Gossip in Your Workplace Probably Does More Good Than Harm
Gossip is a social skill, NOT a character flaw; it is essential to work life.
Posted Apr 25, 2015
Everyone “knows” that gossip in the workplace is a serious problem. I did a Google search of “workplace gossip” and quickly turned up the following stories:
- Ways to stop negative office gossip
- Creating gossip-free work zones
- The danger of workplace gossip
- How to deal with office gossip
- Gossip creates a toxic work environment
- What to do when you are the subject of office gossip.
Sam Chapman is the CEO of Empower Public Relations in Chicago, and he is one of the gurus on how to rid the workplace of gossip. In an interview on ABC’s Good Morning America, Chapman said: "I think gossip can be toxic and cleaning it up is an important mission." Chapman felt that gossip had completely destroyed the quality of life at his previous place of work, and he decided to find a way to eliminate it in his own company. After a shakedown period in which people were fired and all others had to sign an agreement to not gossip about their co-workers, Chapman believes that he has created a much healthier work environment, and he has described the experience in a book entitled The No Gossip Zone.
I am skeptical.
Is it Possible to Eliminate Workplace Gossip?
I am skeptical that such attempts actually create a better work environment, and I am even more skeptical that it is possible to make such a thing happen.
I am not naïve; Gossip can and does cause problems in the workplace when negative gossip gets out of control.
However, gossip is a more complicated and socially important phenomenon than we think, and a propensity for gossip, through the process of natural selection, has become an innate part of human nature.
When gossip is discussed seriously, the goal usually is to suppress its frequency in an attempt to avoid the undeniably harmful effects it can have in work groups and other social networks. However, although most gossip is not mean-spirited or spiteful, it is this nasty side of gossip that usually overshadows the more benign ways in which it functions in society.
The campaign to stamp out workplace gossip overlooks the fact that gossip is part of who we are and an essential part of what makes work groups function as well as they do. It will be more productive to think of gossip as a social skill rather than as a character flaw, because it is only when we do not do it well that we get into trouble. Sharing gossip with another person is a sign of deep trust, because you are signaling that you believe that this person will not use this sensitive information in a way that will have negative consequences for you, and shared secrets have a way of bonding people together.
An individual who is not part of the office gossip network is an outsider who is neither trusted nor accepted by the group. Hence, adopting the role of the self-righteous soul who refuses to participate in gossip will ultimately be self-defeating and it will end up being nothing more than a ticket to social isolation.
On the other hand, don't become that person who indiscriminately blabs everything he/she hears to anyone who will listen. This will quickly get you a reputation as an untrustworthy busybody. Successful gossiping is about being a good team player and sharing key information with others in ways that will not be perceived as self-serving and about understanding when to keep your mouth shut.
Can Workplace Gossip be Good?
There is a great deal of evidence that when it is controlled, gossip can indeed be a positive force in the life of a group. There are several ways in which a healthy gossip network benefits work organizations as well as the employees that make their lives there:
- Gossip helps to socialize newcomers into groups by resolving ambiguity about group norms and values. Listening to the judgments that people make about the behavior of others helps the newbie figure out what is acceptable and what is not.
- Gossip can deter “free-riders” and cheaters who might be tempted slack off and let others do their work for them. Knowing that our reputations are being monitored by others keeps us in line and forces us to do our part.
- Gossip keeps socially dominant group members in place and diffuses social power throughout the group.
- Harmless gossiping with one’s colleagues builds group cohesiveness and boosts morale, and this can lead to greater job satisfaction.
- Through the grapevine, management can disperse important information throughout the organization in situations where an “official” announcement would not be advantageous or allowed.
A number of studies have confirmed that people are less likely to disapprove of gossip if it is perceived to serve the interests of the group, as when a cheater is exposed who is undermining the effectiveness of the work group.
Researchers have discovered that gossip serves a beneficial social control function in groups as diverse as California cattle ranchers, Maine lobster fishermen, college rowing teams, and remote hunter/gatherer societies. In all of these groups, individuals who violated expectations about sharing resources and meeting responsibilities became frequent targets of gossip and ostracism, which applied pressure on them to become better citizens.
In short, gossip is never going to go away, and attempts to make that happen are doomed to fail. Recognizing that it serves important social functions while at the same time staying on our guard against its downsides can help us to maintain a healthy, cohesive working environment.
For Further Reading:
Baumeister, R. F., L. Zhang, L., & Vohs, K. D. (2004). Gossip as cultural learning. Review of General Psychology, 8, 111–121.
Boehm, C. (1999). Hierarchy in the Forest: The Evolution of Egalitarian Behavior. Cambridge, MA: Harvard University Press.
Chapman, S. (2009). The No-Gossip Zone. Naperville, IL: Sourcebooks, Inc.
Dunbar, R. (1996). Grooming, gossip, and the evolution of language. Cambridge, MA: Harvard University Press.
McAndrew, F. T. (2008). Can gossip be good? Scientific American Mind Magazine, October/November, 26-33.
McAndrew, F. T., Bell, E. K., & Garcia, C. M. (2007). Who do we tell, and whom do we tell on? Gossip as a strategy for status enhancement. Journal of Applied Social Psychology, 37, 1562-1577.
McAndrew, F.T., & Milenkovic, M.A. (2002) Of tabloids and family secrets: The evolutionary psychology of gossip. Journal of Applied Social Psychology, 32, 1064-1082.
Wert, S. R., and Salovey, P. (2004). A Social Comparison Account of Gossip. Review of General Psychology, 8, 122–137.