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Breaking free from the perfectionism that masks silent depression.
Margaret R Rutherford Ph.D. on May 30, 2023
The fight is taking place on two opposing battlefields. You need to engage outwardly while struggling to break free of depression's implosive force. What can get in your way?
Margaret R Rutherford Ph.D. on April 12, 2023
Since narcissists are not likely to give you consistent affirmation, you might be stuck asking, "Am I enough?"
Margaret R Rutherford Ph.D. on March 4, 2023
Carrying around a sense of victimization isn't the answer. But toxic positivity isn't, either.
Margaret R Rutherford Ph.D. on January 17, 2023
Science has not found a way to accurately predict suicide. Mental health professionals need to recognize this fact.
Margaret R Rutherford Ph.D. on July 31, 2022
Psychology needs to take note, as we can easily make a similar mistake when it comes to diagnosing depression. We're not looking through a wide enough lens.
Margaret R Rutherford Ph.D. on June 26, 2022
Hatred can be taught, modeled, absorbed, even fostered. It can dehumanize its targets and justify violence. Mental illness does not need to be present.
Margaret R Rutherford Ph.D. on April 27, 2022
You may not realize that your unconscious hurt and shame are puppeteers controlling your actions.
Margaret R Rutherford Ph.D. on April 2, 2022
The lack of healthy relationship interdependence can explain the intense loneliness of those experiencing perfectly hidden depression.
Margaret R Rutherford Ph.D. on February 27, 2022
Realize she may not have the capacity of understanding the impact she’s having on you. She’s not withholding something from you; she’s likely incapable of giving it.
Margaret R Rutherford Ph.D. on January 29, 2022
Resolving conflict within the therapeutic relationship can be very empowering.
Margaret R Rutherford Ph.D. on December 22, 2021
Grief comes in waves. Just when you think the tide is going out and you've survived another day, a rogue wave will hit you.
Margaret R Rutherford Ph.D. on November 30, 2021
An adaptation that was likely created as protection, as emotional survival, now has morphed into a fear of being found out — and imposter syndrome is created.
Margaret R Rutherford Ph.D. on October 25, 2021
"I have a perfect-looking life. I fear anyone seeing me as out of control. It's why I'm successful. But something is cracking open—and it scares me."
Margaret R Rutherford Ph.D. on September 26, 2021
I heard a shaming voice, loud and clear. My voice, not my mother’s. “How could you not care about the way you look?"
Margaret R Rutherford Ph.D. on August 23, 2021
"No one in a million years would have expected this from him. If this could happen to him, it could happen to anyone."
Margaret R Rutherford Ph.D. on July 22, 2021
Ask questions that would reveal problems with vulnerability.
Margaret R Rutherford Ph.D. on June 29, 2021
Learn when to listen to your doubts — and when to ignore them.
Margaret R Rutherford Ph.D. on May 31, 2021
For not only can you hide your pain from others, hiding emotional pain from yourself can feel as normal as putting away groceries or emptying the trash.
Margaret R Rutherford Ph.D. on April 18, 2021
What we can learn from Harry Potter about grief and compassion.
Margaret R Rutherford Ph.D. on March 31, 2021
A mother shares too much with her son; a dad lives through his daughter's success. The child gets the message that it's not OK to be independent. What's this called? Enmeshment.