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When to Put Excellence Over Outcomes

Mitch Abblett Ph.D. on February 2, 2025

We’re taught to measure success by results—winning, achieving, proving ourselves. But real growth happens when we shift our focus from outcomes to how we show up.

We’re taught to measure success by results—winning, achieving, proving ourselves. But real growth happens when we shift our focus from outcomes to how we show up.

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Ease Off the "Mind Reading"

Mitch Abblett Ph.D. on August 27, 2024

Instead of zapping friends, family, and co-workers with unwanted mind-reading, flexible awareness helps you connect and co-create with others.

Instead of zapping friends, family, and co-workers with unwanted mind-reading, flexible awareness helps you connect and co-create with others.

Mindfulness
How to Kill Time

Mitch Abblett Ph.D. on July 26, 2024

Time is a tool useful in setting goals, sharing resources, and planning. But when we fixate on time (past and future) we aren't using it as a tool, we become the tool!

Time is a tool useful in setting goals, sharing resources, and planning. But when we fixate on time (past and future) we aren't using it as a tool, we become the tool!

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How to Put the Ideal Frame Around Others' Actions

Mitch Abblett Ph.D. on July 8, 2024

You've got them all wrong. By learning to shift your frame of others' off-putting behavior, you can lead relationship moments in more effective, connective directions.

You've got them all wrong. By learning to shift your frame of others' off-putting behavior, you can lead relationship moments in more effective, connective directions.

Mindfulness
Excavating Joy in Relationships

Mitch Abblett Ph.D. on June 14, 2024

No relationship is perfect overall. Most relationships have moments where joy can be cultivated through awareness and a willingness to respond rather than knee-jerk reactions.

No relationship is perfect overall. Most relationships have moments where joy can be cultivated through awareness and a willingness to respond rather than knee-jerk reactions.

Relationships
Stop Jolting People in Conversation

Mitch Abblett Ph.D. on June 1, 2024

We all have bad communication habits that spark less-than-ideal reactions in our relationships. Here's how to own and replace these defensiveness-poking habits.

We all have bad communication habits that spark less-than-ideal reactions in our relationships. Here's how to own and replace these defensiveness-poking habits.

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It's Not About You

Mitch Abblett Ph.D. on April 23, 2024

Instead of having an endless list of "pet peeves," what if you could learn to leave others' preferences alone and take ownership of your own reactions?

Instead of having an endless list of "pet peeves," what if you could learn to leave others' preferences alone and take ownership of your own reactions?

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The Scam of Life Balance

Mitch Abblett Ph.D. on March 20, 2024

A Personal Perspective: Reframing our expectations away from rigid concepts like "balance" can help us ease into what's more possible daily: the art of balancing.

A Personal Perspective: Reframing our expectations away from rigid concepts like "balance" can help us ease into what's more possible daily: the art of balancing.

Mindfulness
How to Manage Your Comparison-Prone Mind

Mitch Abblett Ph.D. on February 12, 2024

Instead of allowing the comparing your mind does to steal joy in daily life, how about channelling your comparing in beneficial ways?

Instead of allowing the comparing your mind does to steal joy in daily life, how about channelling your comparing in beneficial ways?

Career
The Antifragile Mindset of Next-Level Entrepreneurs

Mitch Abblett Ph.D. on January 22, 2024

Instead of cliches of bolstering resilience, entrepreneurs and those creating change can learn to engage the discomforts of innovation, becoming "antifragile" in the process.

Instead of cliches of bolstering resilience, entrepreneurs and those creating change can learn to engage the discomforts of innovation, becoming "antifragile" in the process.

Relationships
The Truth-Talking Express

Mitch Abblett Ph.D. on December 4, 2023

Instead of losing games of blame in your relationships, what if you could stop trying to win, and start connecting and creating by learning to speak the truth of the moment?

Instead of losing games of blame in your relationships, what if you could stop trying to win, and start connecting and creating by learning to speak the truth of the moment?

Relationships
Forget Fairness

Mitch Abblett Ph.D. on November 6, 2023

"It's not fair!" is not only a childhood rant. How might your rigid perceptions of unfairness in relationships benefit from a good loosening?

"It's not fair!" is not only a childhood rant. How might your rigid perceptions of unfairness in relationships benefit from a good loosening?

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