How to Double Down on Your Life
Find safe and sacred spaces to discover your passions.
Posted Feb 19, 2020
“Everyone has been made for some particular work and the desire for that work has been put in every heart.” ―Rumi, 13th Century Persian Poet
We all have "work" to do in this world as we are uniquely created with special gifts and talents. In my work as a psychotherapist, I have helped people through transitions in life. In some instances, people are plagued by emotional numbness and a sense of vocational futility working in careers that give them financial security yet strangle their emotional and spiritual authenticity.
Finding your true authentic purpose in life starts with taking inventory of both your strengths and skillset but also what makes you tick. How are you wired? What are the attributes that need to be accentuated and given space to flourish? What are your values? What do you think is the biggest impact you can make in this world? Do you even have time to meditate on your life's purpose or are you so consumed with life (job responsibilities, parenting duties, kids' activities) that just getting through the day feels like a victory?
There are also those who struggle with various addictions or compulsive activities that keep their original design from springing forth. And then there are some who are so consumed by entertainment (social media, movies, television, hobbies, sports), that their delight masks a painful void.
So how do you double down on a life worth living? Consider a time of solitude away from the daily distractions of text messages, news alerts, emails, and incessant notification chimes. Make this a consistent time that you can view as your own Sabbatical where you can get in touch with your thoughts, feelings, and the inner promptings of your spirit.
Finding a calling and sticking to it will not be easy. Once you know the path you should embark on, staying on it will take support as naysayers (including your own negative thoughts) will appear. You can also consider spending sacred time with a friend, group, pastor, or therapist to till the soil of your soul. Reading books or biographies related to the area of personal growth and passion can also be of value. A spiritual retreat or workshop may be in order. Prayer or meditation are also great options to channel deeper without the need to physically leave your present space.
For those who are from a culture or family background that dissuades abstract thoughts and glorifies tangible results, know that you are not alone. Artists or creative individuals have gifts that must be shared but are also vulnerable to feelings of inadequacy and worthlessness due to the nature of our capitalistic society which prizes money as the sole barometer of success. Do not let the lies of others around you (or those from within) steer you away from your commitment to yourself.
Double down on your life. Take the risk and trust yourself. Not only do you deserve it, but the world deserves to know and experience the real you.