"Hector and the Search for Happiness" is the title of a new film directed by Peter Chelsom. Its point is that making happiness the goal doesn't work. Part of the problem is that in questing for happiness we flee from unhappiness. But real happiness is richness, encompassing the full spectrum of emotions.
That most powerful of engines of human development, the emotional attachment between parent and child, begins in the earliest days of infancy and endures well into adulthood. But so distorted has child-rearing become in the U.S. that the entire enterprise of attachment has been subverted. Take the case of "attachment parenting."
In a frequently funny new documentary called Kumaré, young American filmmamker Vikram Gandhi grows a beard, adds an accent and a mantra, sheds a lot of clothes, and transforms himself into an Eastern guru who gains a following in the western desert. Kumaré just might be the best-natured takedown of belief you'll ever see.
Happy Mothers Day! To all those folks who believe that good parenting is highly involved parenting, take the day off. Let your kids figure out how to manage themselves. You owe it to yourself. And especially to your kids.
I want to share with you a totally unsolicited letter I just received from a coach at an Ivy League university, one of many people now "on the front lines of dealing with overparented young people." It spotlights a terrible trend that affects all of us.