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Marc Muchnick Ph.D.

Want to Be Happier? Steer Clear of Toxic People

Surround yourself with people who bring out your best

I am frequently asked what the key is to getting rid of regret and finding greater happiness in life. Here are my thoughts on one way that is guaranteed to help:

Some people will squeeze the life out of you if you let them. They're the ones who are quick to criticize us and make callous remarks behind our backs. They thrive on pointing out our inadequacies and love to remind us of our flaws. They like to prey on us when we're most vulnerable and kick us when we're down. In addition, they relish the moments when we are vulnerable and take every opportunity to chip away at our self-esteem. Deep down, these are insecure, unhappy folks who have discovered they feel better about themselves when we feel worse. WARNING: steer clear of these toxic people - they reek of negativity and are poster children for regret.

If you want to be happier and have less regret in your life, stay as far away as possible from toxic people. Instead surround yourself with positive, supportive people who will encourage you and believe in you. These are individuals who tend to smile a lot, love to laugh at life, and are always there to cheer you on. They see your potential even when you're not showing it, and they look at every day as an opportunity for you to do something great. They are also the ones who boost your confidence when you're up against a challenge and who lift your spirits when you're down in the dumps or stuck in a rut. They are eternal optimists and die-hard advocates. They've got your back and will always be in your corner.

Hanging around toxic people is a recipe for regret. Get them out of your life and work on keeping positive people in it - you'll feel more energized, motivated, confident, inspired, happy, and alive. Steer clear of toxic people and put yourself in the presence of people who bring out your best.

Who are the toxic people in your life? How do you feel when you're around them?


About the Author

Marc Muchnick, Ph.D., is a psychologist on a mission to help people live life with no more regrets.