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Mark Sherman Ph.D.
American feminism has, unfortunately, often had the unintended consequence of perpetuating racism -- particularly as it affects black boys and men.
I see Jonathan Haidt and the Heterodox Academy as part of a growing movement both on campus and elsewhere toward more acceptance of dissent from liberal orthodoxy.
A moment in 1993 galvanized me. It led to me write the following piece which, while it concentrated on white males, was really about issues facing boys (and men) in general.
Men should never ever hit women, but women’s anger directed at men is helping me overcome years of verbal deference.
To lighten things up a little, let's consider a solution to the pronoun problem that is simple, completely balanced, and non-sexist.
Warren Farrell's overwhelming concern, and one absolutely captured in The Boy Crisis, is the best interests of the children.
The problem for boys whose masculinity is under attack is that both women and men who scored higher on the masculinity scale were more likely to have higher self-esteem.
Countless people have made suggestions on how we can control our anger. My feeling is, Yeah, right, sure; if those people had the life I’ve had, they’d be angry, too!
To see those concerned about boys and men perceived by progressives as associated with conspiracy theorists, white nationalists, and anti-Semites troubles me deeply.
For old folks, Paul McCartney’s “I’ve Just Seen a Face” would now be “I’ve Just Seen the Ground,” and the chorus would be “Falling, yes, I’m falling/Hope someone’s calling 9-1-1."
What message is EMILY’s List sending to progressive men who want to run for office? What does a strong preference for hiring females say to our sons? Seems like a gender purging.
Yes, men’s sex drive can be a problem. So do we replace men who are major contributors to society with women in order to avoid potential problems around male sexuality?
I have always felt that in my rants—my "passionate discourses"—I am at my most eloquent. But I can’t go on and on ranting to anyone, except my therapist! And she listens.
The poets considered most brilliant are the ones who most directly confront our deepest fears.
Legitimate concerns about how young males are doing continue to be simply not PC.
Suggestions from a long-married guy for keeping your marriage going beyond those first few crazy-in-love passionate years (or months).
Everywhere I look there are examples of how boys are in need of re-shaping.
How are you going to change my attitudes, or those of my sons and grandsons, so we don’t feel threatened by women’s success?
Perhaps the biggest reason for my optimism about the movement on behalf of boys (and men) is the backlash against it.
When I read of Hillary Clinton’s video proclamation to the women of MAKERS that “the future is female,” my mind immediately raced to my four grandsons, ages 3, 7, 10, and 11.
For a woman to assume that any interaction with a man that feels uncomfortable or demeaning is sexist could be an inaccurate appraisal.
Is it fair to single out our parents as the only people who ruined our lives? There are so many others who can share the blame.
The most rewarding ideas and findings may come not from people immersed in a field or those who are themselves subject to a particular phenomenon, but rather from the outsider.
The Red Pill is the story of a young feminist who did something few feminists have done: She listened as non-judgmentally as possible to men and women in the men's rights movement.
Today's marital vows seem to be much more about personal fulfillment than about making a life and a home together.
I was a strong supporter of feminism until I discovered — nearly 25 years ago — that boys, much more than girls, were struggling in school and other very important ways.
I have often wondered why feminism, which has dealt with so many important issues, seems to have largely ignored one that can, at least at times, be the most urgent.
What was true in the early 1990s remains true into the 21st century: To be concerned about boys does not fit well with liberal thinking.
I suddenly realized that while I, and so many others, were so busy trying to make sure that girls and women got ahead, boys and young men had fallen behind.
Is it time for a woman president? Absolutely. In fact, it’s past time – and that’s a possible problem for Hillary Clinton.
Mark Sherman, Ph.D., is a professor emeritus of psychology at the State University of New York at New Paltz.