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Breaking free from the perfectionism that masks silent depression.
Margaret R Rutherford Ph.D.
You may be using tried and true dissociative skills that helped you survive childhood emotional pain—so now you appear "fine" as you detach and suppress and even deny fear.
Do you believe, “If I ask for something I want, I’m being selfish?" Or is there a difference between being selfish, self-centered, and self-aware?
PHD is a way of perceiving yourself, and not a gospel by any means. But there are some psychological disorders that may share its traits, and those can be vital to identify.
What you can forget is that your perfectionism has kept your life orderly and running smoothly. When you begin to feel things you have avoided, you can find fear. A lot of fear.
The difference between high-functioning and perfectly hidden depression is the level of awareness.
There are five stages of healing (the Five Cs) that take place in therapy. These particular five are described with perfectly hidden depression in mind.
My worst enemy lived in my own head. And its voice was the voice of shame.
If you understand and have compassion for how your need to stay invisible began, you can better see how it's no longer needed.
These stories aren't the most dramatic examples of perfectly hidden depression I could've chosen. Yet they are compelling in their simplicity.
The syndrome of perfectly hidden depression has 10 commonly shared traits, behaviors, and beliefs. Do you identify with them?
Classic depression is real, and very dangerous. But "perfectly hidden depression" is just as real. Here's why giving up looking perfect is worth the risk.
Margaret Rutherford, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist who treats individuals and couples for depression, anxiety, and relationship issues.