confirm that having a good sexual relationship with yourself will increase your chances of having a satisfying sexual relationship with your partner. The reason that the sex will be more satisfying if you masturbate is because touching yourself teaches you what feel good and what you body is responsive to sexually. This information can then be communicated to your partner to let them know what really feels good and turns you on.

Sexual Happiness Key #2 Communicate
Talk with your partner outside of the bedroom about your sexual wants, needs, fantasies and desires. By speaking about what you want sexually it can ignite passion between you both and provide you with a more satisfying sexual relationship. Talk about the thing that turns you on sexually, what you want your partner to know about you sexually and what the best sexual experience you had together was and the details about what made it so good. Talking about sex can bring you closer and increase your sexual satisfaction.

Sexual Happiness Key #3 Engage in Foreplay
Foreplay is perhaps the most important part of sex. The reason it's the most important is because it is the only part of the sexual experience where partners take turns pleasuring each other verses engaging in mutual touching. Foreplay is also where the most arousal and lubrication comes from and it prepares your both body and your genitals for sex. Try adding manual or oral stimulation to your sexual repertoire. Don't skip the foreplay for a more satisfying sexual experience.

Sexual Happiness Key #4 Love your Body
Loving your body is a key to sexual happiness. Your body is your container, it's functional and beautiful just the way it is. By setting limitations such as "I can enjoy sex more when I lose the weight" you are depriving yourself of connecting with your sexuality and connecting sexually with your partner. Try standing in front of a mirror with soft lighting to pay attention to what you love about your shape. Embrace yourself for how you look today and love yourself. Being comfortable in your own skin is a sexy feature.

Sexual Happiness Key #5 Lose the "Performance" Sex Model
Being sexual shouldn't feel pressured or performance focused to have an erection, lubricate or to have an orgasm (although all of this is nice). Being sexual shouldn't come with feeling anxious that everything has to work "correctly". Realistic expectations are important for maintaining a healthy sexual relationship. For normal healthy couples, about 5-15% of sexual experiences are mediocre or failures. Couples who develop a sexual style that is relaxed and focused on pleasure rather than performance report higher satisfaction levels in their sexual relationships.

For more information about Lisa Thomas, Licensed Marriage & Sex Therapist, please visit her website at www.OnlineCouch.com

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