Resolution, Not Conflict

The guide to problem-solving.

Susan Heitler Ph.D.

What Fosters Resilience in Tough Times?

Check out these multiple vital strategies for resiliently responding to coronavirus-related concerns, parental alienation, relationship challenges, economic disasters, and more.

Tone of Voice: How Do You Sound to Your Family?

Notice your reactions when someone in your household growls or barks at you. Do you want others in your household to feel that way toward you?

Fuligo septica, shown here on a tree stump, is a slime mold known as scrambled egg slime or dog vomit slime mold.

Slime Mold Shows Us How to Survive the COVID-19 Pandemic

What could a lowly organism like slime mold teach us about handling the challenges of this time of both medical and financial potential disasters?

No need to suffer excessive anxiety. Use these anxiety-relief strategies instead.

23 Methods to Calm Corona-Related Anxiety

Feeling anxious? Use these 23 strategies to combat those feelings.

8 Responses to Anger and Hatred

What are your options when someone berates or hates you? How do you protect yourself?

Feeling frustrated, distressed, overwhelmed?

10 Mantras for Managing Emotionally Challenging Situations

These principles can help you stay sane in tough circumstances, including parental alienation.

My daughter pushes me away. Why is her mother teaching her to hate me??

Narcissism in Parental Alienation: Clarifying Examples

An alienating parent who behaves narcissistically may do lasting harm.

Hanger: When Hunger Breeds Anger

Preventive action can address low blood sugar from creating irritability.

Adult Sibling Alienation: Who Does It and Why

Lawyers, beware! Is an alienating sibling behind your caretaker or inheritance case?

Raising Well-Behaved Kids: Mistaken vs. Smart Discipline

Want to raise good kids? Avoid two harmful discipline techniques, and use instead four far more positive options.

Oy, The Holidays: Anticipating An Emotional Rollercoaster?

Use this guide to managing negative feelings if you are expecting that emotional challenges lie ahead.

Severe Parental Alienation: A Mental Health Emergency

Long legal battles prolong and intensify alienation. The longer the courts take to intervene, the worse the alienation is likely to become, and the harder to reverse.

Parental Alienation: What Therapists Need to Know

Parental alienation is a form of child abuse—and recognizing, diagnosing, and treating it can be tricky. Here's how therapists can handle these challenging cases.

Can Mental Imagery Help You Feel Better?

What would your reaction be if your therapist asked you to close your eyes in a treatment session? A recent journal article supports eyes-closed mental imagery therapy techniques.

Not Getting Your Concerns Heard? Try These 5 Tools

Want to become more effective when someone you love, or someone you work with, keeps doing something that bugs you?

Couples Therapy: What 5 Ingredients Create a Great Outcome?

Does your couples therapist provide these essentials? If not, what can you do about it?

Overcoming BPD: 3 Vital Ways Parents Can Help

What can you do if one or more of your children, young or grown, shows the emotional hyper-reactivity and excessive anger that characterize borderline personality disorder?

10 Gifts: Wisdom From an Extraordinary Therapist and Healer

Dale Peterson was a masterful energy therapist. In honor of his death, I am sharing some of his powerful techniques and innovations.

The Creation of Hatred

The phenomenon of parental alienation offers clues to understanding the rising tide of hatred currently flooding our country.

Can Parental Alienation Occur Beyond Parents and Kids?

Does alienation exist only in post-divorce families? No. Look for population alienation as well as parental alienation. Both do massive harm.

We Need Changes in How Courts Handle Parental Alienation

Adversarial divorce courts mostly fail miserably in cases of parental alienation. Here's what family courts could do instead to genuinely serve the best interests of children.

What's causing the tension?

For an Instant Relationship Upgrade, Stop Using This Phrase

Babies have needs. Are you a baby? If not, better find alternative words to "need" for expressing preferences.

Teen Suicide Prevention: How To Innoculate Your Kids

Teenage depression can lead to suicide. How can a parent be proactive?

Parental Alienation: It Happens in Intact Families Too

Does a couple have to be divorced for parental alienation to occur?

Forgiveness? "I Forgive You" Makes Me Cringe

A former Miss America was molested for 15 years, from age 3 until she was 18, by her father. Does she forgive him? Should she? What is the nature of forgiveness?

Theory of Mind: A Missing Piece for Narcissistic People?

Narcissism may simply indicate a not-yet-fully-developed capacity that some of us have more than others. Psychologists refer to this capability as "theory of mind."

Parental Alienation and Iran: Similar Pathology?

Recognition of false narratives and projection can help protect you from people who genuinely do want to harm you.

Antidepressants: A Research Update and a Case Example

What experiences do people have if they take antidepressants?

Strong Feelings: Amygdala Reset for Borderline Personality?

How do you feel toward yourself or someone you know whose emotions are stormy and sometimes frightening? Anger and hatred, anxiety, compassion—or all of the above?

Are Smart Phones and Computers Endangering Your Love Life?

Many couples now spend more of their home time with their screens than with each other.

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