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Candid Conversations on Race, Culture, and Therapy
Sam Louie MA, LMHC
When you think about Italian-made products, what comes to mind? Is it the romantic image of a cobbler or artisan from Italy giving the "Made in Italy" brand such panache?
We often talk about addiction in terms of disease, chemical or neurological imbalances but another truth lies in how the lack of emotional intimacy impacts addictions.
Why is this "Incel" Revolution growing in this day and age? Well, this is shaming at its core (sexual, social, recreational, and sometimes racial) which creates a perfect storm.
What is an "Involuntary Celibate" and how is that different from others who struggle with romance? Part of the issue is the sense of lacking control hence the term "involuntary."
How often do you make your bed if you're an addict? Have you ever considered making your bed as a part of recovery? Sounds too outrageous to link the two? Think again.
America is often touted as, "The land of opportunity" but few truly understand that for immigrant families assimilating into a Western way of living is traumatic in its own right..
Have you ever considered how much work you put in to hide behind your self-made "mask"? In other words, how much of the real you do you suppress and keep others from knowing?
How far do you have to go to get praise from an Asian parent? For figure skater Mirai Nagasu, it wasn't until she landed a triple axel in the Olympics.
Do you find your partner's emojis to others too flirty or just too much with someone else? If so, your romantic relationship could be victim to "micro-cheating".
If you're recovery from an addiction be it drugs, alcohol, sex, or gambling, what does it mean when you have dreams related to your drug of choice? From my work with addiction...
With the sudden ouster of 'Today Show' anchor Matt Lauer, many are wondering why other women didn't complain to HR sooner.
The Harvey Weinstein sexual scandal is a very public reminder of a very private and shameful experience for victims of sexual abuse/harassment. But this abuse happens everywhere.
Asian shame can impact perfectionism. Whether it's the drive to succeed academically, vocationally, or relationally...the deeper fear with Asian perfectionism is being rejected...
What does it mean when you're in a sexless marriage or relationship? Is something wrong with the relationship and is there any hope?
There's a growing subculture of men who identify themselves as "incels" (i.e. involuntary celibates) and they are expressing their frustrations online.
There's not much public space for adults of sexual harassment to feel safe, since adults are supposed to know right from wrong and have the language to say no. But I can tell you..
In the past three decades, Asian countries have seen a surge in eating disorders coinciding with exposure to western standards of beauty. Asian culture also plays a role.
If you're an Asian, Christian, sex addict, is there a difference in your issues compared to other addicts? I would say definitely so since there are three distinct parts.
Asian men rank lowest in terms of online desirability and part of the problem is...
"Aren't we all artists?" was the response I received when I asked a Parisian shop owner if he was an artist or if he just sold art. This experience redefined how I saw "artists".
Traveling abroad has reminded me of how much the rest of the world has no concept of Americans of Asian descent.
In today's political climate, the question of, "What is American?" is being challenged by those who find immigrants and people of color not fitting into their image of "American"..
We've heard of African-Americans being racially targeted while driving, a.k.a. "driving while black," but few are aware of another kind of bias.
Do you feel warmly or coldly towards white people? How about Black people? Foreigners? Muslims? Christians? As you can see, there will always be those we feel more comfortable.
What do you do if you're not ready for therapy but need "action steps" to help you with sex addiction recovery? This recovery "packet of information" can be a great start...
Whippings, lynchings, and killings of African-Americans are outlawed in this country but white NFL owners are showing us how they can operate like 19th century plantation "masters"
Having candid conversations about race is very difficult as Caucasians may equate bias as being racist. As an Asian-American I can admit to having bias but the difference is....
Have you ever experienced the transformational power of nature? If so, imagine how nature can act as the backdrop to healing, inspiration, and transformation when combined with...
"Get out of my country!" is a common fear and statement Asian, Arab, and Hispanic minorities confront time and time again in their lifetimes. And sometimes it can lead to tragedy.
My countries of origin and naturalization aren’t even on the blacklist. I’m not even Muslim. But to exclude immigrants and non-citizens is to exclude me and to exclude people like
Sam Louie is a therapist in Seattle who specializes in multicultural issues and sexual addiction.