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Finding the spiritual treasure in our everyday emotions
Josh Gressel Ph.D.
It's hard to stand out from our peers. It's hard to hide what is best about ourselves. We each need to find the balance between belonging and self-expression.
One of the best ways to deal with a compulsive habit is to start telling the truth about it.
The term "addiction" gets used so loosely it can seem meaningless. I offer a new definition.
Have you ever wondered why some of the smartest people can't make relationships work? It's not because they don't know what's right, it's because they can't act on what they know.
The biggest fights often stem from the smallest causes. Here's one thing you can do to prevent things from getting out of hand.
There are classic splits in every relationship dance, things that make couples fight when what is needed is for each person to integrate the split within him/herself.
Women who have been sexually molested as young girls pay a heavy emotional cost as they grow older. A new study shows yet one more price: increased risk of infertility.
You must make regular deposits into the "bank of relationship goodwill" with your partner or risk overdrawing your account in stressful periods.
Couple's therapy is expensive, even moreso if you don't do it well and end up divorcing. Here's how to prepare for success.
Covid is teaching us many lessons, but perhaps none so important as this: We are not the center of the universe.
Why is isolation a punishment for hardened criminals and all of us during coronavirus? What do we get from contact with another that we can't get alone?
Holding back your unique gifts is not a victimless crime. You suffer, those around you suffer, and the world is denied that which only you can bring.
Work holds value for men because good work upholds masculine values.
Going through a once-in-a-lifetime experience is a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity. What can you learn about yourself going through this one?
One couple's fight to reconnect was made possible because of a few pieces of lint removal paper. Reconnecting to each other can be that simple and that profound.
Couples avoid being vulnerable with each other for fear of being hurt. We should spend less energy avoiding hurt and more in learning to repair it.
It can be heartbreaking when a perfect relationship starts to show its first cracks, but that is only the start of the next stage of growth.
With so much to despair in our world, one constant thing of beauty is the bond between grandparent and grandchild: one of the most special relationships humanity has to offer.
As a therapist I push people to expect more of themselves. Too often we don't know what it looks like to fire on all cylinders or to hold ourselves accountable.
People trying to find their way on a spiritual path can seem flaky or inconsistent. What if this means there's something right, not wrong, with them?
The reality of living pulls us away from our inner world and can convince us that the outer world is the only thing that's real. It's important to remember that this is not true.
In 30+ years of working with couples, I hear myself saying the same things over and over. So often that I have come to believe them to be true. Do you?
What does long-term marriage have to offer that we don't get with the freshness of youth and newness? How can we keep it meaningful as it gets older?
We all have to do things in life where we feel we have no choice. How we handle those moments can feel like servitude or freedom. Attitude is what makes the difference.
Why do we continue to tolerate media misrepresentation of men? Are all the men you know really pretty boys, ladies' men, action heroes, or buffoons?
Can too much of a good thing be bad for us? If so, does that apply to beauty?
Is a boy's hero play ever outgrown? Why do adult men seem to still need heroes—particularly other men—and still want to be a hero to others?
Why is it so hard for a man to express his feelings? What obstacles do we put in his path to prevent him from doing the thing we say we want from him?
Wanting to quit therapy is a natural part of the process. How can you know when it's really time to quit and when it's time to push through and keep going?
Falling in love with your therapist is as old as therapy itself; Freud was the first to notice it. Why does this happen?
Josh Gressel, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist in the San Francisco Bay area and a student of Jewish mysticism.