Rediscovering Love

Relationships

The 9 Challenges Couples Are Most Likely to Face

Randi Gunther Ph.D. on June 28, 2024

What may seem like mutual hopes and commitments early on in a relationship may give way to new priorities later.

What may seem like mutual hopes and commitments early on in a relationship may give way to new priorities later.

Relationships

Do I Still Want to Be With You After You Cheated on Me?

Randi Gunther Ph.D. on June 13, 2024

You must consider whether you still love your partner enough to commit to healing. It won’t be enough if you don’t love them independent of what else you might lose.

You must consider whether you still love your partner enough to commit to healing. It won’t be enough if you don’t love them independent of what else you might lose.

First Impressions

First Date Do’s and Don’ts

Randi Gunther Ph.D. on May 30, 2024

Be warm and present and don't keep looking around the room.

Be warm and present and don't keep looking around the room.

Self-Control

10 Things Restless Partners Need to Ask Themselves

Randi Gunther Ph.D. on May 14, 2024

3. Am I blaming the relationship for problems elsewhere in my life?

3. Am I blaming the relationship for problems elsewhere in my life?

Deception

How to Tell If Talking Behind Someone's Back Is Helpful or Hurtful

Randi Gunther Ph.D. on April 29, 2024

Whether people talking behind someone's back are sharing a plot to deceive, or a well-intentioned plan to help, they are excluding the person whose life they are talking about.

Whether people talking behind someone's back are sharing a plot to deceive, or a well-intentioned plan to help, they are excluding the person whose life they are talking about.

Relationships

The 10 Most Important Dimensions of Any Relationship

Randi Gunther Ph.D. on April 12, 2024

Deepening, intrigue, flexibility, and more.

Deepening, intrigue, flexibility, and more.

Relationships

Am I Too Sensitive or Are You Just Mean?

Randi Gunther Ph.D. on March 28, 2024

Terrible disputes emerge when one partner perceives language in an unintended way. If you react to something said, consider whether trauma drives that response.

Terrible disputes emerge when one partner perceives language in an unintended way. If you react to something said, consider whether trauma drives that response.

Relationships

Is “Just for Today” the New Forever?

Randi Gunther Ph.D. on March 14, 2024

How can you enter into a relationship in such a way that would make it more likely to last "forever"? Consider these questions, then ask yourself if you could.

How can you enter into a relationship in such a way that would make it more likely to last "forever"? Consider these questions, then ask yourself if you could.

Relationships

8 Signs of an Ex Who Can't Let Go

Randi Gunther Ph.D. on February 28, 2024

7. Childlike, dramatic public and private scenes.

7. Childlike, dramatic public and private scenes.

Relationships

The Risks of Committing Too Early

Randi Gunther Ph.D. on February 14, 2024

If someone seems like a potential match for you, do you immediately go “all in,” and risk sadness and loss if it doesn’t turn out to be what you thought it would be?

If someone seems like a potential match for you, do you immediately go “all in,” and risk sadness and loss if it doesn’t turn out to be what you thought it would be?

Relationships

12 Ways Partners Might Manipulate Each Other

Randi Gunther Ph.D. on January 31, 2024

As you become aware of your own helpful manipulations, you might be courageous enough to share them with your partner.

As you become aware of your own helpful manipulations, you might be courageous enough to share them with your partner.

Relationships

How Couples Can Learn to Love Each Other Again

Randi Gunther Ph.D. on January 15, 2024

When couples want to renew their love for each other and ask for my guidance, I help them explore how they lost each other so that they will never allow for those behaviors again.

When couples want to renew their love for each other and ask for my guidance, I help them explore how they lost each other so that they will never allow for those behaviors again.

Relationships

9 Things Everyone Should Understand About Love

Randi Gunther Ph.D. on December 29, 2023

Do you know what love needs from you? Do you know how to keep it in your life? I want to give you a better understanding of what love requires for it to stick around.

Do you know what love needs from you? Do you know how to keep it in your life? I want to give you a better understanding of what love requires for it to stick around.

Relationships

7 Words We Should Ban From Our Relationships

Randi Gunther Ph.D. on December 14, 2023

Any couple that wants to build a secure love must erase mean attacks from their verbal usage. Even occasional use will leave lasting negative impressions.

Any couple that wants to build a secure love must erase mean attacks from their verbal usage. Even occasional use will leave lasting negative impressions.

Relationships

Why Suppressed Emotions Can Erupt in a Crisis

Randi Gunther Ph.D. on November 30, 2023

Buried feelings can erupt under pressure, and instead of behaving as one generally would, long-time negative feelings may lead them to lash out instead.

Buried feelings can erupt under pressure, and instead of behaving as one generally would, long-time negative feelings may lead them to lash out instead.

Relationships

Too Busy for Love

Randi Gunther Ph.D. on November 14, 2023

There is a way that long-lasting and deep love relationships can develop that also allows for self-serving priorities to mesh with a full commitment to an intimate partner.

There is a way that long-lasting and deep love relationships can develop that also allows for self-serving priorities to mesh with a full commitment to an intimate partner.

Relationships

Why Some Partners Seduce and Abandon

Randi Gunther Ph.D. on October 25, 2023

I have seen the most pain, disillusionment, and torture in those who have fallen in love with people who seduce, capture, and then leave without a trace.

I have seen the most pain, disillusionment, and torture in those who have fallen in love with people who seduce, capture, and then leave without a trace.

Relationships

10 Troubling Signs of Dying Intimacy

Randi Gunther Ph.D. on October 13, 2023

Relationship intimacy is a haven of emotional security that committed partners share only with each other. This is how they can defend that space.

Relationship intimacy is a haven of emotional security that committed partners share only with each other. This is how they can defend that space.

Relationships

Are You Afraid of Love?

Randi Gunther Ph.D. on September 28, 2023

8 common underlying fears that can keep someone from successfully creating a long-lasting romantic relationship.

8 common underlying fears that can keep someone from successfully creating a long-lasting romantic relationship.

Therapy

When Is Couple’s Therapy the Right Choice?

Randi Gunther Ph.D. on September 15, 2023

No matter what brings a couple into therapy to try to heal the destruction they are facing, they are often exhausted.

No matter what brings a couple into therapy to try to heal the destruction they are facing, they are often exhausted.