We all harbor secrets. Some are big and bad; some are small and trivial. Researchers have parsed which truths to tell and which not to.
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Finding the spiritual treasure in our everyday emotions
Josh Gressel Ph.D.
Keeping your relationship healthy requires ongoing work, just like keeping weight off. Most couples need to learn how to shed their bad relational habits and how to keep them off.
How can your repeated fights with your partner be the source of growth rather than an exercise in misery? By learning where it really comes from and being willing to talk about it.
The more time you spend being open with another person, the closer your relationship.
Personal Perspective: Repeating old patterns with the same result may feel comfortably uncomfortable. But it hurts both you and the people in your life.
We often think of free will in superficial terms: I get to choose whatever I want. True free will means making a choice that is aligned with our true nature.
"The Wizard of Oz" is a movie rich with psychological meaning. Explore the deeper meaning of Dorothy being able to return to Kansas simply by tapping her slippers.
'Star Trek: The Next Generation,' like all good science fiction, offers us an important lesson about vulnerability and protection. You can't have both at the same time.
Not every man referred for anger management needs to learn to control himself. Some need to be understood and validated. Others need to become less alexithymic.
"I don't enjoy my life but I get a lot done," a client said to me recently. How much does this quote describe your life?
Is your child marrying someone you don't approve of? Are you engaged to someone your parents reject? These are tough things to face, and the best way to do so is with honesty.
Is it easier for women to verbally express their inner worlds than men? It is possible for both to learn patience, understanding, and effective communication skills.
It can feel jarring to have to Venmo your therapist after you've just shared an intimate hour, a clash between closeness and a mercantile exchange. Here's why it's necessary.
It's scary to put a relationship into the hands of a couple's therapist. These questions can help discern if a particular professional is the right fit.
Suffering is a fact of life. We can suffer to maintain the status quo of "good enough" living, or we can suffer risking being our best selves. Why not choose the latter?
It's hard to stand out from our peers. It's hard to hide what is best about ourselves. We each need to find the balance between belonging and self-expression.
One of the best ways to deal with a compulsive habit is to start telling the truth about it.
The term "addiction" gets used so loosely it can seem meaningless. I offer a new definition.
Have you ever wondered why some of the smartest people can't make relationships work? It's not because they don't know what's right, it's because they can't act on what they know.
The biggest fights often stem from the smallest causes. Here's one thing you can do to prevent things from getting out of hand.
There are classic splits in every relationship dance, things that make couples fight when what is needed is for each person to integrate the split within him/herself.
Women who have been sexually molested as young girls pay a heavy emotional cost as they grow older. A new study shows yet one more price: increased risk of infertility.
You must make regular deposits into the "bank of relationship goodwill" with your partner or risk overdrawing your account in stressful periods.
Couple's therapy is expensive, even moreso if you don't do it well and end up divorcing. Here's how to prepare for success.
Covid is teaching us many lessons, but perhaps none so important as this: We are not the center of the universe.
Why is isolation a punishment for hardened criminals and all of us during coronavirus? What do we get from contact with another that we can't get alone?
Holding back your unique gifts is not a victimless crime. You suffer, those around you suffer, and the world is denied that which only you can bring.
Work holds value for men because good work upholds masculine values.
Going through a once-in-a-lifetime experience is a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity. What can you learn about yourself going through this one?
One couple's fight to reconnect was made possible because of a few pieces of lint removal paper. Reconnecting to each other can be that simple and that profound.
Couples avoid being vulnerable with each other for fear of being hurt. We should spend less energy avoiding hurt and more in learning to repair it.
Josh Gressel, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist in the San Francisco Bay area and a student of Jewish mysticism.