Pathological Relationships

Narcissism

Emotional (Phantom Limb) Pain

Sandra L. Brown M.A. on March 15, 2016

The illusion is he was normal, in love with you, was what he said he was, did what he said he did.
In pathology, that’s never the case, because they are mentally disordered.

The illusion is he was normal, in love with you, was what he said he was, did what he said he did.
In pathology, that’s never the case, because they are mentally disordered.

If you think back to what your “attraction basis” is, you may find some patterns there as well.

Pathology is the inability to change and sustain change, grow in any meaningful way, and the inability to for him to see how his behavior negatively affects others.

Our happiness is largely conditional based on if things go the way we think they should go and if people act the way we think they should act.

Happiness is what you feel when he says the "right" romantic stuff, buys you a ring, or moves in. But happiness is not joy because joy is not external.

The holidays are stressful under the best of situations. Add to it a dangerous and pathological relationships and you can have a prescription for **guaranteed** unhappiness.

Women often stay in pathological relationships because they feel panic or fear of abandonment when the pathological tries to end the relationship.

People relapse and go back into relationships more between Thanksgiving and Valentine's Day than any other time of the year.

Recovery is a life change. It's not a quick fix to get out of pain like Ativan or Xanax.

Anxiety causes you to worry about the situation but you aren't likely to bolt.

Worry and anxiety that result from PTSD are distracting female victims from real fear signals that could help them.

Just as not all victims are the same, not all perpetrators of harm are the same either.

Sometimes no one believes he was pathological, a monster, did the things we said he did.

Since the 1970's and the women's movement, discussing the specifics about women’s choices in relationships, patterns of selection, personality traits, mental health, sexual addiction/deviancy has been largely discouraged and ‘semanti-sized’ as 'labeling the victim' or 'victim blaming.'

Victim's rights and its connection to judicial and psychological justice will not get played out often in pathological relationships.

Trance, mind control and hypnotic suggestion also are based on one's own level of 'suggestibility'.

Mind control. Brainwashing. Coercion. These are all used by a perpetrator to reduce your effectiveness and overtake you emotionally.

Pathological love relationships are exhausting and take their toll on your body through stress, diet, loss of sleep, and worry.

Change your environment physically and learn how to develop a life style that helps you heal emotionally, psychologically, spiritually and sexually.

These disorders respond best to a 'gentle life' that allows the body, mind, and spirit to rest from the overload of adrenaline and stress it has experienced in the pathological relationship.