If adolescence is not a time that offers rooms for colossal failures, when will young people learn how to navigate adversity? When will they gain the self-awareness of their limitations, and the workarounds to their challenges? How will they learn when to reach for help? How will they know how far they can push the boundaries to unleash their creativity? When will they
Who's the expert in your adolescent's life? It's not me or any other person claiming to have expertise in parenting or adolescent development. You know a lot more about your child than any of us do. But you know who knows more about your teen's inner life and environment than you do? He does.
When you became a parent, you began living for someone else. Your drive to protect your child began to override your desire to meet your own needs. But if your goal is to build a resilient child, you must care for yourself with the same intensity with which you protect your child. Caring for yourself is not selfish—it is a selfless and strategic act of good parenting.
Children (And Teens!) need parents who can give them unconditional love and unwavering support. If there is ever anything that gets in the way of your being able to do this, don’t hide in shame. Instead, take the steps to fall back in love with the child you've never stopped adoring.